Lostinlovexx Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 I broke up with my girlfriend in a drunken jealous rage, was mean to her, and didn't even remember it the next day. She did nothing wrong but some innocent flirting. We weren't back together, but still acting as a couple. I stupidly pushed her to make a decision over us, and she's so confused, she wants us to be friends, for now. She's approaching a year since losing her mom, and surpassed grief is hitting her now. I've been her rock, and her mine too. I went NC, and she kept texting saying life is weird without you, I miss you so much etc. She questions what I'm doing, if I've met someone etc. In a knee jerk reaction I've booked a 2 week trip away. I'm not deluded, but really don't feel it's over. I feel she's hurt and angry, mixed up with grief and I really hurt for her. I'm hoping 2 weeks away, and NC should definitely help. My jealousy is from A result of my ex cheating on me, and I've put 2 and 2 together and realised this, and know it will not be an issue whatsoever anymore. I've been bettering myself, and following the usual advice. We did split before (over jealous) but I did NC, wasn't available, and she came running back until I got jealous and stupid again. What can I do, or is NC just going to be the best? I know she's hurt and needs time, and she's hurt I seem to be moving on (I'm not). She tells me she cries all day, everyday.
PegNosePete Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Why would you want to have a cheating ex back in your life? If I were you I would NC her and move on. You do not need to be "friends" with a cheating ex.
Author Lostinlovexx Posted November 4, 2015 Author Posted November 4, 2015 Apologies, my previous girlfriend to this one cheated, when our daughter was 7 months old, and she chose to tell me the day I lost my hero, my grandfather. Wicked evil girl. My love now would never ever cheat, but I carried the damage into this relationship, and have finally realised it.
PegNosePete Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Ah right. So tell her how you feel. Tell her how you've realized your mistake and learned from your experiences. Tell her you would like to try again. Anything that is not a "yes", is a "no". If it's a "no" then you have to accept that. If she asks to stay friends then say you don't feel you can do that because you still have feelings for her.
Author Lostinlovexx Posted November 4, 2015 Author Posted November 4, 2015 I did some begging at first, but for now she's hurting. It's a real tough time for her, and grieving. It was the worst thing for her to watch her healthy mom deteriorate and pass away, over 6 months. I don't think i should be selfish and project us on her, she doesn't need any extra stress. I need to be very subtle. She hasn't changed her relationship to single on social media, and hasn't told her friends we've split. This makes me think it's not over.
PegNosePete Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Well you can either sit there analyzing details and reading things into her actions that may or may not be there. Or you can have an adult conversation with her. Up to you...
Author Lostinlovexx Posted November 4, 2015 Author Posted November 4, 2015 It's just the added stress I don't want her to have right now. She's so upset all the time approaching this anniversary. This is a little different than a usual girl dumps guy, guys want her back scenario
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