Tressugar Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 What did I do? I went on a fabulous date last Friday and Saturday with the same gentleman. He is younger than me but, he seemed to be okay with it. He said that he had a fabulous time as well...he even sent me kissy faces at the end of our last date. But now he has suddenly turned cold toward me. I've been reading about astrology lately. He is a cancer and read that cancer men are very moody and they tend to disappear a lot. He stopped texting me, stop accepting my phone calls and the last text message he'd sent to me he said that he did not want to ignore me but that's exactly what he's doing. What do you think went wrong?
BLND Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Ya cancer men are exactly like that. But most likely he wasn't that interested. What sign are you?
d0nnivain Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 It has absolutely nothing to do with his sign. It's also improbable that you did something. The number of possibilities about why he went cold are infinite. Off the top of my head they include: 1. he's a flake 2. there's another woman 3. he has the flu 4. he has to work 5. he's playing hard to get 6. there's a family crisis 7. he lost his phone 8. he was involved in an accident Honestly you can't know & you may never know. Don't take it personally. Although you got hurt / rejected in the process, it was probably not you. 2
Author Tressugar Posted November 4, 2015 Author Posted November 4, 2015 Thank you for your responses. I doubt it's another woman involved because he's still on the website checking his emails everyday so that tells me that he's still on the hunt. He is definitely interested in me by telling me that he's really into me. I can tell when a guy is interested in me. What I'm going to do is give him his space even though he has not asked me to do so, but I feel the need to since his friend recently just passed.
hippychick3 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Interested men don't stop texting and calling and certainly don't fail to respond to calls. There is no point in mulling over his astrological sign and motives for his lack of interest. You had 2 dates...not worth getting this invested. Move on. 3
ExpatInItaly Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 He's met someone else he's more interested in, hence him still checking out his online profile. And someone who is really interested in you doesn't disappear and ignore you. It doesn't work that way. His zodiac sign is irrelevant. 2
Glitters Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 He is interested in you AND others. He got you. Now its the others turn.You will hear from him soon though when he has to go MIA on the other. Nothing could be truer: Interested men dont disappear.They are afraid that you might !
BLND Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Actually signs do matter a lot. Some signs are better and easier than others that's just the truth. As a cancer myself, I could have an amazing first date with someone and be totally into them right then and there, then i go home and think about the date and there'll be something they have done or said that completely annoys me. After that, there will be no second date. I don't reject the guy in a harsh manner, but I don't see him again that's for sure.
kendahke Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 since his friend recently just passed. It's this more than likely. 3
d0nnivain Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 What I'm going to do is give him his space even though he has not asked me to do so, but I feel the need to since his friend recently just passed. Why didn't you mention his friend's death in the beginning? That is EXACTLY why he backed off. His world just got turned upside down. Some woman he went on 1-2 dates with doesn't even factor into the equation. Send him a snail mail condolence card & try to be sympathetic for his loss. 1
MoreAmore Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 What did I do? I went on a fabulous date last Friday and Saturday with the same gentleman. He is younger than me but, he seemed to be okay with it. He said that he had a fabulous time as well...he even sent me kissy faces at the end of our last date. But now he has suddenly turned cold toward me. I've been reading about astrology lately. He is a cancer and read that cancer men are very moody and they tend to disappear a lot. He stopped texting me, stop accepting my phone calls and the last text message he'd sent to me he said that he did not want to ignore me but that's exactly what he's doing. What do you think went wrong? Astrology is not real. Star sign doesn't matter. So you can cross that off your list. Iwould need to know more about what actually happened to say anything. 1
kendahke Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 He may have feeling of guilt because he was able to have a good time with you and have his mind taken off his sorrow, but those feelings just waited on him to not be distracted to land and do their job. I agree--give him space. If things went as well as you say they did, then once he's done with this round of the grief cycle, he'll probably call/text you.
Versacehottie Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Star signs are fun and entertainment. But if I were you, I wouldn't make my dating decisions and conclusions based on them. Evaluate the person in front of you and his actions.
Author Tressugar Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 My date from Saturday contacted me today. He was a little rude. After I asked him why is he being so curt with me. He said that he's f'ing w/ me. Whatever that means. So I stopped texting him
joseb Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Astrology is not real. Star sign doesn't matter. So you can cross that off your list. Iwould need to know more about what actually happened to say anything. Honestly, I can't believe in 2015 grown adults are making decisions based on this nonsense. There are a million reasons (most likely the recent bereavement, or other options he wants to pursue) but a star sign ain't one. 3
Zippy2000 Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Thank you for your responses. I doubt it's another woman involved because he's still on the website checking his emails everyday so that tells me that he's still on the hunt. Has everyone missed this post!? It tells us hes not interested in you because he is still on the hunt and back on the dating site. 2
Lois_Griffin Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Actually signs do matter a lot. Some signs are better and easier than others that's just the truth. No, that's YOUR truth. My truth is that it's utter nonsense. According to my 'sign,' I'm supposed to be flighty and a free spirit and the type to backpack through a foreign country impulsively at the drop of a hat and go wherever the wind takes me - and I couldn't be any LESS like that if I tried. OP, if you want to blame his 'sign' for him acting like the typical online dating dink who is always searching for the "Bigger Better Deal," then go ahead. He's not unique in any way - lots of online daters do this, and they aren't all Cancers. Kind of blows that theory. 1
Lois_Griffin Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 What I'm going to do is give him his space even though he has not asked me to do so, but I feel the need to since his friend recently just passed. You know, I'd give the guy a 'pass' for blowing you off because he's supposedly grieving his friend who just died - if he weren't still checking in on the dating site every day. But since he IS, I'll assume he's not THAT crushed about it. Call a spade a spade. Jeez.
clam Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 My date from Saturday contacted me today. He was a little rude. After I asked him why is he being so curt with me. He said that he's f'ing w/ me. Whatever that means. So I stopped texting him Well, there you have it. Turns out he's a flake after all.
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