oregon0011 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 And then the answer was "top 25 percent"??? Like what are we talking here? Hundreds? That would bother me too. I mean did she want to hurt you? I mean honesty is not always good and this should be common sense. It's like if my gf asks me "what do you think of my body"? I would say "I love it. It's amazing" Or I could get a marker and be like. "Ok a bit of cellulite here. Boobs could be bigger. Ass a little small. You should do more sit-ups. Feet a little big. Calves too small. Just being honest!!"
Glitters Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Because A) Best sex is often not someone who is relationship material B) He dumped her C) He moved away, left town etc. I was being sarcastic. OP's issue is baseless.
Author LoveRefreshed Posted November 4, 2015 Author Posted November 4, 2015 THANK YOU!! I was just going to post the exact same thing! This line of questioning is the equivalent to a woman asking her boyfriend if she looks fat in her dress. Any smart man knows the real answer to that question Oi vey OP, you're 30 and well entrenched in adulthood. NEVER ask a question you're not absolutely certain you can handle the honest answer. I thought I was but I never truly know how I'll react. I'm totally guarded and easily shut people out. It's not that she hurt my feelings, it made me want to close myself off just to be sure she won't be able to hurt me. I need to be the persons most amazing love to pursue something serious with.. otherwise it's settle city and resentment. Anyway thanks everyone for the bitch slap to the face. I realize that sex isn't what makes things the most amazing. While I desire great sex, I realize that it's only a part of the puzzle as many of you have said. I just don't let myself get too attached.. I always want control of my emotions and never want to be more vulnerable than the girl. Also who ever eas wondering about numbers, she has 25 but was in a swinger/open relationship with her ex husband for 10 years. I've been with 12 women but most were one time things or a short fling. Numbers don't matter to me. Bring the greatest love does.
loveweary11 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 May I also add that none of this matters because all sexual partners can be trained?
kismetkismet Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 ^^^ that is my point as well! Just because you're not the best now doesn't mean it's not going to improve. It's a process you need to communicate about, work on, and develop skills. Make it a fun activity. Like a sport, but instead of 'winning' you get orgasms.
hippychick3 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Also who ever eas wondering about numbers, she has 25 but was in a swinger/open relationship with her ex husband for 10 years. I've been with 12 women but most were one time things or a short fling. Numbers don't matter to me. Bring the greatest love does. It's good to know that one can be the greatest love without being the greatest sex (as long as the sex is still great). 1
Author LoveRefreshed Posted November 4, 2015 Author Posted November 4, 2015 I know. I think what I really want is to be the greatest love of the person I am with and maybe I confuse that with greatest sex... Or I, in part, think that is what it takes to be the best love. Either way, the feeling of insecurity passed and it was good to hear all your thoughts on it as well. Thanks! 3
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