Redhead14 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 It doesn't matter what we think our level of dateability is . . . it only matters what someone else thinks/wants. You can change your looks (hair, lose weight, contacts,etc), get a different job, a better car. In the end, you may get more dates because they are attracted to those things, but you will then never know who would have come along who liked/wanted you just the way you were . . . which would be the perfect match. 1
No Limit Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 (edited) Looks; 7 - my body might be a 10 but my face has a single flaw (thankfully it'll be fixed soon) Personality; I'm as versatile as a human being can be, but I've noticed that people without a reasonable amount of intelligence believed I was arrogant (without ever having talked to me, but oh well) - so I'll put that at 9. Lifestyle; 10, for my age. No baggage, got an apartment, healthy and full of energy. Once I have my driver's license and car nothing can stop me. Edited November 4, 2015 by No Limit
LoveRefreshed Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 12 out of 10. Funny, handsome, witty, incredibly intelligent. Physically active, Ph.D. and charming. Emotionally unavailable (gets me the bonus 2 points. Girls want what they can't have).
PrettyEmily77 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 I said I dated people who are 10's to me and who make me feel the same. That doesn't mean that on your scale they or I are 10's. It's silly to think we would all agree on what makes someone a 10 or a 1 or any number in between. Almost as silly as me thinking I can objectively assign a number to myself. I am far too nuanced. And even though no one is perfect, someone can be perfect for me, and that's all that matters to me. Agreed. My BF is a 10 to me across the board, and he seems to think I'm a 10 to him. Don't really care whether I actually am or not, what he thinks is all that matters to me.
GunslingerRoland Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 If I was single, I'd be about a 6. I'm shy, reserved, not an alpha male personality. But I'm also loyal, humorous, kind, polite and intelligent. Looks wise, I've got a few extra pounds right now, and I don't have perfect features, but I'm fairly tall, have a full head of hair, and look younger than my age I have a steady, decent earning career. Never get rich at it, but it's still more than most make. I guess if I was single, I'd be a single date of two kids, one with special needs which would bump me down a bit. All in all, it's a good thing I'm not single I guess. 1
hippychick3 Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 Hmmm, aside from not currently being single or dateable.... Face - 9, Body - 8 ish Intelligence - 9 or 10 Personality/other stuff - anywhere from a 1-10 depending on traits. I'm honest, loyal, very sweet, and generous. I'm not crazy, but I tend to overreact and assume wrongly often due to my own resolved baggage. I have a LOT of pride and when I'm upset or hurt, I will not talk to you at all. I like to be chased after and can be too passive to the point that I sometimes give the impression I don't care even when I do. I have a hard time balancing that. I think the relationship I have now works so well because he has a strong and confident personality, is willing to chase after me, likes to initiate/plan, and appreciates my good points enough to look over my negative points (which is true for any successful relationship). My boyfriend would say 9-10. Other guys I've dated may say much less. It is so subjective. Overall I would say 6.
Phoe Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 OMG - now what? (I am out of Phoe's loop - having just done a search when seeing one of your responses to an old thread) Health problems, been fairly sick since July. I am 100% focused on that, have no mental energy to put into dating, and have no desire to try. Just wanna take care of me Therefore, I am undateable!
Author barbossa Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 I said I dated people who are 10's to me and who make me feel the same. That doesn't mean that on your scale they or I are 10's. It's silly to think we would all agree on what makes someone a 10 or a 1 or any number in between. Almost as silly as me thinking I can objectively assign a number to myself. I am far too nuanced. And even though no one is perfect, someone can be perfect for me, and that's all that matters to me. we will see how low they grade you or you them isssh changes after a break up
Author barbossa Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 Hmmm, aside from not currently being single or dateable.... Face - 9, Body - 8 ish Intelligence - 9 or 10 Personality/other stuff - anywhere from a 1-10 depending on traits. I'm honest, loyal, very sweet, and generous. I'm not crazy, but I tend to overreact and assume wrongly often due to my own resolved baggage. I have a LOT of pride and when I'm upset or hurt, I will not talk to you at all. I like to be chased after and can be too passive to the point that I sometimes give the impression I don't care even when I do. I have a hard time balancing that. I think the relationship I have now works so well because he has a strong and confident personality, is willing to chase after me, likes to initiate/plan, and appreciates my good points enough to look over my negative points (which is true for any successful relationship). My boyfriend would say 9-10. Other guys I've dated may say much less. It is so subjective. Overall I would say 6. i have a masters from great school still say my intelligence is average like a 6
hippychick3 Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 i have a masters from great school still say my intelligence is average like a 6 And I have at least that in regards to education. Are you challenging my self-ratings? Lol For clarification purposes, my definition of "10" means very high, not perfect. If you're defining a 10 as perfection, no one would be a 10...or even a 9.
fitnessfan365 Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Interesting how many looks wise break downs there are. When I see the word "dateable", I immediately think of personality traits that make dating/relationships enjoyable. On a day to day basis, looks have no bearing on the type of person someone is or how enjoyable their company is. Even sexual skills aren't looks based. Physical attraction draws you in initially. Plus, staying fit/healthy is great for overall well being and confidence. But what makes you "dateable" IMO are the qualities that make a person want to spend time with you.
Author barbossa Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 Interesting how many looks wise break downs there are. When I see the word "dateable", I immediately think of personality traits that make dating/relationships enjoyable. On a day to day basis, looks have no bearing on the type of person someone is or how enjoyable their company is. Even sexual skills aren't looks based. Physical attraction draws you in initially. Plus, staying fit/healthy is great for overall well being and confidence. But what makes you "dateable" IMO are the qualities that make a person want to spend time with you. well when i was younger and i am sure others want the trophy guy or girl. in my younger days i put up with crap cuz the girl was a real looker. never a 9 or 10 though imo opinion if a person is 8+ on both it should damn easy to date and always be in demand.
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Looks: I'd say about a 7. If you like my style I'm pretty hot I guess. Black hair, bangs (kinda like Thurman in Pulp Fiction), I'm 5ft 9 and slim, I'm fairly heavily tattooed and have a handful of piercings. If you're into the Rock/metal kinda look then I get a lot of attention in that arena. If you like more trendy/blonde hair blue eyes kinda fashion conscious girls then I would do absolutely nothing for you. I dress well however, in regular clothing, I'm not always in black or leathers or anything like that, but my black hair, pale skin and blue eyes and tattoos tend to make people guess my music taste without me even mentioning it. Personality: 6 I think. I'm committed, passionate, enthusiastic, loyal, I have integrity both in how I treat others and within romantic relationships. I am also very confident and a decent musician. On the flip side though I've had a lot of personal past issues some would fairly view as baggage. Due to past bereavements, family problems and the occasional break up I suffer from abandonment issues and I'm hard to get close to in some ways. At least I'm interesting! Another downside is I have high expectations in some respects, I'm not very easy going, pretty highly strung and can be stubborn. I expect a lot from people I have friendships and relationships to as I expect to hold them to the same standards I hold myself. Some people think I'm too full on. Lifestyle: 9. I have a great professional job I can easily support myself on, useful qualifications and a post graduate education, I volunteer and have done for years, have a brilliant group of friends, some hobbies I really enjoy but although I am busy there is still space for a guy and I manage to make time to date and for a partner. I knocked a point off cos although I have a great father the rest of my family are abusive, or dead. So if a guy is looking for a girl with a loving close family whose parents are still together and so forth, that ain't me.
empresario Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Dateable? At least a 9. At least. I can get started dating anyone I choose. Keeper? Hell naw. Probably a 2 in that respect. I don't want kids I like to travel and not sit in one place I don't like standard jobs/careers I'm a minimalist I like living off grid I apparently have fetish issues as discovered in another thread This isn't what most women want. I have am hunting for unicorns. I end up like the guy with the chess avatar. A hookup. the friend with benefits... or the guy that left town (why don't they just come with me??) Welcome back, bud. I think you're a keeper. I'd hit that .
TunaCat Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 -Looks-wise- maybe a 2. If I put on makeup, I can probably bring it up to a 4. I'm just not attractive no matter what I do. -Personality-wise- Probably an 8. I have a really great personality, but I am also stubborn and have a bit of a short temper (working on that) But I am a loyal woman. I'm committed, passionate, adventurous. I do have some abandonment issues that have been 95% dealt with, but low self worth shows up occasionally. Lifestyle-wise-Probably a 7-I am a freelance writer, good with money. I volunteer at an animal shelter as much as I can.I have close relationships with my mother's side of the family (Things are strained with my father's side of the family) I don't really have any friends, which sucks but it's not the end of the world. I do have life threatening health problems which is my reason for still living at home.
mineral27 Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 I'm too independent now, too self sufficient, and I hear that's a major boner killer. Guys want to feel needed. I don't need a guy. I do everything for myself. I have too much going on in my life. A full time career. A full time volunteer position. Friends, travel plans, family. I've been on dates, and then it's like out of sight, out of mind. I could go days without seeing or speaking to the guy I'm dating. Same here
kilgore Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Objectively, someone who can get a girlfriend with no effort is a 10. The average guy is a 5. A guy who's never had a girlfriend is a 0. Wouldn't zero mean he couldn't get one?
Mrin Posted November 9, 2015 Posted November 9, 2015 What a peculiar thread. Made me think for a bit. I'm not datable nor ever plan on being datable again but if/when I were, this is what I'd rate me: NOTE: I'm 44 and would only date women 34-46ish who have already already had children and don't want any more. Looks: 8 Baggage: 8 - 2 daughters, friendly ex, no debt Personality: 9, as long as your are an extrovert. Introverts need not apply... I am pretty sure I am exhausting to an introvert Lifestyle: 1 or a 10, depending on the woman. I run my own companies. I live half my life in great house in a fantastic resort town high in the Rocky Mountains. The other half I can live anywhere else as long as it has internet, cell service and an airport. For some, this makes my lifestyle amazingly attractive. For others, an absolute deal killer. So there you have it. My girlfriend says I am a 43 on a scale of 1 - 10. Damn I love that woman!
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