crazybestie101 Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 We don't talk much. i really like this guy so i don't want to come off as desperate or stalkrish. I would rather let flow it slowly but naturally. Also, its unclear if he actually likes me, so don't want to put him in awkward situation.. Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 Well, it really depends on how bold you are. I would but I can be pretty forward. If he likes you - hey you opened the door. If he doesn't, and ignores your request, well then you know! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lilmissjava Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 Well, it really depends on how bold you are. I would but I can be pretty forward. If he likes you - hey you opened the door. If he doesn't, and ignores your request, well then you know! This^^. Just be yourself, and not Facebook fake. Be real as much as you are in real life. If he notices, it's a plus for you. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 I wouldn't. I'd consider it creepy if someone I didn't know like that did this to me. Link to post Share on other sites
seekingluck Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 I added mine after we started talking in a more "friendly way." We work(ed) together and he is long distance. Oddly, he hasn't accepted my LinkedIn request! He accepted, and when we talks encourages me to look at his Facebook for stuff. I think he is in full support of me stalking him. It depends on how connected you are. In my case we had mutual friends, and it made sense! Link to post Share on other sites
GunslingerRoland Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 It sounds like you are at least acquaintances, I think that is fair game for adding someone on Facebook without appearing creepy. Link to post Share on other sites
Confusedovo Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 I don't see it as stalkerish. I think if you are acquaintances its fine. Many people add each other on fb without knowing each other that well. It's quite a good way of opening the door. I just wouldn't go over the top with liking /comments. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
thecrucible Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 Do you have common acquaintances? Maybe send a message and explain this connection and just say you want to add him and get to know him. It worked for me - even got a date out of it. The date never went anywhere but it gives me the confidence to do that again at some point haha. So yeah I think it's fine if you have talked to him in person and have mutual acquaintances. If you haven't talked to him yet, then try and find a way to get to know him a little first. Link to post Share on other sites
thecrucible Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 P.S. make up something plausible like "Hey I just came across you in my 'people you may know list'. I think I remember you from insert place here. Mind if I add you?" Link to post Share on other sites
empresario Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 We don't talk much. i really like this guy so i don't want to come off as desperate or stalkrish. I would rather let flow it slowly but naturally. Also, its unclear if he actually likes me, so don't want to put him in awkward situation.. This is why I really hate social media. At least in the AIM/MSN world we had to talk to someone to get to know them instead of stalking them online, haha. FB is so casual these days I doubt he would think twice if you added him. As long as you know him somewhat. It's not odd for someone to add me a day after talking to me for the first time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Missedsignals Posted November 3, 2015 Share Posted November 3, 2015 I add people I have met at parties or events after meeting. Wouldn't think twice about accepting if I know you. If your name doesn't ring a bell but we have common friends I would add too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author crazybestie101 Posted November 4, 2015 Author Share Posted November 4, 2015 P.S. make up something plausible like "Hey I just came across you in my 'people you may know list'. I think I remember you from insert place here. Mind if I add you?" Actually i never looked him up since i didnt know his last name but all of sudden i typed first 2 letters of his name and he was first in search list. I am guessing he has been stalking me hard.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author crazybestie101 Posted November 4, 2015 Author Share Posted November 4, 2015 This is why I really hate social media. At least in the AIM/MSN world we had to talk to someone to get to know them instead of stalking them online, haha. FB is so casual these days I doubt he would think twice if you added him. As long as you know him somewhat. It's not odd for someone to add me a day after talking to me for the first time. We meet once a week when he is at work and we talk there. So i am not total stranger to him. He also knows i am interested in him. And i didnt do stalking until now. Few months back i tried to look him up but i couldnt as i didnt know his last name. Now out of no where yesterday i types first two letter of his name and he was first in my list. I guess he has been stalking me hard, no wonder why would he pop up first in my list. Link to post Share on other sites
Author crazybestie101 Posted November 4, 2015 Author Share Posted November 4, 2015 I wouldn't. I'd consider it creepy if someone I didn't know like that did this to me. We meet once a week at his work, so i am not complete stranger to him. Link to post Share on other sites
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