Basil91 Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Hey all, I dont know why i am posting here, I guess I'm desperate for some insights hoping it could help me. I met this guy one and half years ago. At first i didnt like him that much but over a period of time things changed. We became really good friends and after 6 months he asked me out. I was never sure about dating but he convinced me and we were so good together. He told me he love me and i fell in love with him too. Everything was great, he was head over heels for me, promised me the world, said all the right things. Fast forward 5 months we started having lil fights and he brokeup with me on a text! No reason given but the same old its not you, its me. I tried talking to him as to what happened and he said we 're fighting too much but we never had a serious fight. Later he said his family wont accept me and i tried to convince him lets give us a chance and we will figure something out. He didnt, he brokeup with me! After that i was a mess i loved him with all my heart and for me he was the guy who said things like he love me as much as romeo loved juliet or i'm like his opium. I begged, cried and pleaded for days but he acted as if i was never anything to him. When he brokeup with me he said that he doesnt wana lose me and want for me to be his friend. I agreed but after a week or two he said we should stop talking completely, he avoided me like anything. So after some time i stopped texting him and that's when he started texting me. We talked as friends once or twice a week. Fast forward 3 months he asked if i wana patch up? I said yes and we were back again but this time he was different. This was not the guy who were in love with me and we had some fights because of this. One day he told me he can be with me till he marries someone else because he cant go against his family. We talked and finally he agreed that if everything goes well between us he will try talking to his parents about me. Few days later he said he doesnt love me anymore but likes me alot. I was shattered, i kept asking him how can he say that. Now he treats me like a doormat, I talked to him about it but the way he talks to me is so hurtful. He asked for a month and said he will fall in love again. I agreed. Then this happened his bday is coming and i wanted to do something for him, I asked him for his pics with his family and he bluntly said no! I was shocked, he never shared anything about his family with me and i never really thought about it. But yesterday we had a big fight over this he said he cant share about his family with me and i was hurt. I gave him options of parting ways or share stuff, he said he'd rather part ways. But if i listen to what he says and dont ask about his family then we will be fine. Atm we are together but i feel like ****, i have no idea what to do. I love him so much that i dont wana breakup. He doesnt wana talk atm, im falling apart thinking how its so easy for him to leave me and here i am crying over that guy.
sandylee1 Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 You are setting yourself up for heartbreak. He's using you for an emotional /physical relationship until he finds a suitable person to marry. Don't ever let a guy use you like this. You should feel insulted that he wants to use you like this. You shouldn't want to be with him if he can't or won't stand up to his family....and why should you be put on a test while they judge you. Please end this relationship and don't contact him again. You'll never be more to him than a girl to pass time with. Block his number and find stuff to occupy your time so you don't have much opportunity to think about him. Is he from a different race or religion? You deserve better. .you'll only get it if you believe it.
Author Basil91 Posted November 3, 2015 Author Posted November 3, 2015 Is he from a different race or religion? Yeah he is from a different religion as well as race. Im an atheist and he is a muslim. Irony is that i agreed to accepted even his religion but he still cant treat me well
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