Loveislife Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Hey guys, I definitely need you input on this one. So here it goes! My Ex boyfriend and I just got out of a 4 year relationship due to poor communication and me holding on to things he’s done in the past for lack of better words! We broke up in late April he has already moved on with someone else which started in May. They have already told each other they love one another. They’re madly in love and he says he wishes to marry her one day. In June he contacted me to get back together with him and I declined. I was still hurt and told him I wanted time to heal. So we should work on our friendship for now! I guess thats not what he wanted to hear! So he went back to his “rebound”! He recently contacted me in August spilling their problems out to me saying he was going to get his life together. What we had was great but we didn’t mix! And he was only with her to get over me. He wanted his family back. And he doesn’t know why he was with her. Maybe because of her looks and body! But she was a younger girl, who worked at his job. That doesn’t have anything going for herself. That he felt sorry for her because of her situation. So he basically moved her in with him into his apartment. Told me he treated her like a queen the way he should have been treating me! Also that he’s been treating me disrespectfully because of her! I let him vent about his whole situation. Giving him the best advice I could, by saying he needed to get his life together first and focus on himself allow time for himself to heal etc. A couple of days later, I kind of fail for his bull and my feeling starting poring in! I wanted him back or I had “False hope” that maybe we could works things out. Mind you we have our only son together, which we had in January of this year. I deeply wanted my family back together. So after a couple of days I seen on his social media page! That they’re back together and saying I love you to each other. I’m not sure if he’s genuinely happy but I do know he is happy. After I saw the post I told him I wished him the best with his friend and he said thank you. We’re always arguing about non sense! And when we argue he says, “get it through your head, we’re done and we’re done for good”! But I’ve never once said I wanted him back I just hope for something in the future!! All I’ve wanted was a friendship for our son. Which he says, We don’t need to be friends”! Now Up until a couple of days ago when he apologized on her behalf because she reached out to me via Twitter asking to meet me! After he apologize for her over stepping he told me he wanted me to meet her. Which I told him in early June I wanted to meet her since he was constantly bringing her around our baby son when they first got together! It feels like he’s trying to make things convenient for her??? And I don’t want to meet her if she’s not going to be permanently in his life, because that would be a waste of my time. Even though she is constantly around my son whenever he goes over his house. He has no consideration for my feeling or doesn’t care at all now! So now I’m at a place where I’m confused and I’m not sure how to get back to the place I was when I kind of made peace with not getting back with him??? What do you guys suggest!????
d0nnivain Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 His behavior these last few months tells me you are better off without him. The minute the new person reaches out for the EX, that's too much drama & nonsense for me. You should not have any info about his new relationship. For him to spill their problems to you makes him a cad at best. Why would you want to date a man who has no concept of discretion?
ExpatInItaly Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Yikes, he's a mess. He's playing both you and his girlfriend. Cut all contact with him except for matter pertaining to your child. See a lawyer about your child's rights and organize a visitation schedule, if you haven't already done so. Look, he's an immature tool but he's right on one count - you don't need to be friends. You need to be civil and respectful for your child's sake. In an ideal world, all parents would get along and be happy together but this guy is taking advantage of your kindness. It's only going to hurt you more to see them together and for him to keep playing these games. No more. Delete him and her from social media. Tell him to contact you only about your baby.
hopelessromantic24 Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 I say if you really like him just go with him after he for sure broke up with her and isn't going back. Otherwise, leave it. Say what you want and take it from there.
mightycpa Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 I'd start taking The Pill and dating other men if I were you.
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