OliviaOCD Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Long time lurker here guys, first time poster. This forum and all of your wise words have been a source of strength for me since my break up. It's crazy to think that I never even knew that forums like this existed before now. After having been dumped for the first time (always done the dumping previously), I never had experienced the rollercoaster of emotions that accompany the whole situation. Unfortunately I came rather late to the NC party, much to my regret. And as per usual, made ALL of the mistakes possible. After having made it to a record 17 days NC after breaking up 8 weeks ago, a few too many champagnes got the best of me and I sent the ol' "I miss you" message. Effing idiot. I'm sure that some of you clicked on this thread with the hopes that the "happy ending" I described in my title would be a reply along the lines of "I miss you too baby. Let's never be apart again. I love you so much" etc etc. Well.......guess what?? I got NO reply. Nil. Zilch. Zero. Your inbox is empty. 17 days down the drain. But I got a response from inside myself. My shattered heart steeled itself and I realised I couldn't do this anymore. I couldn't keep hanging onto something that no longer existed and someone who walked away. I finally felt free. I felt as though I had given him his last chance to realise what he had lost before I truly gave up hope and moved on. I hooked up with a ridiculously good looking man at the club that night (something that I didn't think I was capable of doing with my broken heart). I am by no means condoning breaking NC or encouraging you to contact your ex, I just wanted to share my experience. And I know it's still VERY early days in my process but I truly feel as though I have turned a corner toward healing. Thank you to everyone here who has shared their experiences, you probably don't realise how many "lurkers" you are helping. 1
quattrob Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Long time lurker here guys, first time poster. This forum and all of your wise words have been a source of strength for me since my break up. It's crazy to think that I never even knew that forums like this existed before now. After having been dumped for the first time (always done the dumping previously), I never had experienced the rollercoaster of emotions that accompany the whole situation. Unfortunately I came rather late to the NC party, much to my regret. And as per usual, made ALL of the mistakes possible. After having made it to a record 17 days NC after breaking up 8 weeks ago, a few too many champagnes got the best of me and I sent the ol' "I miss you" message. Effing idiot. I'm sure that some of you clicked on this thread with the hopes that the "happy ending" I described in my title would be a reply along the lines of "I miss you too baby. Let's never be apart again. I love you so much" etc etc. Well.......guess what?? I got NO reply. Nil. Zilch. Zero. Your inbox is empty. 17 days down the drain. But I got a response from inside myself. My shattered heart steeled itself and I realised I couldn't do this anymore. I couldn't keep hanging onto something that no longer existed and someone who walked away. I finally felt free. I felt as though I had given him his last chance to realise what he had lost before I truly gave up hope and moved on. I hooked up with a ridiculously good looking man at the club that night (something that I didn't think I was capable of doing with my broken heart). I am by no means condoning breaking NC or encouraging you to contact your ex, I just wanted to share my experience. And I know it's still VERY early days in my process but I truly feel as though I have turned a corner toward healing. Thank you to everyone here who has shared their experiences, you probably don't realise how many "lurkers" you are helping. Hate to say this, you only feel the way you did because of what I bolded. It has little to do with you breaking NC, breaking NC and you not getting a reply from your EX only led to you doing what you did. If hooking up didn't happen I'm sure you'd still feel hurt and not "free" as you say. Be honest to yourself. 2
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