Ryyrich11 Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Trying to keep this short ..someone help !!! So ..we lived in pa moved to tx ...for bout few months she has gone from telling me I was the best thing to me not being able to do anything right ...she has been short someone would block a phone number and just sit on line ,,,I stopped getting sex at all and she comes homework a hickey on a hand print on her inner thigh ..I found girl on girl porn ,..she got me in trouble so i flew back to pa ..she never wanted to go out do to her having depression and they changed her meds.. Since I came home she had lied went and disappeared all day..never had done tht ever since I knew her ..end up shoppin for new play shirts ..Not to go out but went out next day ...she sent a pic ..were she was to be with a couple then her 3 ppl ...but 4 glasses and 4 straws on table ...a week she went pj shopping ..in which tht sat she ended up at neighbors ..in her pj ..last min cuz she was taking dog out ...but next day she said tht she was txting I found out ..so she could have told me I aske were r u she ..replies sorry ...ask again she as downstairs 3time she was at neighbors ..to txt 2hrs later home or her company maybe left ... Now this past weekend she was horrible ...way mean slept she apsaid pretty much all weekend ..she said no one was their ...took pics but dog in all is perked up in all lookin at something I can't see in pic ...so she was evil say inf she hated me she would kill me if I were there so I said this is enough let's so friends Today ...she was so nice like back to normal ..caring lovin saying apsweet things ..I have no clue ..was way weird ... She has been late to work a lot today she was an hr late ...she has been takin off ......and the then she said she felt dizzy and like she could puke so left work ...spoke fine all day ....till tonight I said Wht I said earlier ...she wouldn't talk ..said sorry goin to bed ..would not send a pic .... Is this depression ..or Wht is this a girlfriend/boyfriend I'm not to know about HELP ...DRIVING ME CRAZY Don't know Wht to do
almond Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 I couldn't really make much sense of your post, but I'd say there are multiple issues here. Cheating, trust, mental illness etc. She needs to commit to treatment and sort out her depression and health. None of us can tell you whether her behaviour is due to mental illness or not. If she's not willing to work on herself, then it doesn't really matter anyway. You both sound quite unhappy, and you need to sit down and have a serious chat about whether you two can see a happy future together or not. Unless you're both willing to be honest, communicate and connect...part ways. Without hard work and being on the same team, hanging around in this situation is only going to suck the life out of you. It doesn't sound like it's working at the moment, and if you can't get it working, then you need to cut your losses and go and find your happiness. 1
Author Ryyrich11 Posted November 3, 2015 Author Posted November 3, 2015 So probably skipped we were awesome ...but then she just would leave early to work late coming home ,..would say stuck in traffic ..when she was shopping ..she works for state ..they left out during flooding 3...but she got home a t her normal time ..and she said it was the city she worked with ..and she said Wht I was still in time ..who wants to drive in tht stuff ...they let out cuz it was getting worse ..she said I was still on time ...well not if she was out at 3 ...we were the only ppl we knew sown their ..so when she would say we did this ..and I know I was never at a p,ace wasn't me she was with ..she would quick say I When I left for pa ..she was out more in the last month than the 2 yrs I met he r... She said u r bored and on my nerves I want to go do stuff by myself ..go meet friends girls whtever.. Just go have fun Thought tht was weird ...like now she is saying go do whtever ..if we make it we make it She says she needs to work on her ...then us so she is going to counseling Like feels she argues with me to make time for whoever ...like she will fight over anything...then just not answer or txt till like 2-3 next. Day sat Sunday ... She never went shopping ..she would order stuff online She doesn't like being out
almond Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 (edited) Sounds like she's already bailed out of this relationship but is too scared to pull the plug. From what you've posted, you're being treated by dirt, lied to, and neglected. If I were you, I'd leave now and not look back. It really doesn't sound like this relationship is working, and it doesn't sound like she really cares whether you break up or not. Go and find someone that loves you as much as you love them. We all deserve to be treated with respect - don't settle for this. EDIT: Just scanned your previous threads. Drug use, shes blocking you from all social media, calling the police on you, abusing you, trying to get you into rehab, hospital, jail, taking her ring off...and so on. You two are not good together. She needs to work on herself, and you need to work on yourself. End this, part ways, and get your life together before it's too late. You only get one life - stop wasting it living in pain and confusion. Get help - you don't have to live like this! Make the hard choice now - it's the right one. Commit yourself fully to turning your own life around. Until you get healthy, you will never be able to enjoy a good relationship. Edited November 3, 2015 by almond 1
LoveRefreshed Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Hickey and hand print. Not putting out to you. Being mean and pushing you away. Cheating cheating cheating. Break it off and go nc
loveweary11 Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Tip from experience: Don't expect normal behavior from the mentally ill and don't date them no matter how much you like them. They are always a med change away from ruining the relationship.
Redhead14 Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Trying to keep this short ..someone help !!! So ..we lived in pa moved to tx ...for bout few months she has gone from telling me I was the best thing to me not being able to do anything right ...she has been short someone would block a phone number and just sit on line ,,,I stopped getting sex at all and she comes homework a hickey on a hand print on her inner thigh ..I found girl on girl porn ,..she got me in trouble so i flew back to pa ..she never wanted to go out do to her having depression and they changed her meds.. Since I came home she had lied went and disappeared all day..never had done tht ever since I knew her ..end up shoppin for new play shirts ..Not to go out but went out next day ...she sent a pic ..were she was to be with a couple then her 3 ppl ...but 4 glasses and 4 straws on table ...a week she went pj shopping ..in which tht sat she ended up at neighbors ..in her pj ..last min cuz she was taking dog out ...but next day she said tht she was txting I found out ..so she could have told me I aske were r u she ..replies sorry ...ask again she as downstairs 3time she was at neighbors ..to txt 2hrs later home or her company maybe left ... Now this past weekend she was horrible ...way mean slept she apsaid pretty much all weekend ..she said no one was their ...took pics but dog in all is perked up in all lookin at something I can't see in pic ...so she was evil say inf she hated me she would kill me if I were there so I said this is enough let's so friends Today ...she was so nice like back to normal ..caring lovin saying apsweet things ..I have no clue ..was way weird ... She has been late to work a lot today she was an hr late ...she has been takin off ......and the then she said she felt dizzy and like she could puke so left work ...spoke fine all day ....till tonight I said Wht I said earlier ...she wouldn't talk ..said sorry goin to bed ..would not send a pic .... Is this depression ..or Wht is this a girlfriend/boyfriend I'm not to know about HELP ...DRIVING ME CRAZY Don't know Wht to do Given what you've written, the incoherence and spelling and grammar errors, I'd say she's evenly matched. Have you been drinking? And, if you haven't been drinking and are clear headed and if you re-read this post, the answer is clear -- dump her . . . 1
Author Ryyrich11 Posted November 4, 2015 Author Posted November 4, 2015 Sounds like she's already bailed out of this relationship but is too scared to pull the plug. From what you've posted, you're being treated by dirt, lied to, and neglected. If I were you, I'd leave now and not look back. It really doesn't sound like this relationship is working, and it doesn't sound like she really cares whether you break up or not. Go and find someone that loves you as much as you love them. We all deserve to be treated with respect - don't settle for this. EDIT: Just scanned your previous threads. Drug use, shes blocking you from all social media, calling the police on you, abusing you, trying to get you into rehab, hospital, jail, taking her ring off...and so on. You two are not good together. She needs to work on herself, and you need to work on yourself. End this, part ways, and get your life together before it's too late. You only get one life - stop wasting it living in pain and confusion. Get help - you don't have to live like this! Make the hard choice now - it's the right one. Commit yourself fully to turning your own life around. Until you get healthy, you will never be able to enjoy a good relationship. Updated .. Another great day ...she txt first thing in morning good morning sunshine Sent me me 3 Nice poems ...1about depression 2about romantic stuff tht we do 3 didn't quite understand ...ill write it pay attention to her! When a women. Is tripping she cares . When a women is mad she believed in u and u let her down. When she asking questions ..she spins rtuing to gain clarity ...when she is quiet and letting things slide..she is giving up ...and when she isn't doin any of the above just know u lost a good woman No clue someone translate??? So day was good ...she she spoke all day was back to the girl I new minus the last few months ..this is the second day she is back to saying Hun just nice **** She sends a pic before she was goin to bed ..new pj ...and today ...pillow on my side of bed She got off phone at 9:30 saying she is really tired yet ...the fb button turned on at 10:30... But she said she was goin to bed I don't trust her at all anymore...use to always ...she never lied 3weeks ago ...she claimed her fb was messed up .lwould have her on all nite ..on and off ..I always stay up late now tht I am confused on Wht to do about this ...doesn't help when her teen don't pops up ..but she is to be sleepin ..
Author Ryyrich11 Posted November 4, 2015 Author Posted November 4, 2015 Given what you've written, the incoherence and spelling and grammar errors, I'd say she's evenly matched. Have you been drinking? And, if you haven't been drinking and are clear headed and if you re-read this post, the answer is clear -- dump her . . . Trying to keep this short ..someone help !!! So ..we lived in pa moved to tx ...for bout few months she has gone from telling me I was the best thing to me not being able to do anything right ...she has been short someone would block a phone number and just sit on line ,,,I stopped getting sex at all and she comes homework a hickey on a hand print on her inner thigh ..I found girl on girl porn ,..she got me in trouble so i flew back to pa ..she never wanted to go out do to her having depression and they changed her meds.. Since I came home she had lied went and disappeared all day..never had done tht ever since I knew her ..end up shoppin for new play shirts ..Not to go out but went out next day ...she sent a pic ..were she was to be with a couple then her 3 ppl ...but 4 glasses and 4 straws on table ...a week she went pj shopping ..in which tht sat she ended up at neighbors ..in her pj ..last min cuz she was taking dog out ...but next day she said tht she was txting I found out ..so she could have told me I aske were r u she ..replies sorry ...ask again she as downstairs 3time she was at neighbors ..to txt 2hrs later home or her company maybe left ... Now this past weekend she was horrible ...way mean slept she apsaid pretty much all weekend ..she said no one was their ...took pics but dog in all is perked up in all lookin at something I can't see in pic ...so she was evil say inf she hated me she would kill me if I were there so I said this is enough let's so friends Today ...she was so nice like back to normal ..caring lovin saying apsweet things ..I have no clue ..was way weird ... She has been late to work a lot today she was an hr late ...she has been takin off ......and the then she said she felt dizzy and like she could puke so left work ...spoke fine all day ....till tonight I said Wht I said earlier ...she wouldn't talk ..said sorry goin to bed ..would not send a pic .... Is this depression ..or Wht is this a girlfriend/boyfriend I'm not to know about HELP ...DRIVING ME CRAZY Don't know Wht to do Day 2 nice ....so months have gone by ...I was great till I couldn't do anything right ....then she was killing me if I was their to ...super sweat ... Day 2 wake up to mournin sunshine ...3 nice poems ..but don't know Wht 3rd was to r Mean .... So she was super nice talking on phone tone was right ..was on speaker phone she was saying Hun ...luv u..etc ... Then at 9:30 her time she was tired and wanted to sleep ....so ok she says she loves me for half hr later be back on fb ...I try to call ..no answer green dot goes away ...half hr later green dot pops back up ... This happen before and she says fb is wrong she is asleep .. ????the other time it wa po popping on and off ..she plays a game and txt ..so seem like tht is Wht she was doin ... Any thought ..she has a counslor appt to talk ..and another one on Monday to talk bout her meds ..is she r Trying or just hiding behind her depression and is she cheating
Author Ryyrich11 Posted November 4, 2015 Author Posted November 4, 2015 I couldn't really make much sense of your post, but I'd say there are multiple issues here. Cheating, trust, mental illness etc. She needs to commit to treatment and sort out her depression and health. None of us can tell you whether her behaviour is due to mental illness or not. If she's not willing to work on herself, then it doesn't really matter anyway. You both sound quite unhappy, and you need to sit down and have a serious chat about whether you two can see a happy future together or not. Unless you're both willing to be honest, communicate and connect...part ways. Without hard work and being on the same team, hanging around in this situation is only going to suck the life out of you. It doesn't sound like it's working at the moment, and if you can't get it working, then you need to cut your losses and go and find your happiness. It is sucking life out of me ....I don't know Wht to think ...don't want to cut her off ...but since last 2days of her being back to herself makes me fall tht much back into her...I hate this feeling For her to have everyone thinking she is single and to find out no one can see Wht I post on her fb unless I r Tag her in it ..is weird ...new pj tonight ..but earlier today ..she said she did t get any ..but I asked from a particular store ...just really weird ..it's like pulling teeth ..I do most of the talking ..she isn't really open ..like I have to ask a million questions or she doesn't talk ...but ..when I ask right questions get ..different more info ....like yesturday she was so sick ..hr late to work and was nice talkin ...I say ..I am goin shoppin ...she goes to say I may .... Stops talkin ... She has shirts to take back ...she was doin Sunday ..I think she wanted to get out of work...prob fights with the other ...no clue Confused and rambling
Author Ryyrich11 Posted November 4, 2015 Author Posted November 4, 2015 Well she was on fb all ast nite ...on and off I was on till like 3 or something Then ..this morn woke up to txt good morn sunshine A song from Roderick hall wind it up And another of my favorite football team ..and she was letting me know it was their homecoming this week Wht why ...how .....did she change ..over nite .....?????? Anyone ...!!! Help
Author Ryyrich11 Posted November 4, 2015 Author Posted November 4, 2015 She completely disappeared ....said she went with a girl from her work Now at her shrink appt
GorillaTheater Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 For crissakes just dump her already. 2
Author Ryyrich11 Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 I really couldn't see her cheating ... She wasn't a whore or anything when I met her and never would have thought tht..till all the shot is adding up 2yrs hardly ever fought Wht the hell
Redhead14 Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Well she was on fb all ast nite ...on and off I was on till like 3 or something Then ..this morn woke up to txt good morn sunshine A song from Roderick hall wind it up And another of my favorite football team ..and she was letting me know it was their homecoming this week Wht why ...how .....did she change ..over nite .....?????? Anyone ...!!! Help No, she did not change over night. This is "who" she is and has been all along. You've ignored/justified/tolerated her behavior for a long time and now you're coming out of the "fog" some. Stop obsessing over her and go no contact with her. Start focusing on your life without all the drama and stress. It can't be fun doing what you are doing to yourself. Get a grip. I'm giving you tough love . . . but what you really need is a kick in the as*, a reality check.
Author Ryyrich11 Posted November 11, 2015 Author Posted November 11, 2015 Thank you, Since you posted I emailed..said enough is enough and went through all of why I think breakin up and being friends is fine. ...then I thought tht was cowedly ...so I called ..she got upset hung up on me. Since then she was back to being nice...well tht is when she is done ..doin whtever it is she does on fb ...she doesn't respond right away..or at all ..so this is horrible ..tonight she said she was going to sleep at 9:30. She took a sleeping pill ...well awhile before tht she said she may drink cuz she doesn't work tomorrow ..... Just so pissed ...this is all after we had a good 2 hr ..talk ... So confused
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