Have you ever experienced this?

[Male]

A while ago, while listening to the radio, two DJ's were chit chatting between songs, and the one announced that she had recently become engaged. She also mentioned how when she first met her fiance he was the first guy that she "could truly be real with, and felt like she didnt have to have her guard up, or be fake while she was dating him".

 

How many women(or men) know what she means, and have been through the same thing? Is that a totally common thing? Are there a lot of people that dont present themselves in a genuine way to their SO??

 

Being the type of person I am, I dont understand why you would want to date someone that you had to be fake with in the first place??

[casey.lives]

Some people try so hard to be liked... it self imposed judgment.

 

But you should definitely marry the person you are free to be yourself with.. and who you don't have reservations with.. Being "on" is a job and pointless in love.

[Httm]

Most people are fake in the entirety of their lives. They are worried about putting on appearances, impressing people, and trying to please others. Combine this with behavior that is commonly indirect, guessing, and fearful(see 90%+ of questions here on this site for proof of this) and you have fake, fake, fake.

[casey.lives]

My ex was a racist gangster who violates people and their families... i only found out later that he was being a fake nice guy with me... p.s im black.lol

[Male]

I understand that a lot of people(mostly guys) will turn on the charm, and try to project themselves as some awesome cool guy just to sleep with a woman. But to actually date someone, and not even feel comfortable enough with them to be yourself, or to not trust them enough to let down your guard?

 

This is obviously why I go sooo long between relationships. It seems like a lot of people are pretty good at being chameleons. Especially those that end a relationship, and then jump right into a new one within a few weeks.

[Httm]

Look at how many people on this very forum are too afraid to be honest and their true selves....75% of the questions could be answered with, "Just ask them!" Or "Just sit down and have an honesy conversation about it!"

 

Just remember that you can create the type of relationship that youd like to be in by leading it there...