Dominik Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Hi Im Dominik, 21, two nights ago I have met Sharon 36, single with two kids. We both like each other, I got her facebook today but not sure when I should text her? Ask her like tomorrow to come clubbing with me the same night? (she likes to drink) or wait a week or two and meet her again on a night out with some friends (her friends are a my friends as well) so it looks more casual? Also what should I text her exactly? should I have a bit of conversation at first, ask her to come dinner first or just ask straight away to come for a night out clubbing? I dont want to ruin everything by her thinking I am just another kid. Please help Thank you
Wewon Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Hi Im Dominik, 21, two nights ago I have met Sharon 36, single with two kids. We both like each other, I got her facebook today but not sure when I should text her? Ask her like tomorrow to come clubbing with me the same night? (she likes to drink) or wait a week or two and meet her again on a night out with some friends (her friends are a my friends as well) so it looks more casual? Also what should I text her exactly? should I have a bit of conversation at first, ask her to come dinner first or just ask straight away to come for a night out clubbing? I dont want to ruin everything by her thinking I am just another kid. Please help Thank you Between the ages of 23 - 26 I dated several women ranging from 32 - 36 years old. The draw of women that age was that they seemed less likely to play games and a lot more likely to be direct and not over interpret every little phone call and conversation. In other words, by that age, they knew themselves and men well enough not to do a lot of the things that women your own age do as matter of course. I said all that to say this, be straight up with her, unless she's into head games she will likely be straight with you. If you're texting too much she will tell you and most likely will do it in a way that's both clear and civil. Call her, say what's on your mind and make date plans. 1
Ami1uwant Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 I'll be h9nrst...you are wasting your time here. Does she know your age? She is a cougar if she dates you. I had this happen I'm college. Around the same age differences. We really seemed to hit it off but when it might of turned into something she backed off and ran. I think she was embarrassed by it.
Author Dominik Posted November 2, 2015 Author Posted November 2, 2015 Between the ages of 23 - 26 I dated several women ranging from 32 - 36 years old. The draw of women that age was that they seemed less likely to play games and a lot more likely to be direct and not over interpret every little phone call and conversation. In other words, by that age, they knew themselves and men well enough not to do a lot of the things that women your own age do as matter of course. I said all that to say this, be straight up with her, unless she's into head games she will likely be straight with you. If you're texting too much she will tell you and most likely will do it in a way that's both clear and civil. Call her, say what's on your mind and make date plans. Thank you for your replay, this is what I really like about her, straight to the point, tells me exactly what she wants me to know and shows me what she wants. I think she is missing men attention a lot. That is what I will do, I will text her now telling her I want to see her this weekend in a club we went last time for a couple of drinks! xdd thank you for putting confidence in me xd I was thinking too much and it seems like its a lot more straight forward xddd
d0nnivain Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Your plan is fine. Your medium -- text -- highlights how much younger you are then her. Grown men call. 3
Author Dominik Posted November 2, 2015 Author Posted November 2, 2015 I'll be h9nrst...you are wasting your time here. Does she know your age? She is a cougar if she dates you. I had this happen I'm college. Around the same age differences. We really seemed to hit it off but when it might of turned into something she backed off and ran. I think she was embarrassed by it. Yep, she does, she told me her age as well, we spoke about sleeping together but later in the night she dissapeared, not sure what happened. She isnt a cougar really, she is very good looking, lots of hours in the gym as well
Author Dominik Posted November 2, 2015 Author Posted November 2, 2015 Your plan is fine. Your medium -- text -- highlights how much younger you are then her. Grown men call. I know, I havent got her mobile though! I could ask her friend for it and call her, sure she would give it to me, but wouldnt she be a bit shocked about me calling her without exchaning numbers with me?
Maggie4 Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 I'm another generation older than your Sharon, so to me, someone in their 30's is still like a kid. Not playing games should be how it is at any age. However, because of the age difference, your straightforward approach may not be the best course. That is because she might automatically reject you on account of your age. You need to put the idea in her head, sow the seed, let her entertain this idea, wrap her head around it, and then you come on stronger.
d0nnivain Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 I know, I havent got her mobile though! I could ask her friend for it and call her, sure she would give it to me, but wouldnt she be a bit shocked about me calling her without exchaning numbers with me? If you can text her doesn't that mean you have her #? You kept saying you plan to text her. Do you mean send her an e-mail, a what's app or a social media message? Again all those things highlight the age difference in a bad way.
Author Dominik Posted November 2, 2015 Author Posted November 2, 2015 She knows my age, she knows I know her age, we spoke about sex, she disappeared after, not sure if went home or found someone else. I was planning to message her on facebook, but yes I know its not very grown up :/ do you think if I asked her friend to give me Sharons number and then called her would it be fine? I mean what if she doesn't answer because she doesnt know the number, do I text her telling her its me?
Author Dominik Posted November 2, 2015 Author Posted November 2, 2015 she was pretty drunk though, but I think she went home with some of our friends (there were like 15 people we knew there and most of them went around 12 and this is the time I saw Sharon for the last time, all those people have boyfriends and girlfriends so not sure she would get in with any of them).
blackcat777 Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 You don't have to be the same age to hit things off, but what will work wonders is confidence and calling the shots. Tell her you think it would be fun to meet for drinks at place XYZ. She'll either meet you there or not. No headaches. No calling friends for phone numbers. Simple and direct. If you can't ask her in person, send a message asking for her phone number, then call and ask. I would roll my eyes if someone couldn't ask me out in person, or at least call. There IS a chance she might be squicked because of the age difference and run the other way, but that's life. Then again, my boyfriend is younger than you and we're going on two years. He made all the moves from day one. He always called, he always made plans, he always took the initiative... and really acted like more of a man than any of the guys I dated that were my own age (late 20s).
Author Dominik Posted November 2, 2015 Author Posted November 2, 2015 You don't have to be the same age to hit things off, but what will work wonders is confidence and calling the shots. Tell her you think it would be fun to meet for drinks at place XYZ. She'll either meet you there or not. No headaches. No calling friends for phone numbers. Simple and direct. If you can't ask her in person, send a message asking for her phone number, then call and ask. I would roll my eyes if someone couldn't ask me out in person, or at least call. There IS a chance she might be squicked because of the age difference and run the other way, but that's life. Then again, my boyfriend is younger than you and we're going on two years. He made all the moves from day one. He always called, he always made plans, he always took the initiative... and really acted like more of a man than any of the guys I dated that were my own age (late 20s). Confidence is definitelly one think I do have but my problem is I think too much about thinks, I tend to not sleep because I am wondering what would happen if and then I make mistakes and ruin things!! Stupid, I didnt think of that I could have asked her for her mobile number couldnt I!! I will do so tomorrow as she might be sleeping today xd Thank you it made things so much clearer for me xd btw I never had an actual relationship, not mentioning anything with someone a bit older than me xddd I will so stay here and share my opinions with other people as well!! I will update you guys on how it all went with her after a while xddd thanks again xd
Buddhist Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Hi ask her to come dinner first or just ask straight away to come for a night out clubbing? I dont want to ruin everything by her thinking I am just another kid. Please help Thank you Too late, you want to go clubbing, she is almost 40 with kids. :rolleyes:Maybe you should realise that clubbing is a phase most people get over before they are 25. 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Too late, you want to go clubbing, she is almost 40 with kids. :rolleyes:Maybe you should realise that clubbing is a phase most people get over before they are 25. I was thinking the same thing BUT according to the OP they met in a club, they talked about sex, she was drunk and well, maybe they're a match made in heaven. Personally, I was over the whole clubbing thing at 22. To each their own.
Author Dominik Posted November 3, 2015 Author Posted November 3, 2015 Too late, you want to go clubbing, she is almost 40 with kids. :rolleyes:Maybe you should realise that clubbing is a phase most people get over before they are 25. That is what I thoght at first but on Saturday night out her friend said she is always going clubbing when there is a chance and that she can handle her drink very well. I think she goes there for a hunt for men really nothing else. I will facebook her for her number and try to call her, see if it works out if not then too bad xdd
d0nnivain Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 I will facebook her for her number and try to call her, see if it works out if not then too bad xdd Nooooooooo. You said somewhere in here that you will probably run into her again in person soon. Get her number then. I would feel really weird if some guy wanted my # through FB. Then again, I'm not a cougar picking up boys in clubs. She may see that as a sign she's still young.
Gaeta Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Hi Im Dominik, 21, two nights ago I have met Sharon 36, single with two kids. We both like each other, I got her facebook today but not sure when I should text her? Ask her like tomorrow to come clubbing with me the same night? (she likes to drink) or wait a week or two and meet her again on a night out with some friends (her friends are a my friends as well) so it looks more casual? Also what should I text her exactly? should I have a bit of conversation at first, ask her to come dinner first or just ask straight away to come for a night out clubbing? I dont want to ruin everything by her thinking I am just another kid. Please help Thank you A mother of 2, who likes to drink, who hangs in clubs, isn't worried about if you can carry a conversation or not. The way she acts She is probably 21 yo in mental age so just be your usual self. 4
sickandtiredOfex Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 I had a man that was a decade younger than me, I couldn't go further than meeting him once, he didn't have kids whereas I did, my last ex took great delight calling me old and he was older than the guy interested in me..I couldn't progress to the next level, I just didn't want to get hurt again and be reminded I'm old
Miss Peach Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 I'm a little younger than this woman. Guys in their late teens and early 20s hit on me. IMO I would only consider a NSA situation with a guy that young. Don't expect her to like to beyond a FWB. I was talking to some single moms I know a little older than me. One of them was hit on by an 18 year old. We all said the same thing - either no or it would just be sex. So go ahead if you want. Basically I wouldn't expect it to go somewhere.
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 I'm a little younger than this woman. Guys in their late teens and early 20s hit on me. IMO I would only consider a NSA situation with a guy that young. Don't expect her to like to beyond a FWB. I was talking to some single moms I know a little older than me. One of them was hit on by an 18 year old. We all said the same thing - either no or it would just be sex. So go ahead if you want. Basically I wouldn't expect it to go somewhere. I didn't get the impression the OP is looking for anything more than a bit of cougar action.
siriusp Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 I'm a little younger than this woman. Guys in their late teens and early 20s hit on me. IMO I would only consider a NSA situation with a guy that young. Don't expect her to like to beyond a FWB. I was talking to some single moms I know a little older than me. One of them was hit on by an 18 year old. We all said the same thing - either no or it would just be sex. So go ahead if you want. Basically I wouldn't expect it to go somewhere. I too get a lot of younger guys hitting on me - and the last person I felt anything for was over a decade younger. I fell for him in a big way and didn't notice the age difference. (unfortunately he didn't feel the same)! So you can't really say what that woman wants/feels. I know - for me personally - if I really like the person and feel something positive with them - I am open to trying. I wouldn't knock someone back because of an age difference - rather a comparability difference. My sister married someone of 42 when she was only 21 - they got on just fine. He was very immature!
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