Didn'tknow Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 My ex and I broke up after a 3 year relationship 1 year ago. She is 20 and I'm 24. She's still on my mind constantly. I've gone on a few dates but I still compare everyone to her. Unfortunately I find her both the most physically and mentally attractive person I've ever met. I'm just looking for other people who are still feeling this way 1 year + after the relationship has ended. I've heard all the "time heals all wounds" etc. How are you coping with these feelings for such a long time? As I'm becoming quite exhausted by it.
PegNosePete Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Are you still in contact? Either directly or through mutual friends/family?
Author Didn'tknow Posted November 2, 2015 Author Posted November 2, 2015 Are you still in contact? Either directly or through mutual friends/family? I've run into her a couple of times and she has messaged me before, maybe once in 6 months, but besides that we aren't in contact.
Marco Valerio Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 My BU will be 2 years on December. I've been in NC since Jun 2014. I still struggle with the BU because I deeply loved that girl:(. But I know as a fact it would have been even worse for me if I hadn't gone NC on her;). I've had a couple of dates last year, not the girls for me:o. As a response to your question, yes.
Seeker12 Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Honestly i think its normal mate. My ex whom I broke up with last year is still on mind, not as constantly, but still everyday something pops up, just silly things. My situation is that we are still connected through family as in her mums my mums friend, and also i have bumped into her (ignored her and vice versa) and her sister 3/4 times through the year, even dropped my family off to her house once so real awkward. Its just part and parcel of things and i just need to learn thats life, and yes sometimes the heart pulls but then other times i cant be bothered thinking about it, wasted energy. Im already involved with someone else, have been for the past say 6/7 months, but even then it happens and i sometimes feel guilty for letting it happen. Am i fully recovered? Hell no, I wouldnt be after a 7 year relationship which was my first, but i aint going to let that hold me back from having fun and meeting people. I think i should do an update on LS to let people know to be honest.
geronimo Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 I'm in almost the exact same situation as you and I also feel the way you do man. Ex is 20 I'm 23 and we dated for almost 5 years and were each others first, broke up last year and I still can't seem to get over it. Worst part is she jumped into another relationship almost immediately after our breakup and to my knowledge they're still together. I had the same thing where she contacted me 6 months ago (in May/June) and we started talking for a bit BAD decision on my part but what can you do, you live and you learn. Its really hard, and I do still think about her everyday but implementing total NC has helped and it is very psychological, because some days when I get really down about the breakup I just tell myself that this is stupid and I need to be happy on my own and when the time will come I'll find someone else (or she'll come back) but I need to use this time to work on myself and better my life for me. But yea bro you're not alone. 1
Shock148 Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Some people take years to fully get over someone. My ex broke up with me 2 years ago and I still think about her every now and then. I have had relationships after her, but I still think about her from time to time and get a little emotional that things didn't work out. I NC her for a year and now I keep minimal contact with her. She texted me for my birthday (My birthday was on halloween) and I just responded with a "thx" Seemed kind of cold, but at the same time she has a relationship at the moment and I feel no need to talk to her more than casual short chit chat. This has really helped me move on to the point where I am perfectly content not being with her, although as stated before I have moments where I do think about her and get a little angry, sad, etc.
Meli22 Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 It takes as long as it takes. It's been 7 months for me. We haven't spoke apart from when he followed me on social media, then messaged to say it was a mistake. I feel a lot better and happier in general but he's still on my mind a lot and if I let myself think about everything that happened, it can hurt. Don't beat yourself up. Just be patient and keep going.
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