HansonGirl Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 I am really not into facebook but I tend to be the type to be "curious" so i will "stalk" on there and waste time with that sort of thing. it's now my policy to not even add people, espcially guys i like or am dating. (i recently unfriended a guy i went out with one time in 2014, and he has a girlfriend now. i found it strange to be "connected" to him. no hard feelings, just found it weird, and pointless, we weren't going to be "friends" so no reason to have access to each other's personal lives). well i did the same thing with a guy i actually did like, but he was sort of a jerk to me and apparently not interested in me. He rejected me. The reason i did it was to stop myself from looking at his page. Hiding it would not be enough. i am too compulsive. anyways, i hardly have any "friends" on facebook anymore. anyways, so we were at this get-together and he said he can't tag me in a photo because i unfriended him. i felt awkward. but said, i didn't want to be tagged. but also said that he can still tag me, we don't need to be friends to tag someone, or he can just add me back. so he added me back. but he almost seemed hurt, yet also snickered about it. I wasn't trying to hurt him i was trying to move on. I didn't really care if it looked like i was "affected" - i mean he already knew i liked him, so i wasn't thinking about that, just looking out for my own welfare. i guess it was rude of me to do but i mean i don't see why he would care. Do you think he was just amused that i did that? i am sometimes surprised when people get like that about facebook. especally someone who made it clear they don't like you and he hasn't made any effort to be my "friend" in real life, and indeed we are not friends.
Gaeta Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 The question is why are you bothered by his reaction? and on top of feeling hurt by him you let him make you ad him again? C'mon. Defriend him again and who cares how he reacts. If he says something tell him your FB is for close friends. 3
lchf Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Some people take what happens on FB more personally than others. I also don't like FB but need it because I run a few companies' social media, but my personal FB is barren. I always find it hilarious how adults judge real life interactions by what goes on on social media. I wouldn't dwell on it. I loath the idea of "online friends". Being connected to someone on FB is a consequence on having a good friendship in real life for me, not the other way round. 1
Author HansonGirl Posted November 2, 2015 Author Posted November 2, 2015 (edited) The question is why are you bothered by his reaction? and on top of feeling hurt by him you let him make you ad him again? C'mon. Defriend him again and who cares how he reacts. If he says something tell him your FB is for close friends. I ask because I like him .I thought I said that? Not afraid to admit that .But he rejected me so I want to get over him. Was surprised I guess that he'd mention it or notice But yeah lol .He put me on the spot . I didn't know what to say .I'll defriend him in a month . Edited November 2, 2015 by HansonGirl
lilmissjava Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Lots of people get offended if they are 'defriended' and make a big deal about it. You don't need to see the not-so-private life of someone who has outright rejected you. It's like pouring salt on a wound. Delete, block and move on. 1
smackie9 Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 He is still the jerk he always was. His intent was to make you feel bad, not because he was butt hurt about it...his devilish snicker is a tell tail sign he was quiet jubilant that you even obliged to add him. Unfriend him. 1
Author HansonGirl Posted November 2, 2015 Author Posted November 2, 2015 (edited) He is still the jerk he always was. His intent was to make you feel bad, not because he was butt hurt about it...his devilish snicker is a tell tail sign he was quiet jubilant that you even obliged to add him. Unfriend him. I think I will. I mad at myself for saying that to him But you are right . Man why is he so mean to me. Instead of leaving me be he tries to make me feel bad. I don't understand people like him . Like meanspirited almost . It actually hadn't occurred to me that he was trying to make me feel bad about it . He also shook his head and said I'm incorrigible for doing that. I love your word choice btw .Devilish and jubiliant .Lol . Love it. Edited November 2, 2015 by HansonGirl 1
lilmissjava Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 I would have to wonder if he knew what incorrigible meant. You are not losing any great guy here, in fact, a pompous arrogant a$$ is someone you really shouldn't be wasting keystrokes about. He fits the incorrigible bill if anything. 1
hippychick3 Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Move on. It shouldn't matter what a disinterested person thinks. It was a wise decision to unfriend him. You should unfriend him again and go back to your "policy" of not friending guys you're just casually dating. Wait until you're in an actual relationship with them. 1
Author HansonGirl Posted November 2, 2015 Author Posted November 2, 2015 Move on. It shouldn't matter what a disinterested person thinks. It was a wise decision to unfriend him. You should unfriend him again and go back to your "policy" of not friending guys you're just casually dating. Wait until you're in an actual relationship with them. Consider it done. I feel less guilty about defriending him . Done . 2
dragonfire13 Posted November 6, 2015 Posted November 6, 2015 You sound exactly like me lol I'm quick to delete when things don't work out with a guy. I don't even add guys Im seeing on social media anymore, like others have pointed out, Id prefer to when I know its going somewhere. Guys tend to be really quick to me add me though so I accept out of politeness. But anyway, don't worry about what he thinks. If he's offended, finds it funny, is glad he got a rise out of you etc all it does is prove that he enjoys playing games...and ive found, people who play games are usually only interested in hooking up anyway.
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