Belle88 Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 I've been thinking a lot about this topic lately and discussing it with friends about there is always one person that will be forever in your heart and you'll always love them to some degree. I've only had four serious relationships in my life. I've loved each of the guys I had the relationships with but one always sticks out in my mind. I often think of this person and how they are doing. I've been dreaming about them lately. Full disclaimer: I have no interest or desire to get back together with this person or make any contact with them ever. If anyone has read my other newer post, this is a totally separate thought and post. Just something random I was thinking of. Anyone else experience this or am I crazy? Stories? 1
loverage21 Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Let me guess. It is someone you loved as a teenager. I am guessing your first love? Am I correct? Typical. I am 21. Never been in love. Well, I have had crushes and I have had sex with a girl. But nothing that accounts to real love or a relationship.
deadelvis Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Let me guess. It is someone you loved as a teenager. I am guessing your first love? Am I correct? Typical. I am 21. Never been in love. Well, I have had crushes and I have had sex with a girl. But nothing that accounts to real love or a relationship. I'll see your bet. I'm guessing it was not the first. I'd guess it was number 3.
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 I understand this very well OP. I don't know your story but I don't think I'm out of line saying you're NOT crazy. Love is a powerful thing and sometimes there is one person who stands out among the rest. Their love can literally transform you for the better.
loverage21 Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 I understand this very well OP. I don't know your story but I don't think I'm out of line saying you're NOT crazy. Love is a powerful thing and sometimes there is one person who stands out among the rest. Their love can literally transform you for the better. I am willing to bet it is someone she loved as a teen or her first love or something on the lines of that. I bet that is the same for you too. Now you know why I am so hesitant to give my all and my heart, because I won't hold as special of a place in the end.
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 I am willing to bet it is someone she loved as a teen or her first love or something on the lines of that. I bet that is the same for you too. Now you know why I am so hesitant to give my all and my heart, because I won't hold as special of a place in the end. Well if you're betting that on me you'd be very wrong. The love that changed me was that of my most recent relationship. Besides, who cares which love it is for heaven's sake? What does that have to do with anything?
mrs rubble Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 I often think of my first real love and he really sticks out in my mind. I met up with him about 5-6 years ago after 20 years of not seeing each other. He said he would always have a special place in his heart for me and I feel the same way. We have both lived very different lives and become very different people. I respect and admire him, but I don't need to be with him. The man I'm with now knows, loves and supports the person I have become and I love him for that and the wonderful kind person he is.
loverage21 Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 (edited) I often think of my first real love and he really sticks out in my mind. I met up with him about 5-6 years ago after 20 years of not seeing each other. He said he would always have a special place in his heart for me and I feel the same way. We have both lived very different lives and become very different people. I respect and admire him, but I don't need to be with him. The man I'm with now knows, loves and supports the person I have become and I love him for that and the wonderful kind person he is. How old were you when you two were together? Oh and hear that folks, here is one example here. Edited November 2, 2015 by loverage21
deadelvis Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 How old were you when you two were together? Oh and hear that folks, here is one example here. Balls. That was the ammunition you needed to perpetuate your obsession with being her "first love". I could never figure out if your name was loverage, (rhymes with leverage) or love-rage. I'm guessing it's the latter. 1
loverage21 Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Balls. That was the ammunition you needed to perpetuate your obsession with being her "first love". I could never figure out if your name was loverage, (rhymes with leverage) or love-rage. I'm guessing it's the latter. Now you see where I am coming from dude
Author Belle88 Posted November 3, 2015 Author Posted November 3, 2015 I didn't post this to start about a debate about my personal life. I just wondered if anyone felt like this. I'm almost 30 and it was NOT my first love or a teenage love. I don't understand what the fascination is of when that's not the point. My first love was special but I don't think of it hardly ever. 1
craw Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Yeah, i met a guy and fell in love with him. I don't think we will ever see each other again. I've done a psych-k session to acknowledge and accept he will not be in my life, so my heart doesn't ache for him, but he does pop up in my thoughts, thank goodness he stopped showing up in my dreams. Dreams are weird. I feel like they tell us a message. Like sometimes my best friend's mother who died has visited me in a dream and not said anything. I have had dreams of childhood friends. /shrug
mrs rubble Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 How old were you when you two were together? Oh and hear that folks, here is one example here. He was 17 I was 15.
neowulf Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 I was 23 and she was 19. I've never felt such a natural affinity with another person in my life. There were moments when she'd tell me something and it could have come straight from my own lips. She was smart and beautiful, but above all.. She was unique. I've never met anyone like her. I never have since. We were together for 6 years. Part of me will always love her, though I know we weren't meant to be. It's enoug for me to know she's happy.
2.50 a gallon Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 (edited) I had a great single life, lots of friends, lots of dating, and lots of sex, the world was full of beautiful women, and I wanted to kiss them all. At age 26, I met my future Ex-fiancé, she was 22. At first she said I was too short, too poor (I am a T-shirt and blue jeans guy, while she liked her men to wear suits), too old and too white. She was Hispanic. We fell deeply in love, wedding plans were made, discussed the names for our kids, got engaged, the whole bit 18 months later. The sex was awesome, I gave up on all the women in the world and I got the better deal. Alas, the too white turned out to be our downfall. Her older sister after getting divorced and turning into a semi-man hater, decided she did not want her younger sister marrying a white guy. Her sister moved from their home town and set about trying to break us up. The lies and stories she told about me were unbelievable. Each and every time, I was able to show that her sister was being untruthful. But she could not accept that her sister was making up these lies. And her sister kept trying to set her up with other guys. My Ex-fiancé became frustrated as I refused to set a wedding date. I was not going to marry her until she and we got thing settled with her sister. It took 18 months, but after again refusing to set a date, she walked out on me. I did not chase after her. A year after breaking up, we ran into each other at a disco. I was with my dance partner and she was with some older bank big wigs. A day later I got a phone call from her. She had moved out of town, to get away from me. And seeing me that night she had realized she still loved me and what could we do about it. As I told her, I too loved her, but it would take an awful lot to restore what we once had. I was not about to give up my single life for a maybe Alas what I learned was all negative. My faith in love and women went on a big time slide. Edited November 3, 2015 by 2.50 a gallon
Giggle Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 My latest love was the most changing because of how thoroughly he accepted me and liked me and pushed me. The most special. 2
2.50 a gallon Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 Five years after I broke up with my Ex-fiancé I married a woman several years younger than myself. For three years she pursued me, telling me how much she wanted to start a family with me. It ended six months later when I caught her cheating with a co-worker. The blackness of the next year destroyed my belief in love and marriage. I went back to my old ways. Women were only good for part time companionship, I very much enjoyed living alone and not having to answer to anyone but myself. I dated lots of women, but whenever one started to get serious I put on my running shoes and was gone. There was one that I had an off and on relationship that lasted for a good six years. I finally got scared enough that in order to remain single I packed up and moved back to my home town, a thousand miles distant. There I met a long legged blonde, whom I knew from her looks had to be in a relationship. I did not press the issue, just waited for her BF to make a mistake. I was only interested in a FWB relationship. Second date, first kiss, and I found I was in deep doo-doo, as when I went home that night I realized how lonely my life was. It took about a year before she too fell in love with me. Not only is she good looking, but more important the sweetest, kindest, most giving person I have ever met. Everybody loves her. We have been together for over 20 years, and I am still amazed that this beautiful wonderful woman is still in love with me.
candie13 Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 it's strange, but there is this man that I have dated briefly. I have had long term bfs and been inlove but none of them brought me or taught me as much as this guy - we only saw eachother a few months, really. He is / was absolutely not your usual guy. 13 older than me and was all over the place, working really hard, traveling loads, going out and partying like there was no tomorrow. But he has that layer... that layer ... I dunno how to call it. He was my rebound from a RS that really hurt me and this dude made a huge difference. Took the time to talk to me and showed me the bigger picture. Not sure I was understanding half the stuff he was talking about - and I pride myself in having loads of brains and even more emotional intelligence. He showed me how important it was to start working at myself and at knowing myself and how that would help me out on the long run. Don't get me wrong, he had some pretty old woundings that he was still struggling with. Anyways, it didn't last that long. I liked him, but the difference of age and difference in lifestyle put me off. There was that moment when he asked to give it a chance, but then we never really spoke about it. I freaked out and disappeared. I later met what seemed to be a more "suitable" partner who finished the job the last dude started and I got pushed on the verge of depression. All & all, I will never forget him. A buzzing sort of energy and optimism. We both had a strange dynamic and neither of us was comfortable to share or admit there were ... you know... the f word... "feelings", that's the one. He moved out of the country and remained a party animal and a bit of a womanizer. You know, the self destructive type, a tad shallow, very unreasonable, refusing to grow up. Slightly manipulative and interested? For sure. But also, deep and sensitive. I was very lucky to have met him when I did.
PrettyEmily77 Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 My latest love was the most changing because of how thoroughly he accepted me and liked me and pushed me. The most special. Current (and hopefully last) love has changed me and has made me want to be a better person, for myself and for him.
HopeForTomorrow Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 The love that changed me is someone I came to know just a few months ago. I never believed in the concept of "soul mates". I still don't. I have had many relationships over the years. I'm no longer young. I've also been married for quite a few years - divorced now for 8 years or so. There were people that I loved - or thought I loved. There were people that I entered into relationships with - relationships that were fine and good and okay and that lasted for a few months or even in some cases for many years. But something is different about this man. I wish I could put it into words. It's the way he makes me feel. It's his character. It's many things, but it isn't something I can even define. It is just him. My head and my heart are not in agreement many times, and my head never wins. The problem is that there is distance between us and that will be the case for awhile into the future (years). I see it as less of a problem than he does. So I wait and Hope that I won't lose him. The dreams we have... they are parallel. In a few short years we will be able to go any direction we choose. That is an amazing feeling, having the world at our feet. If we can just make it to that point. So he is the love that changed me. I just don't know, right now, how it will turn out. What I do know is that I have never felt this way before about anyone. He makes everyone else in my past look like nothing.
66Charger Posted November 7, 2015 Posted November 7, 2015 Some times love changes you in ways you dont want to change. Then it becomes a battle about what your heart truly wants and what your head says is reasonable. It is the absolute loss of control. You cant think straight. You think about her all the time. You dream of the improbable. You risk everything even your sanity. But thru it all, it doesnt die. Thats when you know your love is real. With all of the fussing and fighting and waiting and the good stuff too, it endures. It is always there even when you think its not. Love is beautiful, but like a beautiful flower, it must be fed. Constantly. I myself am STILL in a relationship that I wish was very different. Not because of this hard headed, beautiful, demanding, loving, angry, hopefull, strong, impatient, gift that is a woman, but because what I believe it would take to tame this wild soul requires me to be there, with her. To touch her and love her, comfort and validate, give her screaming orgasm and then snuggle her to sleep. To be all that she desires and more. To have her feel happy, satisfied, safe and free. And in return to feel full, sated, comfortable with the direction we are going. Knowing things without asking. Having faith. Putting so much happiness in the hands of another is daunting, but love gives you no choice. One day, I may meet this woman and we may plant a tree. Buy a general store and resteraunt in the quiet hills of California or the mountains of Colorado. Become us. I do not know, but I do know she has affected me. She may be my last love or she may be a ghost.
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