Avarosexxx3 Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 (edited) Just a lil' FYI, I apologize if this story sounds familiar- I posted something similar a while ago on this forum but have since forgotten my password so I had to make a new account, so I applied if I'm reiterating some information I've already shared. I just wanted to give a little bit of an update and hopefully get some advice because I'm getting frustrated at my apparent inability to let my ex go. My ex and I broke up about 6 months ago and I'm pretty confused as to why it's still bothering me so much. We were long distance (aka it was unfortunately doomed to fail at some point) and teenagers, which made our situation difficult to deal with at times. We were very happy together for a pretty long time, but as our schedules became increasingly conflicting, it got more and more difficult to be so far from eachother. He broke up with me. In comparison to other breakups I had, this one was a breeze- no fighting or anything, it was just sad. He had reached out and asked if we could stay friends a few days later. We barely talked for about 3 months (I think we only texted once). We only started talking again recently, and it's sort of strange. We talk as if nothing happened between us. I have found myself feeling relieved that he is back in my life, yet confused about his actions and words. He calls me gorgeous, tells me any guy would be lucky to have me, talks about memories from the relationship, asks me if I have any guys in my life, tells me how he misses me and wants to hug me, etc. I don't have a problem with it because I think he's being nice, but it's all a bit confusing. I'm trying not to take it for more than its face value, which is kind of difficult as I'm definitely an overthinker. When we first started talking again we sincerely apologized to one another and he explained that he wasn't talking to me for those 3 months because it, in his own words, "hurt him so much to break up with me so he tried not to remind himself of what he let go or think about me". I was actually in his state this weekend but we weren't able to see eachother because he had to work and had a soccer tournament. It's weird because he won't text me first but when I text him he always replies really quickly and then goes out of his way to text me (while he's busy, when he's at school- basically when he's not supposed to me). I really wish I knew whether or not he's doing this just because he feels bad/guilty about breaking up with me so he's just pitying me. I would hope that he's doing it because he genuinely wants to be friends, because I can't think of many other reasons why he'd do this because he's not the type of guy to play mind games or do things solely for his own benefit/enjoyment. Honestly I still love him and I think a part of me always will. I've done everything I can to try to get over him (dates with other guys, keeping VERY busy, hanging out with friends, etc) but nothing seems to work. I still get very upset about it at times, probably about once a week but I truly think about him daily. I know, I'm "young and need to get over it" and that there'll be other guys, but I just can't seem to let it/him go. I went straight NC for such a long time and it felt way worse than it does when I talk to him as friends, so I'm not sure what to do. Is there even anything else I can do? Is this abnormal? Edited November 2, 2015 by Avarosexxx3
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