kevin smithy Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 Really weak and depressed guys. feel like calling her or messaging her. saying i miss her. Someone please talk me out of it and give me some reasons to help. thank you.
itisdanielle Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 Whenever I feel like this, I find reading one of these posts is helpful: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/418763-if-you-ve-been-broken-up-broken-hearted http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/470829-all-new-2014-no-contact-guide Honestly, don't do it! You feel bad now, and maybe talking to her will temporarily make you feel better, but afterwards you will be right back to square one and feeling even worse than you do now.
mightycpa Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 Oh Matilda, I really miss you so much.... why did you leave me? I'm sitting here at home and all I can do is think about you and cry. Poor me! You're the prettiest, smartest, sexiest, most wonderful thing any man has ever seen at any time in all of history. I would do anything for you, grovel, beg, plead and sell my soul to the devil. Please take me back, please, please, please! Your devoted servant, Kevin Whatever you send, that's what it will sound like on her end. 4
sowhynot Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 DON'T !!!!!! Read through some old posts - you won't find a single happy ending for anyone who contacted their ex Sad but true. Stay strong and stay NC. 1
Wewon Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Really weak and depressed guys. feel like calling her or messaging her. saying i miss her. Someone please talk me out of it and give me some reasons to help. thank you. Its a complete act of desperation. It won't make you more attractive to her, only less so and ultimately you will feel foolish. Try this. Write down everything that you want to say to her and then put it in an envelop, give yourself three days and read it. If it still sounds good, break no contact and read it to her.
Author kevin smithy Posted November 2, 2015 Author Posted November 2, 2015 hey guys. thank you for all the quick responses. i think its just how my lifes been and how its hard right now i wanted to contact her. but i wont. nothing good will come from it. thank you all again.
stemac Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Kevin you have good days and bad days your having a bad days it will pass, cool ya boot's sit back and take a deep breath Nc is your cure your ex isn't your antidote Stay strong
Royals550 Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 It gets better man, trust us. At the end of the day everyone deserves someone who's wants to be with them, so don't chase someone who doesn't. Nothing you say to her will help the situation. It's what you don't do, and don't say that can work to your benefit. In time you won't even want her anymore, it's rarely ever as good the second time around anyway. Hit the gym, stay focused. Keep your head held high!
HurtinPDX Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 I've made that mistake before, and as another poster suggested, try to think how it is going to sound to her. For my ex it would sound like this: "Please come back and mistreat me. I'm so pathetic the misery you inflict on me is better than being alone. As a matter of fact, you are absolutely right: I am worthless. So please, come on back and treat me like garbage again. I obviously adore it, and think you are so special for doing this to me."
Author kevin smithy Posted November 2, 2015 Author Posted November 2, 2015 Its just such a thingm where you can no someone for years and be with them for years. And they just cut you out clean. Like you never had anything.
JustAnotherLostLove Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Really weak and depressed guys. feel like calling her or messaging her. saying i miss her. Someone please talk me out of it and give me some reasons to help. thank you. Look at it like this... Contacting her at your weakest, more than likely won't bring her back.
Royals550 Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 Its just such a thingm where you can no someone for years and be with them for years. And they just cut you out clean. Like you never had anything. We've all been there, it's a direct dagger to the heart. You feel like you never knew the person. You HAVE to remember this, do you really want to be with someone who can drop you like yesterday's news. The answer is absolutely NOT! In all honesty, even if she had 30 spectacular reasons why, and took you out to dinner to explain how much she loved you and let you down as easy a possible, what's the difference at the end of the day. She's still displaying that she doesn't want to have you in her life, the tactic is meaningless. I know it sucks, I've had women be totally cruel and push you away in every fashion that they could think of. It's almost like they want you to think of them in a negative light to ease your heartache. It's a crappy way to do it, that's a fact. However, we're men. We can handle it. There are a ton of outstanding women who would never dream of doing that, and will work their butts off to make it work. You'll find one, and when you do, treat her well... Head up man. 1
Royals550 Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 One more thing, contacting her is out of the question man. The worst move imaginable, and you'll feel so much worse afterwards. You'll know if she ever wants you back, she'll tell you. Anything else out of her mouth are crumbs driven for an ego boost. You'll feel so much better in 30 days with strict NC, it's almost like you turned the tables, she will respect you much more.
K2z Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 I feel for you. I am so, so, scared she is forgetting me and drifting into that sort of sock drawer of people I "used to know." But scrambling and acting on that fear will only spin my wheels deeper in the mud. I think some of the threads linked above are very helpful. There is power in intention + detachment.
Royals550 Posted November 3, 2015 Posted November 3, 2015 I feel for you. I am so, so, scared she is forgetting me and drifting into that sort of sock drawer of people I "used to know." But scrambling and acting on that fear will only spin my wheels deeper in the mud. I think some of the threads linked above are very helpful. There is power in intention + detachment. We all know that fear, it's dreadful. Then again, it reminds you that we're alive and can feel those 'feels'. Someone once told me not to take falling in love for granted because some people never get the chance to experience it. Puts things in perspective. We would never be able to recognize the horrible lows of heartache without the beautiful highs of loving someone. Win, lose, or draw
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