Blondesym Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 (edited) Hi, So I'll just start by saying my boyfriend and me were together in a long distance relationship for two and a half years. He was from Belgium and I was from England, we'd see each other for a weekend or a week every 2-3 weeks. We had an amazing relationship for the most part, the only incident was when I found out he had been flirting with another girl. This was about a year in, I threatened to leave him and he cut the other girl off completely and we agreed to work on it. Although we worked past this it did give me some trust issues and hurt a hell of a lot as I've been faithful to him from the get go. So two and a half years in, he's at uni and he was studying a lot for exams meaning we couldn't spend much time together if at all. This put a lot of strain on the relationship especially since when you're long distance you have to put the time in otherwise you end up drifting apart. After all that was over we met up and I suggested that we take a small break. In no way did I mean a break up, and he knew this also. What I ment with the break was that we both go home and get our careers sorted and see each other again at a later date. He agreed and also said to me that it wasn't over and he still loved me very much. So fast forward about a week or so after that he told me over skype that he doesn't want the relationship any more, he doesn't love/want me and we have no future together. I was completely devastated to say the least. I kept asking the questions as to why he suddenly had a change of heart and never got a straight forward answer. So I left it another week or so and contacted him again to ask how he was handling everything, he replied that he was completely fine. I said maybe he didn't love me as much as he should have as he was handling it so well. And his reply was he doesn't know.. that nearly killed me hearing that. Not even his friends can understand why he's done it, they've all told me he's an idiot and can't believe how badly he's treated me. After that conversation I've left it 4 weeks now without speaking to him in the hopes he would contact me, and he hasn't. Does anyone have any advice on what to do next? I'm finding it so difficult to move on as I love him so much and miss him a hell of a lot. I'd give anything for the relationship back and I never wanted the break up. I don't know how he lost feelings in the matter of a few days, my gut feeling is that he's found someone else.. Edited November 1, 2015 by Blondesym
mightycpa Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 Long distance relationships suck. Wind up your grieving and start working on acceptance. Once you're there, date around a little, locally. Nothing serious, don't jump into being somebody's girlfriend, just let men take you out. Enjoy yourself. Then, after things feel a little more normal, find yourself a nice local man. No more LDR. They suck.
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