ashley.lucas Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 (edited) Okay I've been here many times so I apologize. Basically my boyfriend well ex now has been going out for 3 years and we broke up in May at first because I still liked the kid before him well thought I did. I know I hate myself for it. But we broke up and I stupidly went and hung out with that other kid for 1.5 months and we slept together I was dumb and naive and wasn't thinking. But it turns out my ex kissed my best friend 2 years ago I just found out when we were broken up. We did a lot of messed up things to each other and yes we hurt each other but we both got back together and decided to move forward. During the time back together we were really in love and he even proposed to me which I happily accepted but 3 days later my anxiety and ocd intrusive thoughts hit me and I thought I didnt love him anymore (i did still love him and still do) it was my ocd cuz I obsessed about it so bad. And he broke up with me because it hurt him and I understand but I ended up having to be treated and go to therapists and it was bad but we kept in touch and still hung out I still stayed the night and he kept telling me Yeah we will get back together if you find out you love me but he didn't give me a long time limit like a month because he didn't want to wait around and hurt to see if I truly loved him which I tried to be understanding. But then a couple weeks later he was like I thought a lot about getting back together but I stop myself because of everything we went through. And then he started to slowly pull away. And I did the normal breakup thing I became a text gnat and it was bad I didn't even realize how bad I texted so much I even made a collage of our pictures and put quotes around it and wrote a 5 page letter and burned him a CD of songs that meant something for us. And I begged and pleaded like a stupid girl and he finally messged back and was cold and rude saying no he wouldn't give me another chance and he "thinks he's done" and yeah just being rude he even left my PlayStation on a chair outside my house... And my best friend got a job at his work but they don't talk much but he walked up to her and basically told her that I was obsessed and we are never getting back together but he at first told her I don't want to be with her right now and then he came back and said never. It was a total 180 I'm so hurt and confused I do love him I never did fall out of love and I told him that and he said so what things change. I mean don't get me wrong I know I have messed up and don't deserve him but I love him and want to make him happy. But I know him really well and I know he's really wish washy. He will say one thing and then another and then go back and forth but I've never seen this side I just think I annyrs him to his core. Cuz I know he loves me but I need advice and I'm not being mean but please dont tell me to give up and move forward. I mean yes I'm moving forward but is there any advice on what to do I have cut off contact and everything. He lives right around the corner from me. And we were best friends before we got together in the first place and it's like we are enemies now. Do you think there's still a chance he will come back cuz I know people say things when they are mad and annoyed. Please don't be mean I just need help and advice. Thank you Edited November 1, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
TaraMaiden2 Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 I doubt it very, very much. How old are you ashley..?
NoLeafClover Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 When you cheat, aren't sure, go hot and cold, break up to make up...people get tired of it and usually find breaking up as a weight off their shoulder. I am sorry to tell you but leaving your ex for another guy just so you can go back to him is the last straw for many on here. Regardless what your reasons were. There is a reason why ex's don't usually get back together...because leaving the past behind is not an easy task. You need to leave him alone. If you have any respect for him you would Stop contacting him and let him be happy with someone else and you should do the same. This relationship has burned down all of its bridges. Every time another person is involved there is no turning back. Leave him alone and start moving on.
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