Reel1Diary Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 I started seeing this guy 3 months back and he's a nice guy but I'm thinking of ending it because all he does is come to my house straight after work without eating and it feels like I have to cook him something. We just sit watching TV until 1 in the morning and it's a family home, my daughter doesn't sit in the living room anymore. He has his own flat but never invites me around. He just likes to come here, I'm wondering if he is just using me for electricity, food and somewhere warm to sit. He has taken me out near the beginning a couple times and he brings me flowers. He works on a stall and brings me stuff like bag of onions or potatoes but I'd rather be taken for a drink or a meal. We're both in our 50s and it seems like it's going nowhere. I'm just wandering if anyone agrees with me?
smackie9 Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 He's a lazy dater....yes dump him. Your expectations are not being met, he doesn't pass.....if it were me yes it's a "Bubb-bye" 2
GemmaUK Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 Sounds like he isn't that a nice guy to me. He's sponging off you and has managed to get you just looking after him. Ditch him and make sure next time you date you don't let this happen again. 1
Author Reel1Diary Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 well i wouldnt call it sponging, its not that he expects a meal and its not everynight but its enough to bother me. so i shouldnt try talking to him?
meeji Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 No. You have a daughter to take care of. Forget that guy!...... He is setting a horrible example for her and setting low standards for how men should behave. Do you want your daughter growing up dating dead beats because she saw mommy do it? I'd boot him to the curb! ASAP!
d0nnivain Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 I'd talk to him about it before you just dump him. It seems like you ought to give somebody a chance to correct bad behavior before you just end things. He may think you want what is going on . . . him coming around & just hanging out. After you discuss your expectations if his behavior doesn't improve, then you can dump him. 3
Author Reel1Diary Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 Well I've already ended it now thanks for the advice 1
kendahke Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 Might be a good idea to not allow guys you're casually seeing to come to your home when your daughter is there until you've had a talk about intention and expectations. For me, I'd have had a talk with him after the 2nd time he did this and ask him what his intentions were and what his expectations are. He may have thought you were OK with this; if you weren't, you needed to own your voice and say something, especially if you said he was a nice guy. You led him to believe one thing when something completely different was afoot with you. 1
Buddhist Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 I started seeing this guy 3 months back and he's a nice guy but I'm thinking of ending it because all he does is come to my house straight after work without eating and it feels like I have to cook him something. We just sit watching TV until 1 in the morning and it's a family home, my daughter doesn't sit in the living room anymore. He has his own flat but never invites me around. He just likes to come here, I'm wondering if he is just using me for electricity, food and somewhere warm to sit. He has taken me out near the beginning a couple times and he brings me flowers. He works on a stall and brings me stuff like bag of onions or potatoes but I'd rather be taken for a drink or a meal. We're both in our 50s and it seems like it's going nowhere. I'm just wandering if anyone agrees with me? You're dating a 50yr old couch potato who makes no effort and went from dating to old married couple in the space of 3 months. I don't know if this is even a question you need to ask.... Of course dump him, he's boring as hell by the sounds of it. Life is supposed to be about something other than TV dinners.
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