unsureofthings Posted May 24, 2005 Posted May 24, 2005 Isn't it funny how life unfolds itself?? Here is a story for you.... I was with a girl for almost 4 years, 6 years ago. We bought a condo together and everything was incredible till one day she turned to me and said "I need to spread my wings and fly" To make a long story short, she left, we broke up and I was devistated. Mostly because I was so confused as to how this could happen. Especially when we were so good together. 6 years have passed now....I've been married and divorced, she was engaged and broke it off just before. I've never stopped thinking about her and always believed she was my soul mate. Well, guess what? Were back together again and things are amazing. I mean, it barely feels like we broke it off. It feels so good, so natural, so right?? She's appologized up and down and say's leaving was the dumbest thing she ever did. How she wanted to see if there was greener pastures and found out there wasnt. I guess my questions is....how do I know this is it this time?? Were both alot older and mature now, that's forsure. Sometimes I ask myself why wait any longer...just marry this girl already! Do I set a timeline?? HELP?? Were to go from here???
Opium Posted May 24, 2005 Posted May 24, 2005 how do I know this is it this time?? Were both alot older and mature now, that's forsure. Sometimes I ask myself why wait any longer...just marry this girl already! Do I set a timeline?? HELP?? Were to go from here??? Well think of it this way. Yes it's great your back together but don't rush. She was able to flap her wings and fly, she needed time to herself and maybe figure out what exactly she wanted out of life. Like you said, your both older and more mature which makes a big difference. I wouldn't necessarliy set a timeline. Theirs still a lot of catching up to do. You've been apart for a long time and these things take time. What if you realize she's not the same person and you just have an illusion of what she use to be and you're still in love with that person. Time goes by and people change, you can't jump into marriage because honestly ask yourself, Is she the same person, Did she change for the better, Are you the same person, and Are you ready???
RoxStar Posted May 24, 2005 Posted May 24, 2005 How old was she when she needed to spread her wings? Tough call. She broke your heart once, it could happen again but it also could be KISSMET. Maybe it was meant to be. Only time will tell. So yes give it a time line. You may find that in the beginning everything is hunkydorey but time will be the true test.
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