Reitteg813 Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 (edited) Was talking to and hanging out with this girl for 2 months. She was really into me, she'd text me all day everyday, quite literally like from anywhere around 7:30-8:30 in the morning until she went to bed, we kissed every time we hung out,no sex though, we had s great first date she was worried she'd never see me again, had a little second date slump, but got better towards the end, and in my opinion it got better ever since, but apparently not to her, she said there was just no spark. It's been 4-5 days since we ended things Weird thing is, we only hung out 3 times over 7 weeks, which made me wonder. We are both busy people, but still I feel like no matter how busy you are you can make some time for someone you want to see. Made me think she may still be hung up on her ex, the only boyfriend she had, it was a bad relationship though and she most have really loved the guy if she stuck around even after he cheated on her multiple times, and he was so needy and insecure he wouldn't let her go out on weekends with her friends. They broke up for the last time I think about a year ago. Anyone ever heard of someone getting a second chance after getting told no spark? I just didn't think 3 dates over 7 weeks totaling only 4.5 hours together was enough time to tells. I know I'm going to get a lot of people saying move on, obviously easier to say then do, I fell pretty hard for her Edited November 1, 2015 by Reitteg813
Simon Phoenix Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 If there's no initial spark, the odds of there being a spark down the road are extremely low. If she saw you three times in seven weeks, you weren't much of a priority. Not what you want to hear, but I don't see this happening for you. I would suggest less texting and more one-on-one time next time. Don't blow your wad over text.
Meli22 Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 I've been on dates where I felt no spark, and I didn't look back after I'd called things off with them. Some tried to restart things again but I wasn't interested at all. Seeing you 3 times in 7 weeks is very telling too. Just leave this one as it is, a spark can't be forced. It may be due to unresolved feelings for her ex or maybe she just wasn't into you enough to take things further, it happens.
mightycpa Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 If you fell pretty hard for her with 3 dates in 7 weeks, then I'd say that what is actually happening is that chemically, you're ready to fall in love. I would suggest that you start asking girls out right away, a few of them, and winnow the field down to those who are obvious about liking you. There's some good magic in your future if you do that.
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