Guyouthere Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 So the lady/coworker I went to see at the hospital recently (she is doing much better), came to me today and told me that she "needed to talk". Subject was that she said her friend was interested in renting part of the house and moving in. Her friend is the lady who was also in the hospital room that night i went, so we had a chance to mingle for a while. Since my coworker (who was my former boss too), knew all about my previous situation, and has known me for nearly 2 years, knows I have a nice place, single, and "available", I am sensing this is more than just "roommates". She also knew all along that it would be really a living together arrangement (but of course doesn't have to be). Her friend is single and looking too, and I'm sure "women talk". I was told I will get a call tomorrow from her (but I will be at work most of the afternoon/night). I guess I'll know more when I meet this woman. I'm not expecting this to be a romantic "arrangement", but who knows these days. Of course rules need to be layed down, and both of us understand what each wants. After all, I don't want to pressure this woman, but as said, these women MIGHT have other plans that way. I will know more when she comes over.
CalvinM Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 If only this woman knew what she was in for. Someone should really warn her. 2
GemmaUK Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 You are assuming way too much here. She is looking to find a place to rent. That is all. I think you need to be upfront about what you are thinking this situation will be. I wouldn't want to move into a place and then become aware that the owner was expecting more than my rent payments. 7
Eternal Sunshine Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 I am considering a male flatmate and I can assure you that "romance" or "sex" is that last thing on my mind. WTF. 2
Empyrea Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 One does not crap where one eats, pardon my french. I can also assure you that if a woman is looking for a partner and/or to be set up with a guy, the worst idea in the world would be to become their roommate... because so much could go wrong! So yeah, I highly doubt that's what she's thinking. If you're interested in her, refuse the roommate offer and ask her out on a date instead. 5
Author Guyouthere Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 If only this woman knew what she was in for. Someone should really warn her. I'll show her my freezers,,, but she should be at ease because they are already full
Author Guyouthere Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 You are assuming way too much here. She is looking to find a place to rent. That is all. I think you need to be upfront about what you are thinking this situation will be. I wouldn't want to move into a place and then become aware that the owner was expecting more than my rent payments. Yes, very true. I will clarify and have it clarified…. no surprises for either of us.
Author Guyouthere Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 I am considering a male flatmate and I can assure you that "romance" or "sex" is that last thing on my mind. WTF. Given my coworkers comments and how we know each other, it can honestly mean either or in this case. But I will not assume. Discussions needs to be had with her.
Author Guyouthere Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 My friend (coworker) has a history of setting others up with relationships.
GemmaUK Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 Yes, very true. I will clarify and have it clarified…. no surprises for either of us. Good. Your friend has likely told her friend the following: 49 year old guy. Lives in a pretty big place. Looks after his 90 yo mother who also lives there. Works in retail. Often goes off for the day on his boat. Sounds all pretty safe and good for a single woman wanting to find a place to rent. Add in that the guy is looking for sex and or a possible relationship out of the rental and it changes the whole situation to pretty unpleasant. 3
Maggie4 Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 OP you're thinking like a man, but that's not how women operate!
J21 Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 Girls are constantly hitting on you and now you have one trying to move in to sleep with you! Lucky guy! 1
katiegrl Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 Girls are constantly hitting on you and now you have one trying to move in to sleep with you! Lucky guy! But yet the one he actually asked out, said no and complained about him! Interesting... 2
Author Guyouthere Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 Good. Your friend has likely told her friend the following: 49 year old guy. Lives in a pretty big place. Looks after his 90 yo mother who also lives there. Works in retail. Often goes off for the day on his boat. Sounds all pretty safe and good for a single woman wanting to find a place to rent. Add in that the guy is looking for sex and or a possible relationship out of the rental and it changes the whole situation to pretty unpleasant. Safe until I take her out shark fishing. hehehe Well, I'll get her some shark boots, and alert her to the fact that they like to chomp down on the seat she will be sitting on ( i had to replace it last year for that reason) . Not much room to escape when the boat is 13+ feet long.
Author Guyouthere Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 I won't be using the boat much for the winter though,,,, winter is a good time for beach diving for the goods. Summertime is when its great to be out there in the Gulfstream. Nothing like getting close to a waterspout too
Author Guyouthere Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 OP you're thinking like a man, but that's not how women operate! well I'm willing to bet this is what her friend is looking for. That is my idea based on what I know my friend is like, how we have talked before in the past as well. After all too, we had plenty of interaction and still do. If I was a bad guy, she would have never even thought of having her friend live here at all. My friend went through hell herself (I won't discuss it here), but she nearly lost her life to a guy, and is the last one who would ever get fooled by one again. The fact she respects me as she does means and says a lot in itself. I am honored to know her.
Author Guyouthere Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 Girls are constantly hitting on you and now you have one trying to move in to sleep with you! Lucky guy! when ya got it, ya got it. hehehe (just like a disease) lol
GemmaUK Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 I'm guessing this is meant to be amusing in some way but it sounds gross and creepy to me. The whole scenario and your assumption of it does. Clearly this is only my opinion and that of most on here though going by the postings in this thread. Perhaps your potential lodger/sex buddy will be happy with this setup. I'm glad that you will be warning her about the sex part before she moves in though. 2
Author Guyouthere Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 I'm guessing this is meant to be amusing in some way but it sounds gross and creepy to me. The whole scenario and your assumption of it does. Clearly this is only my opinion and that of most on here though going by the postings in this thread. Perhaps your potential lodger/sex buddy will be happy with this setup. I'm glad that you will be warning her about the sex part before she moves in though. Dont assume I am looking for sex from her, coz I am not. Honestly I would prefer a genuine lady who sees the value in who I am and what she can have in life here. I am actually reluctant to bring her here because I don't want to pressure her for that, and won't. I do have a feeling that this woman is looking for me as a good catch, and her friend (my friend) is and has likely been talking along those lines as well My friend and I had many a conversations in the past about all relationships, including hers, and including what she looks for in a guy. I believe I will be able to "feel her out" and her intentions out once I meet her for a chat. The reality is I am a good guy who has a lot to offer a woman. I haven't been "on the market", really the only reason I have not been snatched up already. I am not worried about a thing really.
Author Guyouthere Posted November 2, 2015 Author Posted November 2, 2015 wanted to add too that this friend of mine,,,, I was the ONLY one to visit her in the hospital. NOONE else from the job bothered to do as much as call or visit her, and the hospital is only a few miles down the road too. She was ill once before too, pneumonia, and none cared except me. That says a lot about this area (or culture) as a whole. I grew up on Miami Beach, in a different time in history, back when people tended to have more respect and caring for each other. It comes natural to me to visit someone and care about them. I don't witness that in many people anymore. The few people I have known throughout my life, the ones worth knowing, have been the same type as I am. And I'm sure she appreciates it, because the first time around when she told me I was the only one who cared, she made mention of how much it meant to her. And so whether or not she is setting me up for just a live in partner, or something "more", I still don't know. She has a high opinion of me, and it makes me feel good too. I saw her today, and will again tomorrow. I'll keep you all posted on what happens concerning the other lady. I have to interview her first and lay everything out, get her expectations as well.
GemmaUK Posted November 4, 2015 Posted November 4, 2015 wanted to add too that this friend of mine,,,, I was the ONLY one to visit her in the hospital. NOONE else from the job bothered to do as much as call or visit her, and the hospital is only a few miles down the road too. She was ill once before too, pneumonia, and none cared except me. That says a lot about this area (or culture) as a whole. I grew up on Miami Beach, in a different time in history, back when people tended to have more respect and caring for each other. It comes natural to me to visit someone and care about them. I don't witness that in many people anymore. The few people I have known throughout my life, the ones worth knowing, have been the same type as I am. And I'm sure she appreciates it, because the first time around when she told me I was the only one who cared, she made mention of how much it meant to her. And so whether or not she is setting me up for just a live in partner, or something "more", I still don't know. She has a high opinion of me, and it makes me feel good too. I saw her today, and will again tomorrow. I'll keep you all posted on what happens concerning the other lady. I have to interview her first and lay everything out, get her expectations as well. I hope I am misinterpreting but this almost makes it sound as though the lady is a prize/gift for visiting your co-worker/friend in hospital.
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