Jimmyjackson Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 I've been single for a while now, over a year anyway, can't remember the exact amount of time. I go through stages where sometimes I feel happy being on my own, but other times I get a bit down and feel lonely. I recently started a new job, my first full time one which I am enjoying and I hit the gym 4 times a week, see friends and so forth. I just feel like something is missing, a girlfriend perhaps? All of my work mates are in relationships too which makes me feel the odd one out ha. Since being single I've had little causal things here and there and spoken to girls but nothing serious at all, but I feel I'd be ready for something good right now. I know you can't force it and it will happen when it does but I just can't help but feel lonely sometimes and pessimistic about future relationships. Any tips on how to combat feeling lonely? I'd love to have the 'bachelor' mindset, but I just don't think its for me.
sportygirl89 Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 I've been single for 3 years. I volunteer, go to the gym, and go to church with an active singles group. I hang out with friends when I can. I got pets as well. Nothing beats unconditional love from animals.
Author Jimmyjackson Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 I've been single for 3 years. I volunteer, go to the gym, and go to church with an active singles group. I hang out with friends when I can. I got pets as well. Nothing beats unconditional love from animals. My mum has three cats but I hate the buggers haha!
techiedino Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 adopt a pet if you can. How about trying a new hobby? or learn something new
Tayla Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 as quirky as this sounds, we are each autonomous. Once you accept that , you can be alone and not lonely. Its healthy to interact on social levels. Its also healthy to be independent and carefree. People seem to gravitate towards the person who is fine and dandy in their environment. Start a list of things you would like to achieve... inspire and challenge yourself!
Author Jimmyjackson Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 as quirky as this sounds, we are each autonomous. Once you accept that , you can be alone and not lonely. Its healthy to interact on social levels. Its also healthy to be independent and carefree. People seem to gravitate towards the person who is fine and dandy in their environment. Start a list of things you would like to achieve... inspire and challenge yourself! Well I am fine on my own most of the time, I just I have TOO much alone time sometimes. I'm a really confident and funny person around others it just doesn't seem to get me anywhere ha
2.50 a gallon Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 After the break up of my marriage at age 35, I found myself alone, a thousand miles away from friends and family. All of our friend were her friends so I was friendless. Very dark days, I felt like I was at the bottom of bottomless pit of nothingness. The Ex and I had two kittens we used to take to the park to let run around. So one Sunday, to get away from the lonely apartment I took them to the park. I did not realize kittens were chick magnets. I met a gal I later dated. Another gal stopped by with her BF to see the kitten, he offered me one of his beers and they point out a gaggle of people by the grills and invited me over where they were having an outing. The following weekend was playing softball with these new friends. When my lease of the apartment with the Ex finally ran out, I found myself a large apartment complex with lots of young people, swimming pool. pool tables, and volley ball net. First thing I bought when moving in was a Weber grill and a electric ice cream maker. Within a couple of weeks and had lots of new friends coming by on Sunday helping me with making homemade ice cream. Thanksgiving holiday, what do I do with three days off, other than football. Then I remembered finding a bag of old cookie cutters, my mom hand given us. So spent the holidays baking and decorating to the ninth degree a batch of Christmas cookies. When I shared them with my new neighbors, I was surprised to find that several gals were offering to come and help then next time I baked cookies. I think I baked and another 3 batches and each time they brought over their favorite cutters and a bottle of wine. If you get my drift. I found that I liked to live alone. I could do what I wanted with whomever I wanted, whenever I wanted and had nobody to answer to. That lasted for 14 years. Then I met this gal totally out of my league in the looks department, was hoping for a FWB relationship. Second date, first kiss and I was a goner. Third or fourth date, she came over to bake Halloween cookies, with me. Then it was Thanksgiving cookies and later Christmas cookie. We have now been together for over 20 years. Another thing I learned during my bachelor days is that most women like men who celebrate the holidays. When I put up lights and decorations it was like a neon sign that said a guy who enjoys the holidays lives here
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