Female dumpees, did you ever contact him again, after he applied the NC rule?

[JustAnotherLostLove]

Hey everyone,

 

Just curious, regarding the odds of this. Female dumpees, did you ever reach out, and or, reconcile with your ex, after no contact from him? If so, how long after the fact, why, and did it ever work out?

 

Thanks!

[ExpatInItaly]

No, I haven't reached out in the hopes of reconciliation. I needed to contact an ex several months after we broke up because we needed to sort out a tax matter (we'd lived together and filed taxes as a common-law couple) We caught up briefly on the phone and that was it.

[sparkles_and_me]

We have been in no contact 2 days after the breakup until now. I have no plans in breaking NC. NC helped me so much to move on and let go.

[NoMoreJerks]

Hey everyone,

 

Just curious, regarding the odds of this. Female dumpees, did you ever reach out, and or, reconcile with your ex, after no contact from him? If so, how long after the fact, why, and did it ever work out?

 

Thanks!

I didn't reach out after my first break-up with my ex. I had begged for over a month every time he tried to break up, and managed to convince him not to proceed with it;but ultimately, he was adamant and finally broke up, and I was already tired of doing the whole begging thing, so I went NC right away and never bothered to contact him, not even for his Bday. He was still on my FB though, but I didn't comment on his stuff, or like them, or check his profile/timeline. Eventually, he got p*ssed off, and removed me from facebook. Then, two days later, he emailed me. I replied to his email saying that he had made his bed, let him lie in it now. He replied to that, and begged for me to take him back. I did. (big mistake)

 

3 weeks after we reconciled, he broke up with me again. I didn't beg this time around. He seemed adamant, said he chose his friends over me, and I figured if he broke up a second time after I had forgiven him the first time around, clearly he didn't care about my feelings and took my forgiveness for granted, or thinks the door will be open for him if he regretted it this time too. I did email him this time, though. I had a weak moment and panicked when I saw him on a dating site (in hindsight, I think he may have put that profile on there for me to see, since he did not include accurate info or put his pic, but put his username something that I would recognize easily if I ever searched for men in the location where he lived and with the age criterion). He didn't reply to my email, and I am back to NC and won't be contacting him ever again. Won't even be responding if he ever emails me asking me to take him back or asking to be friends. The last thing I want is to be friends with someone like that. I thought I knew him, but clearly didn't.

[itisdanielle]

My ex ended things a month ago, I did NC for a week then reached out as I had so many questions - totally regret this now. Since then I've done NC. I have no intention of messaging him. Even though I still miss him and wish the relationship hadn't ended.

 

The way I see it is that the dumpee should never contact first, regardless of whether they are male or female.

 

The only reason I would want my ex (the dumper) to reach out is if he regretted the decision and wanted me back. But then again I wouldn't take him back anyway (cheating, lying - which I found out about after he ended it), so it's probably best he didn't.

[TaraMaiden2]

Nope. Never did, never would. Never regretted it.