RSEJ Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 Im gonna make this as brief as possible: Ive never had a girlfriend in my life, quite a few 'sexual partners' but up to this point never been in love. March 1st 2015 - met a girl got to know her over text, met up, kissed, never had sex with her but I fell in love with her. I felt like we really connected. Late March - she calls it off as i was leaving the country in 5 months, I later question her more about this and it turns out her ex is returning to the country for a weeks holiday. I try everything I can to win her over but it doesnt work, I accept it and it hurts so much but I try to move on. May - He arrives and they go off somewhere for the week, I accept it and i guess im happy she's happy. June - She contacts me out of the blue asking to meet up and saying shes sorry for cutting me out of her life. She tells me she misses me, I start to let her back in but... me never being in love before and never having a girlfriend I let her in two easily, I was a bit to clingy I spose and thats never really attractive. Mid June - She tells me she doesnt have any feelings for me. July - I leave the country back to my home country England. My number is changed and I unfriend her on FB. October 29th - she adds me on FB. Now she lead me on so much and do remember this is SUMMARISED as much as I could. If you want to read the full story and I hope you do please: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/537667-first-love-painful-experience-but-i-learnt-alot The questions: 1. I didnt fall in love with her looks, I fell in love wth her personality.. so why do I think shes the physically most beautiful girl Ill ever have. 2. I want to accept the facebook add. Ive learnt now that love... unfortunately whether you like it or not is a game, once they see how much yo like they they think they can do better. Should I accept or just leave it and if she replies saying sorry then maybe. 3. Its been 7 months since I met her, and ive thought about her every single day..
mightycpa Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 I'm gonna make this reply as brief as possible, I've had a ton of girlfriends and been in love a few times, but that's really neither here nor there. She's on a different continent, and if you continue to pine after her from several thousand miles away, it will interfere with you meeting a nice girl from the UK that you probably have much more in common with, and that you can actually touch. When somebody leaves you to spend a week with another guy, and after that tells you that she has no feelings for you, the best thing you can do is believe her, no matter what she says later. If you're going to think about her all the time, think about that instead of whatever fantasies are swirling around in your head. 1
Author RSEJ Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 I'm gonna make this reply as brief as possible, I've had a ton of girlfriends and been in love a few times, but that's really neither here nor there. She's on a different continent, and if you continue to pine after her from several thousand miles away, it will interfere with you meeting a nice girl from the UK that you probably have much more in common with, and that you can actually touch. When somebody leaves you to spend a week with another guy, and after that tells you that she has no feelings for you, the best thing you can do is believe her, no matter what she says later. If you're going to think about her all the time, think about that instead of whatever fantasies are swirling around in your head. Thanks man.... I think this has hit me so hard and for so long because I've never had a gf and she.. was the closest thing to it.
mightycpa Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 First one of anything is always the hardest. You've done it once, now do it again, over and over, until you get good at it.
Author RSEJ Posted November 5, 2015 Author Posted November 5, 2015 Can I have some more opinions on this especially to the specific questions I asked please. She hasnt contacted me yet, still just the add :/:(
dumbass2 Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 No, do not accept the add. Do not remain in contact and do not reply if she contacts you. You have feelings for her and it's just not gonna work, you're in another country now. She can't give you what you want, she doesn't feel the same. It's your first love and she wont be your last. Just chalk this up as your first and move forward because it will get you nowhere and keep you in limbo wanting this girl. You have questions for her you still want answered and no matter what you would hear from her, you will still have questions. It wont end until you walk away and accept it for what it was. you have to do it, she is not going to help you with that. It was more to you then her because she was your first. You had that taste of love and you want it again, but find it again with another woman.
EgoJoe Posted November 5, 2015 Posted November 5, 2015 She is a user. Next her. What's to love in a personality that is so selfish? Send her a message, tell her off and block her. Then start to learn about Women, relationships and emotions.
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