BelleSkye Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 Traumatic break up, he went immediate nc with me (a first for him after many break ups and get togethers) and now im suffering from nightmares. I move out of the flat I shared with him for the past two years. Some of the dreams we are good, some of the njghtmares begging him back before I move out. Please help me.
mystikmind2005 Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 I used to have dreams where i am trying to reach out to my ex but she always turns away from me. The dreams stopped when i started regaining my self confidence, and realized i am someone worth loving and giving love. I am pleased to tell you BelleSkye, you are a person worth loving, and giving love 1
HurtinPDX Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 I'm having nightmares too. In some I am begging, just feeling horrible pain. In others he is verbally abusing me the way he used to do, and I am sobbing, begging him to stop. In the dreams he is here. I often wake with tears on my cheeks. Mine is a very traumatic break-up too. We broke up and got back together more times than I can count. This time it is for good and it is killing me. I am reminding myself this is grief, this is normal. This is how people with hearts feel. I lost a child years ago, and the grief felt like this. It was unbearable, like animals were tearing me apart. I had dreams about her for several years. I used to dream the phone rang and someone was telling me to come get her. Eventually the dreams ended, especially once I learned to verbalize my feelings to myself ("you are in pain," "this is normal, you are grieving.") Once awhile ago I dreamed of her in a happy way, she was touching my cheek. The grief is still there but I am at peace with it now. Thank you for sharing that I am not the only one. 1
Firstheartbreaksux Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 I had a great Halloween weekend. I spent it with my children and they had so much as did I. And I went to parties both Friday and yesterday. I met a girl on Friday and had an incredible ego boost and for the first time since the by/nc around 10weeks ago had some genuine fun. Although I will probably never see the girl again that's OK. But last night I had a dream about my ex. I've only had one other one and it hurt. It was her coming back to me and realizing we were meant to be. But the one last night, was her telling me the complete opposite and she told me she found s better connection with someone else. That dream devastated me. I stayed in bed all day today sulking. Its truly the worst I've felt since the actual bu.
Giggle Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Not a break-up but nightmares where my mom was back and then I wake up to the realization that no, she's still gone. It's like the loss of her is fresh then. Because she was just in my life again. I had a major doozy where she asked me why I hadn't waited longer to unplug the machines that were keeping her alive. My mom would /never/ but good Gawd that was painful to dream. I am sad she is gone, but try to be glad for her not having to hurt like she was. I don't remember the dreams I had when my husband left me from someone else, but I like to remind myself that yes we had good times, but we weren't good for each other. Smile that it happened, sad it didn't work and wish him happiness because I did love him still. 1
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