Thatdude1112 Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 I contacted this girl through ig then it moved to snapchat wjere i asked her out to breakfast she flaked then i said we could go sumwhere else ( a night outing) she gabe a thumbs up.. Then we comtinued to talk i did all the flirted she wud just say thanks and lol at the beginning she would reach out a little alzo wen we statyed snap she reached out top but became a little distant.. I asked for her # she gabe it to me we have been texted only i do all the initating she replies to my messages sumtimes. She recently told me she was talking with a guy and that they fought & it might b over.. Shud i keep in contact as a friwnds or state that i like her and try to mKe another date. I dont want to go out and for her to think its only as friends.. If i do say i like u wont it b weird we have only lmown each other for 2 mos and nevee spoke on phone or seen each other
CalvinM Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 She's not interested. I'm not sure she could've made it any clearer. She probably enjoys the attention, but she clearly isn't into dating you. Delete her number. Move on. 2
Author Thatdude1112 Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 Why would she givw me her # when she was already a little distant?
ExpatInItaly Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 Sorry but the atrocious spelling makes this a pain in the arse to read. OP, can you clean it up and put your message into correct English? You'll get more responses. 8
katiegrl Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 Sorry but the atrocious spelling makes this a pain in the arse to read. OP, can you clean it up and put your message into correct English? You'll get more responses. Agree and OP, seriously, if you text the way you posted here, no wonder this girl distanced herself. Bad spelling and grammar indicate a certain laziness, which is a turn off to many women. 6
Author Thatdude1112 Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 Im asking for Answers not correction of my spelling
katiegrl Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 Im asking for Answers not correction of my spelling Suggestions to correct spelling and grammar *are* answers. As again, it indicates a certain laziness and that is a turn off to most women! I think she is on the fence about you. It might not hurt to continue texting, and if you do, put some thought into how those texts come across. If they are chock full of spelling errors and bad grammar, I wish you luck....huge turn off. You dismiss this like it's not important, but it is!
d0nnivain Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 Im asking for Answers not correction of my spelling It would be easier to help you if we could understand you. I think you are saying so far you only have a virtual relationship with her. You have only communicated by Instagram, Snapchat & text but have not met in person. Is that correct? If so, after 2 months if you haven't managed to get together, there's not much hope that she wants to take this off line & into RL. I also think you asked her out to breakfast but she flaked? Does that mean she got upset that it was breakfast instead of something more conventional or are you saying you showed up at the designated place for breakfast & she stood you up? Either way, neither is particularly nice. You said she gave a "thumbs up" to a night outing. Have you ever gone on that outing? If you like her & want to date her staying in her friendzone is your worst choice. You will be relegated to the sidelines. Do you really want to here about the other guys she likes? 1
Author Thatdude1112 Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 Of course i do not want to hear about other guys.. The breakfast never happened so i suggested a night outing gave a thumbs up. & told her any weekend she is free let me know. Through snap i asked for her number she gave it to me & we have been texting mostly me. Gm hows your day ect things like that. Then she told me about some guy she was talking to & how ot might not work but didnt say more about it & i didnt ask. Then i didnt contact for two days on third day i hit her up a quick what u doing for halloween. Lol I do like her and was thinking anout asking one final time to go out. She seems like a good person genuinly and i like that. If she says no or makes an excuse. Should i go no contact or stay friendly
fitnessfan365 Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 Bad spelling and grammar indicate a certain laziness, which is a turn off to many women. When I started getting into online dating, it was amazing how many women complimented me profusely on my grammar/sentence structure. You'd never think that basic English could be such an aphrodisiac. 1
katiegrl Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 Of course i do not want to hear about other guys.. The breakfast never happened so i suggested a night outing gave a thumbs up. & told her any weekend she is free let me know. Through snap i asked for her number she gave it to me & we have been texting mostly me. Gm hows your day ect things like that. Then she told me about some guy she was talking to & how ot might not work but didnt say more about it & i didnt ask. Then i didnt contact for two days on third day i hit her up a quick what u doing for halloween. Lol I do like her and was thinking anout asking one final time to go out. She seems like a good person genuinly and i like that. If she says no or makes an excuse. Should i go no contact or stay friendly Thatdude....saying "any weekend you are free let me know" sounds very casual, like something a friend would say. Same with asking her what she's doing for Halloween. She may assume you just wants to be friends....or is confused about what you want. I think you should call her and ask her out. Be direct, "would you like to have dinner with me next Tuesday"? Something like that, right now you sound too casual. So ask her out one more time, if she makes an excuse, move on and go no contact. I would not suggest you continue texting, etc. It would serve no purpose. I mean you want to date her, right? And not be just friends? 1
Author Thatdude1112 Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 Of course i do not want to hear about other guys.. The breakfast never happened so i suggested a night outing gave a thumbs up. & told her any weekend she is free let me know. Through snap i asked for her number she gave it to me & we have been texting mostly me. Gm hows your day ect things like that. Then she told me about some guy she was talking to & how ot might not work but didnt say more about it & i didnt ask. Then i didnt contact for two days on third day i hit her up a quick what u doing for halloween. Lol I do like her and was thinking anout asking one final time to go out. She seems like a good person genuinly and i like that. If she says no or makes an excuse. Should i go no contact or stay friendly
fitnessfan365 Posted November 1, 2015 Posted November 1, 2015 Thatdude....saying "any weekend you are free let me know" sounds very casual, like something a friend would say. Same with asking her what she's doing for Halloween. She may assume you just wants to be friends....or is confused about what you want. I think you should call her and ask her out. Be direct, "would you like to have dinner with me next Tuesday"? Something like that, right now you sound too casual. So ask her out one more time, if she makes an excuse, move on and go no contact. I would not suggest you continue texting, etc. It would serve no purpose. I mean you want to date her, right? And not be just friends? Definitely agree that he's being WAY too casual. Being direct like Katie recommended is confident which women love. But for what it's worth, the only thing I'd do differently is ask "When are you free this week?" With a new woman, you don't know what her schedule is like yet. You could wind up choosing a day that doesn't work for her. It's far less hassle to let her offer a few days she can get together and then plan based on that IMO.
Author Thatdude1112 Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 Weekends she is free because she is always doing something. Idk how she could be confused i flirt with her but nothing sexual might turn her off , friends dont do that. At the beginning of meeting her i asksd if she was single so idk where the confusion could be. If i do end up going out with her ill be casual i do not want to have any expections to avoid dissappointment.
Author Thatdude1112 Posted January 6, 2016 Author Posted January 6, 2016 I have been communicating with this women since aug/sept. I asked her out once she curved me. Then about a month or two ago she told me about someone she waa talking to and how it might not workout. I didnt ask too many questions about it. Shes friendly with me as im more complimentary with her and flirtatious. Anyway i got her # in oct?.. But havent called her yet just snap & text. I asked whens a good time to call ( she has two jobs and could be busy) i dont think i should of asked and just called. I plan on asking her out one more time if im curved again i will stop pursuing her romantically and keep her as a friend.
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