Winesar21 Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 I sit her right now sobbing. I was in a relationship for two years. He broke up with me via email after trying to do it on the phone a week prior. Never let me respond to his emails. He was the most caring person I knew. He literally had my back in every situation. I don't know what I did to deserve this response?????? It has been three weeks and I haven't heard from him. In his email he said he would like to get together in a few weeks but until then we should talk. I frantically sent him a million emails since he blocked my number and work number right away. I wanted my things back. The relationship had been rocky but I thought we were doing better. The previous weekends together were amazing and he agreed. I don't get this type of behavior. He always said we would be friends and that he preferred when people gave bad news in person from his previous experiences. He is very non confrontational. I wish I could just disappear. I can't endure anymore pain. He was everything I wanted minus a few things. No other person compares. 1
Author Winesar21 Posted October 30, 2015 Author Posted October 30, 2015 On top of it I keep having dreams where he talks to me or he cuts me off. It's so hard for me to even want to do anything besides cry. I mean does anyone deserve this type of treatment? The last time I heard his voice he said love you and see you tonight. 2
Bito Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Being blindsided is the worst. The best thing you could do at this point is to move on. He clearly has already made up his mind about the relationship. You have to destroy the pedastal you have him on in your mind. People are constantly changeing and dynamic beings. Having an effigierial view of people always leads to heartbreak and torment. Best of luck.
pidgeon1010 Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 Sorry you are in so much pain. I know it seems impossible right now but it does get better. Breakups are hard and being caught off guard/blindsided magnifies the pain ten fold. It happened to me about 6 months ago and I could barely function- my whole existence was in a flux. The pain and anguish was unbearable but luckily most humans are built to withstand what seems like an intolerable amount of emotional turmoil. The sun will come out eventually, little by little. You just have to take it one day at a time. I would stop emailing, give it at least a few weeks (3+) and then send a curt email, asking about your stuff (is it really important stuff you have to get back?). Best wishes!
Injen Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 Hey, I know how it feels and everyone is right when they say it gets better. I am recently going through a breakup where we were good one day and the next I get the cold shoulder. I have been browsing other post and seen someone post this link that really gave me great insight on what is going through the dumpers mind during this time. Hopefully it will help you as much as it did to me. https://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=425892
LostOnes05 Posted November 8, 2015 Posted November 8, 2015 It hurts doesn't it. It's supposed to because you cared. Now, what you shouldn't do is give in to the urge to contact him (Im a guy by the way). That means no email, phone calls, smoke signals...nothing. If you can live without getting these things back...live without them. Let him have the constant reminder that he blindsided you and broke up with you over email. If you get the urge to write an email, write it on paper and throw it in the trash. Do that until you've said everything you need to say about what happened or until you run out of paper or ink . Then move on.
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