Witeee Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Hi guys, Been back into the dating world now for 2 and a half months. I was at my local shopping mall last Monday. A girl was walking towards me and she gave me this really sexy look. I decided to approach her. I said "hey you just gave me the sexiest look I've had all day". And it went from there. I was nervous as hell but we were laughing and joking. I also had a look at her lips and up to her eyes just to see what she would do. She had a good look at my lips too. So I could tell she was into me. I asked for her number and we said our goodbyes. On the Tuesday I sent her a text saying "hey its the guy you met at xx and told all your friends about. Hope you're doing great". Two days pass without a response. So Thursday I decide to give her a call. I call and she picks up. I say hey and tell her who I am. She remembers but she seems quite distant. I make an inside joke connecting to when we met. Which she laughed at. Then she says "hey can I call you tomorrow I'm actually in the car at the moment". I say "sure I'm just heading out myself". She then says "if I don't call you tomorrow you can call me again". I say "hey whenever you get the time get back to me". To which she said "call me". I said "I've gotta go so have a great evening". She said "you too, talk soon." I never expected a call and I haven't had one. I'm not going to call tonight but should I even get back to her? Seems the ball is in her court? Yet some girls do like a guy to do the persuing. I'm not sure what my move is. I feel like leaving it a good 4 days and then shooting off a text...
RightThere Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 I'm not sure what my move is. I feel like leaving it a good 4 days and then shooting off a text... If you want to make sure and totally eff it up, then definitely wait 4 days before calling her. Just call her. If she flakes out, then move on. 1
lilmissjava Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 I would put a twenty on the fact she has a significant other. Definitely don't call back. You have pursued enough. If she wants to get in touch with you, she will.
Author Witeee Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 Hmm I don't know about the significant other. I did ask "who's the lucky guy" when I met her and she said "nobody". And I said "really?" and she said "yes". The fact she said "if I don't call you; call me" makes me think she must be a bit interested. And "speak soon". I feel like I should be at least asking her out before I stop persisting.
fitnessfan365 Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 To be honest, she seems like kind of a flake and an attention seeker. If she was truly interested, she would've texted back IMO. Then to show even lower interest she goes from saying "Can I call you tomorrow?" to "If I don't call you tomorrow, you can call me" and stresses once again to call her. I like that you stuck to your guns and kept the frame that she should call you back because that's what she said originally. You've already texted her once and done a follow up call. You shouldn't have to keep chasing her IMO. I say let her get back to you and if she never does oh well. Wouldn't you rather date a woman who doesn't jerk you around anyways?
Author Witeee Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 Very well said. I'm struggling between that view and the one that says - maybe she just wants to make sure that I actually am interested and not a player. She did say nobody has approached her in that way before, so I'd imagine this scenario is new to her. I don't know. I'm getting conflicting avenue's regarding this. 1. If I leave it she might think... I like him but he clearly isn't very persistent...and women are conditioned to think thats the way it should be. Or... she see's me as a guy who can take it or leave it and be attracted to that. 2. If I call she may see that as me being too needy/compliant and be put off. Or see me as being persistent and make a date.
Lansing Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 Friday wasn't a good day to call her. Wait until Sunday afternoon or early evening to call her. I would give her one more chance and then stop putting in any effort. This way you will know for sure and you won't regret not trying. I often see advice saying if a girl was interested she would call, respond, etc but from personal example there are many situations at weddings where the girl will say " I wasn't even that interested in him but he asked me out a 2nd time..." Etc
Author Witeee Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 It was early Thursday evening I called. I was thinking Sunday afternoon if I was to call at all. At the end of the day its best to have the girl chasing you. Thats the result you want after a good 3-4 dates. At this stage though after a 15 minute chat. I don't think you can expect her to be easy.
xcupid Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 Call her. She won't call you. Ask her out. No more dancing around with her.
meeji Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 I'm a very straight forward person. I would make the call and get straight to the point. You will know by her response or lack of if she is interested or not. Make the call and get your answer.
Author Witeee Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 Well I called and she didn't answer. Sent a text saying "sorry I can't talk right now".
xUnknown Posted November 2, 2015 Posted November 2, 2015 Well I called and she didn't answer. Sent a text saying "sorry I can't talk right now". bail. Don't call her again.
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