Author Guyouthere Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 She had her hands all over you while you were at work? Come on now.... we have big aisles and some of them aren't used much by anyone. Yes, she did. i have to say I was surprised by it too.
Author Guyouthere Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 I have only ever used "I have a boyfriend" line when: A) I actually had a boyfriend B) I wanted to guy to back off Never have I used it as a means of getting more attention from a man. Not once. I think this woman either realized she was crossing a line or you misinterpreted he signals. Either way, the message is clear now. Cease and desist. If it was just words, she wouldn't have had her hands on me. That is why I am confused. Overall it has been over a year now and it is widely known at work that she is currently with a guy for his money. That alone says a lot.
Author Guyouthere Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 If she told you she has a boyfriend then She definitely is NOT interested by you. No matter how much flirting YOU think she's doing. She's not interested. Just because she's being nice doesn't mean she's into you. Some people are "touchy feely" and nicer than average and some men who tend to see signs everywhere think those women are flirting. Also I don't think it's right for you to call her a lowlife based on what someone told you. I also think it's none of your business why she's dating who she's dating. Just because she is not with you doesn't mean she's a bad person. Its not what someone else told me. I have seen the guy come in with her too. She openly brags about the fact she is with the guy for his money. Any woman who is with a guy because she is attracted to his money is a lowlife, that is just how it is. My cousin also married one of those, and he is not liked by most anyone either, including me. I had experiences with him that told me he is crap. Strange thing too (or maybe not so strange), they all know each other. Sorry, hands all over me, that wasn't innocent. And she drinks a lot too, openly declares that as well. She wasn't drinking at work, but she openly boasts. Surely not a quality woman there. Drinking like that alone turns me off.
Author Guyouthere Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 All you had there was someone with boundary issues, is all. She had a boyfriend but was still flirting and sending out vibes. That doesn't mean women purposely claim to have boyfriends to entice men further. It's quite the opposite. Evidently a lot of women have boundary issues. I was recently told by my boss that she had someone pretend to friend this last girl I was with, and found out she wasn't so innocent (she wouldn't give me specifics, but said she was a flirt, supposedly while with me). And her counselor told her she has "boundary issues" too. Evidently that is why she needed to hide the guy she was with (the one I caught her hiding). Any normal and sincere women out there anymore???
GemmaUK Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 When I have said 'I have a boyfriend' it's either because I have or I want the guy to leave me be. Having read all your posts in this thread OP I don't even know why you are spending time thinking about this unless you like drama. Having read back a bit though it seems like you do actually like drama. I wouldn't pursue anything with her and I don't believe she is interested in you in that way. Is she also the one who also flares her nostrils at you which you seem convinced is a signal of attraction from a woman to a man?
BLND Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 Its not what someone else told me. I have seen the guy come in with her too. She openly brags about the fact she is with the guy for his money. Any woman who is with a guy because she is attracted to his money is a lowlife, that is just how it is. My cousin also married one of those, and he is not liked by most anyone either, including me. I had experiences with him that told me he is crap. Strange thing too (or maybe not so strange), they all know each other. Sorry, hands all over me, that wasn't innocent. And she drinks a lot too, openly declares that as well. She wasn't drinking at work, but she openly boasts. Surely not a quality woman there. Drinking like that alone turns me off. Well luckily you don't have anything to worry about with this girl since she's clearly not interested in you. That's just her nature to be flirtatious I guess.
Karine26 Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 I have a coworker like this. She does have a boyfriend but she is an attention skank so she picks a guy to flirt with so she can come back to our department and say how another man wants her and "won't leave her alone" and "they know I have a bf". Its a game/ego boost. We are all on to her though. Another part is she gained a lot of weight and is probably doing it to test her attraction. I'd bet it was something along those lines with your coworker.
Author Guyouthere Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 When I have said 'I have a boyfriend' it's either because I have or I want the guy to leave me be. Having read all your posts in this thread OP I don't even know why you are spending time thinking about this unless you like drama. Having read back a bit though it seems like you do actually like drama. I wouldn't pursue anything with her and I don't believe she is interested in you in that way. Is she also the one who also flares her nostrils at you which you seem convinced is a signal of attraction from a woman to a man? I was never interested in her (why I never asked her out). No, she isn't the "flared nostril" one either. I speak to that one on a regular basis and she is very friendly, but I don't want her either. I don't go for drama, just had ****ty women in my life,,, its about all that is out there (someone can prove me wrong).
Author Guyouthere Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 Well luckily you don't have anything to worry about with this girl since she's clearly not interested in you. That's just her nature to be flirtatious I guess. obviously many "things" in her naturally that make her anything but desirable. One reason I didn't go for her to begin with was that she is a drinker, a big NO in my book to begin with.
Author Guyouthere Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 3 possibilities : - she doesn't want you to pursue her and is blowing you off by telling you that - she has a self esteem problem and needs flirting with other guys to be reassured about her attractivness - it will be easy to drive you away after a sexual affair, because she "warned you she was not available" When a woman tell you that, there is only one sane reaction : go about your own business and don't pay attention to her any longer. Its exactly what I did. lol
Author Guyouthere Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 I have a coworker like this. She does have a boyfriend but she is an attention skank so she picks a guy to flirt with so she can come back to our department and say how another man wants her and "won't leave her alone" and "they know I have a bf". Its a game/ego boost. We are all on to her though. Another part is she gained a lot of weight and is probably doing it to test her attraction. I'd bet it was something along those lines with your coworker. she is physically pretty, but I always look deeper than that. I don't think this one is like that, she hasn't flirted with anyone else that that I have seen or heard of, and I know all of the guys there well.
Author Guyouthere Posted October 31, 2015 Author Posted October 31, 2015 I will also add that I won't lower my standard for women. True I was fooled by the last one (what the evidence showed). Fact is, there is only one reason I am single now. I simply haven't been out there much. Dating is new to me because I had stable relationships in my life (longest 25+ years, she is still my friend). I don't expect perfection, nor do I want it. I am not perfect either. I expect a lady to take me as I am, as I do her. Most women today aren't quality, it is the truth. When I eliminate the smokers, drinkers, cheaters, liars, dirty, mental ones, ,money grabbers, etc., there isn't much left. I take a relationship very seriously and give my all, so the woman has to appreciate that as well, and I need to see that from her. No games with me. It is how it is. The subject in this post has a list of reasons why I would never want her. Plain and simple
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