fmfan08 Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 I signed up to an online dating website to try something new. After talking to a few girls, I got talking to this one girl in particular. If I joked around with her she would carry it on and she'd write 5 or 6 line replies. I originally suggested about taking her out last saturday, but she said she was in London with family and asked if we could do Sunday instead. Of course I was working, but we agreed on the Thursday that had just gone. Her last message on the dating website mentioned that she wouldn't be at home this week and would have no wifi to contact me, so she gave me her number and jokingly apologised about herself "being too forward" by giving me her number. Here is the text conversation since she gave me her number: So yeah, I got the train to her station and she wasn't there. I assumed maybe she forgot or lost her phone. She's just completely disappeared. I'm reluctant to send her another message because as you can see I've effectively sent four in a row and don't want to appear annoying, etc. Not sure whether to just leave it, and if she replies, I'll tell her I totally forgot about it and that I ended up going out with friends (tell her how I enjoyed my night with them, etc) OR, should I wait a week and just drop her a message on her online dating profile and joke about her being "taken hostage and me having to pay her ransom". I obviously don't want to look like I'm too bothered about it.
PegNosePete Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Well she never agreed to meet you at 4 at the station. You suggested it, and she changed the subject. Sometimes people just lose interest. Who knows, maybe someone better came along. Maybe her boyfriend found her phone. Maybe her prison warden confiscated it. Maybe she is really a group of 3 giggling schoolboys. Who knows. Don't bother replying any more - I think you shouldn't have sent the last message - if there was a genuine reason for her not showing up then this would have put her off. But anyway, she's obviously not interested any more, so just forget her and move on. Next time don't waste your time/money going to a meeting unless you get confirmation that they agree to the time/place you suggested. 1
Author fmfan08 Posted October 30, 2015 Author Posted October 30, 2015 Well she never agreed to meet you at 4 at the station. You suggested it, and she changed the subject. Sometimes people just lose interest. Who knows, maybe someone better came along. Maybe her boyfriend found her phone. Maybe her prison warden confiscated it. Maybe she is really a group of 3 giggling schoolboys. Who knows. Don't bother replying any more - I think you shouldn't have sent the last message - if there was a genuine reason for her not showing up then this would have put her off. But anyway, she's obviously not interested any more, so just forget her and move on. Next time don't waste your time/money going to a meeting unless you get confirmation that they agree to the time/place you suggested. I guess so, but she did agree to meet Thursday when we were talking on the online dating website. Anyway yeah, I've deleted her number and conversation off my phone so I can forget and move on. If she does message me, then cool.. but yeah I shouldn't have sent that last message. I do a good job at putting girls off.
PegNosePete Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Well she was probably not gonna reply anyway even if you didn't send the last message, so it probably didn't put her off any. But it would have made her feel a bit less guilty for standing you up.
Author fmfan08 Posted October 30, 2015 Author Posted October 30, 2015 Well she was probably not gonna reply anyway even if you didn't send the last message, so it probably didn't put her off any. But it would have made her feel a bit less guilty for standing you up. She seems the type that if she was interested, she'd have mentioned about not knowing of our meet up and maybe apologised for not confirming it, but she didn't and still radio silence so yeah, definitely not interested. I just don't understand how someone can go from being very keen to completely disappearing. I know that she is away from home at the moment, which is why she gave me her number because of no wifi but it did seem odd how she didn't at least say "oh, we were supposed to be meeting?". I could say she's lost her phone or got no signal, use every excuse in the book to justify it.. but I know that if I was in HER shoes, I'd borrow someone elses phone/internet just to contact them. It's a shame, but it's her loss.
SwordofFlame Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 OP since you're new to online dating, you must think it's weird. I and all of the other experienced online daters here will tell you this kind of stuff happens all the time in online dating. 2
Author fmfan08 Posted October 30, 2015 Author Posted October 30, 2015 OP since you're new to online dating, you must think it's weird. I and all of the other experienced online daters here will tell you this kind of stuff happens all the time in online dating. Ha, yeah I'm new to it but I should expect this sort of thing to happen. Either way it was bad reading from my part assuming that these plans were confirmed, but then again she's played the disappearing act and doesn't seem interested. It's odd though, because there's nothing prior to this to suggest she wasn't interested (if you take out the "being stood up" part, which she probably had no idea about). But hey, online dating.. Got to make sure I keep in contact with a few girls at a time and not just one. She just didn't seem the type to do this sort of thing.
xcupid Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Ha, yeah I'm new to it but I should expect this sort of thing to happen. Either way it was bad reading from my part assuming that these plans were confirmed, but then again she's played the disappearing act and doesn't seem interested. It's odd though, because there's nothing prior to this to suggest she wasn't interested (if you take out the "being stood up" part, which she probably had no idea about). But hey, online dating.. Got to make sure I keep in contact with a few girls at a time and not just one. She just didn't seem the type to do this sort of thing. You never know what people are like until you MEET them. 1
Guyouthere Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 reading encounters like this only makes me depressed to see that such people like her are out there in the dating population. whoever said humans are a superior species was obviously very wrong.
Author fmfan08 Posted November 2, 2015 Author Posted November 2, 2015 reading encounters like this only makes me depressed to see that such people like her are out there in the dating population. whoever said humans are a superior species was obviously very wrong. Usually I'm a bit fussy, but seeing the amount of effort she put into her messages it seemed like a clear sign of interest. But obviously interest should be judged on ACTIONS and not words.. I made the move, so not worried that I waited too long.. Just really weird how she dropped from the face of the earth with the effort she put into replies, even her last one didn't suggest anything bad. Usually you can just notice peoples messages get shorter and shorter, etc. Staying positive and moving forward.
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