redbaron87 Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 (edited) So I met this girl last year in March in which things started pretty good. We messaged frequently but she came a little too strong off the beginning. She talked about marriage, kids, and right away started to tell me that I am hers. I did not wanted to get lead on and then later on she bails out on me. So then months went by and the times I invited her out to eat she accepted but then later on cancelled on me on the last minute. It came to the point where she invited me to her house to meet her parents, went to church with her (I am Catholic and she is Christian), and then after I saw things were real she told me that she only sees me as a friend only. So I told her only as a friend and that's it? She confirmed and told me I can move on, so I stopped trying and left. The times she called me on my cell it was private and I always asked her for her number but she told me what do I want it for? So I stop bothering. We did skype frequently in which she blew kisses to me, told me I was cute, she liked me. In person she was different. Months later she came looking for me telling me that she wanted to see how I was doing and she been thinking of me a lot. So I talked to her and told her great and etc. So then we talked for a bit and then again went our separate ways. Again she came looking for me and we talked. The hard part is that I fell for her and want to be more than friends but she says she does not sees me like that. I stopped, she brings out that I never did anything for her when I reminded her the compliments I gave her and as well the time I always invited her out to eat but she cancelled on me. I took screen shots of the conversation and then she came out with her religion rules and she wanted to do things right so I respect it and left it alone. She told me what I felt from her and told her the truth: rejection, she did not want me as a boyfriend material, never going to be more than a friend to her. She told me what I plan to do and told her I can only do so much but to stand back and hold in my feelings for her. She already put it for me in Black and White and that was about it for that night. Yesterday we got into an argument in where she got mad at me for not wishing her a Happy Birthday in which I told her why she is mad? We are just friends, she told me that it is special for her hearing it from someone that has feelings for her in which I told her why is it so important if she only rejects me and treats me like a side toy. I also told her that she labeled me as a "worldly" (Christian way to call people that are non-Christians) in which she says I do not consider you as a stranger. After that things went really good (I mean like really bad) in which she told me to delete her from my kik messenger, not to look for her, I never looked for her, months passed and I did not say at least a hi when she expected it from me, never did anything for her. Of course I responded back saying you only labeled me as a friend, I opened up to you but you are like whatever (all she response was like how nice aaaawwww), I invited you do dinners but all you did was cancel me on the last minute, I got out of work early while my resignation was in effect to go see you, rented a car to see you and meet your parents with two hours of sleep (Worked the graveyard and got out of work at 7am), went to church with a fever with back pain (sore shoulder muscles). She says she does not remember the dinner invites, her calling my job and me asking for a kiss from her (which I did blew her kisses), and as well gave her compliments. I try my best to talk to her at that moment to see why is she so angry about? why is it important for me to say Happy Birthday if we are not dating and she rejects me? She never gave me her number to call her, never made me feel that she had that interest in me. Most of my friends tell me that she is maybe getting the attention from me that someone else is not giving it to her. So after she told me to leave her alone, I did and as well not looked for her. Now today she messaged me saying Friend? My question is why is she looking for me? Why did she raised hell for me not wishing her a happy birthday when all she did is reject me? I told her my bday before but never held it against her for not wishing me a happy birthday. What can I do? How can I just leave her behind? Her negativity does get to me and I cannot have that, I do have feelings for her and want to be with her but she is not giving in. Is she just playing with me? Just wants attention? Wants someone she can dominate or have me in her back pocket? Edited October 30, 2015 by redbaron87 adding detail
anika99 Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 I don't know why you are even still talking to this person. There is nothing wrong in her only wanting to be friends but she is no friend. She enjoys yanking your chain. She wants your time and attention but feels you should not expect anything from her. She is not interested in you, she just wants someone to stroke her ego and she also seems to get some sort of twisted pleasure out of tormenting you. Shut her down and move on. 1
Wewon Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 Men and women can be friends, I have females friends that I've known since college, but things like this, is why so many male-female friendships fail. A friendship is a coming together of equals and people with common interest and values. Its not a fan club, emotional receptacle, an entertainment system or boyfriend-lite.
Author redbaron87 Posted November 1, 2015 Author Posted November 1, 2015 I don't know why you are even still talking to this person. There is nothing wrong in her only wanting to be friends but she is no friend. She enjoys yanking your chain. She wants your time and attention but feels you should not expect anything from her. She is not interested in you, she just wants someone to stroke her ego and she also seems to get some sort of twisted pleasure out of tormenting you. Shut her down and move on. You are right, I asked her if something is wrong and she doesn't want to tell me all she says is never mind forget it. She pretend that she did nothing wrong and comes talking to me again like nothing happened at all. She told me to chill out when she got mad about her anger when I did not wish her a happy birthday. Today she was messaging me about her shipping a package to New York in which the past she told me about a guy that she talked to that lived over there and she was telling me that her parents are trying to ship something but came to notice that she is really interested in sending the package. I am trying to find a way to shut her down in a way that she will see she cannot manipulate me anymore and knows that my attention and time is priceless. Any suggestions? Thanks
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