Candy Cane Posted May 24, 2005 Posted May 24, 2005 I just had a talk with my ex. I told him I wasn't going to be staying at his house and that I didn't think the "friends" thing was going to work out. He compared me to some of the women he had dated in the past and how he had maintained "friendships" with them. He said he wanted that with me. To be my "friend." I didn't see how that could be possible. I don't even know what I want from this guy. I know that I want to talk to him but I'm not sure about what. I don't know if I love him or what either. What do I do now? Someone help!!!
eastern_mystique Posted May 24, 2005 Posted May 24, 2005 I told my ex a couple of weeks ago, that I couldn't be friends with him any longer, that it was too hard. We are on indefinite 'hiatus' from now until the end of June, then we'll see how we both feel. He was sad about it but also understanding. I think if you're finding it too hard to be friends with your ex, then it is either because you love him, or at least care about him a lot. Sometimes I wonder what it is I want from mine or how I feel about him, it can be confusing to care about someone who has caused you a whole world of pain. But this time apart from him has confirmed that yes, I do love him, and yes I do want to be with him, more than anything. Originally posted by Candy Cane I know that I want to talk to him but I'm not sure about what. I feel like that too. Sometimes I want so badly to just pick up the phone or go and see him......but to say what? There's nothing left to say. It's hard, but don't be friends with him if you don't like it. You've tried it and it hasn't worked, so try not being friends and see how that goes. Sorry I couldn't be more helpful....
Author Candy Cane Posted May 24, 2005 Author Posted May 24, 2005 Originally posted by eastern_mystique I told my ex a couple of weeks ago, that I couldn't be friends with him any longer, that it was too hard. We are on indefinite 'hiatus' from now until the end of June, then we'll see how we both feel. He was sad about it but also understanding. I think if you're finding it too hard to be friends with your ex, then it is either because you love him, or at least care about him a lot. Sometimes I wonder what it is I want from mine or how I feel about him, it can be confusing to care about someone who has caused you a whole world of pain. But this time apart from him has confirmed that yes, I do love him, and yes I do want to be with him, more than anything. I feel like that too. Sometimes I want so badly to just pick up the phone or go and see him......but to say what? There's nothing left to say. It's hard, but don't be friends with him if you don't like it. You've tried it and it hasn't worked, so try not being friends and see how that goes. Sorry I couldn't be more helpful.... You were of GREAT help. Thanks so much. Let me know how things go!!
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