treehugger101 Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 How many of you, have had your partners ask you "Do you trust me?" what was running through your mind when you heard them ask you this question. When they asked you, did you have a feeling they were hiding something or something wasn't right? What would you do?
Guyouthere Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 How many of you, have had your partners ask you "Do you trust me?" what was running through your mind when you heard them ask you this question. When they asked you, did you have a feeling they were hiding something or something wasn't right? What would you do? It has been my experience that if they ask such a question, it is projecting a hidden agenda of their own. 1
itsallamystery Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 trust is demonstrated through actions. not through words. If somebody feels the need to ask a person that, it is because they have their doubts that you do. I'm not saying it equals a person being dishonest or doing something wrong automatically, but the person asking, obviously isn't sure. I would have a direct and open conversation about why there was a need to ask. 1
Guyouthere Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 It is a form of projection. Like my ex wife used to call me and ask me where I was. In the morning, she would ask what I was doing all day that day (work, diving, etc.) I never realized it until later…. exactly why. She had men lined up on the side. She always boasted how she would never cheat on me. The last girl I was with also said she would never hurt me. I found her hiding a guy too. Need I say more. I ignored my gut. If you are suspicious, you best damn well ask yourself why you feel something is up, because you sure as hell will find out why come some future point.
Author treehugger101 Posted October 30, 2015 Author Posted October 30, 2015 It is a form of projection. Like my ex wife used to call me and ask me where I was. In the morning, she would ask what I was doing all day that day (work, diving, etc.) I never realized it until later…. exactly why. She had men lined up on the side. She always boasted how she would never cheat on me. The last girl I was with also said she would never hurt me. I found her hiding a guy too. Need I say more. I ignored my gut. If you are suspicious, you best damn well ask yourself why you feel something is up, because you sure as hell will find out why come some future point. Well my guy is asking me this question, because he thinks I am going to cheat on him or find someone else and he will loose me. I am not interested in cheating or finding anyone else. I only want him but he keeps thinking his nightmares of the past, and him seeing certain things his ex did, he thinks I am doing the same thing or something.
Guyouthere Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Well my guy is asking me this question, because he thinks I am going to cheat on him or find someone else and he will loose me. I am not interested in cheating or finding anyone else. I only want him but he keeps thinking his nightmares of the past, and him seeing certain things his ex did, he thinks I am doing the same thing or something. I had to recondition myself to trust again. It is only normal to be suspicious when you are married to a whore who knew she had to cover her tracks extensively well because I am no fool. But I was one because I loved and trusted her. And sometimes that is the worst thing to do, to trust. I trusted her and "gave her freedom", and she abused it to the point she got me sick from it. Try going to the doc for a long period of time to see if your wife gave you something that can end your life, and see how easy it is to trust again. Well I got sick, just nothing that couldn't be cured. Thank God for that. Then the last lady came along.,,, prided herself as someone who I could trust, and look at what I find,,, a guy she was hiding. I will always be suspicious the rest of my life. Call it a product of being extensively conditioned for it. I am still trusting, but very reserved with it now. I won't let any mistrust come into any future relationship, at least not to the level of mistrust I know I can feel.
basil67 Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Forget this 'projection' bollocks. I reckon he asked you this because you believe he's having an affair with your friend and her pregnancy is his child. (referring to your current post) You know, it really does help to give all the background when asking a question 2
EricaH329 Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 If I trusted a guy, I wouldn't think he was doing something shady. And I don't stay in a relationship with a guy I don't trust. 1
Toodaloo Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 In my case its usually when they are holding a bucket full of water bombs and I am in target reach... So in that case the answer is no because lets face it... Girlfriend + bucket of water bombs = one heck of a lot of fun! But if asked seriously... Depends. Sounds to me like you really need to speak to your other half rather than us though. It feels like you have a long list of issues here and just want validation from us. So come on. Spit it out. Whats the real story. The whole one...
kendahke Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 How many of you, have had your partners ask you "Do you trust me?" what was running through your mind when you heard them ask you this question. When they asked you, did you have a feeling they were hiding something or something wasn't right? What would you do? Am I someone who is distrustful by nature or I haven't resolved baggage from past relationships and I've brought it all to the relationship in question and tried to force him to unpack and sort it for me instead of me having done that already? Am I someone who is suspicious by nature and everything is suspect to me?
Redhead14 Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 How many of you, have had your partners ask you "Do you trust me?" what was running through your mind when you heard them ask you this question. When they asked you, did you have a feeling they were hiding something or something wasn't right? What would you do? I've never been asked that question, however, if someone I was involved with asked me that question, I would ask them "why are you asking me that question? I have been forthright with you and so far I've been comfortable with you and trust you with important things in my life." OR, if there were things I was questioning or wondering about, this would be the opportunity to ferret out the answers to those things. In other words, I would say "well, it's interesting that you've asked that question, because there are a couple of things that have me wondering or that concern me, for instance, why is it that (I have never been to your house or why is it that you don't answer my calls and texts after X time or why is it that ______".
purdyPeas Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Trust? You know when people are lying to you. If there's any doubt, back away. or.....you could make them take a lie detector test. Lmfao.
itsallamystery Posted October 31, 2015 Posted October 31, 2015 Trust? You know when people are lying to you. If there's any doubt, back away. or.....you could make them take a lie detector test. Lmfao. this guys hair though. "all you gotta be is super chill" or a sociopath.
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