Where are guys supposed to approach women at?

[PJKino]

My exact words were:

 

 

 

It's a helpful suggestion, not a warning never to approach without signs.

 

But if she won't return your eye contact, how do you start a conversation? She is clearly discouraging it, esp if you've been looking her way and she knows it.

 

 

 

 

What's wrong with ordering a drink at a bar and if they'res a group of girls sitting at the bar trying to struck up a convo?

 

I've played the passive wait for signs thing all my life and never gotten anywhere..I might as well be more agressive in approaching..worst thing that happens is I get rejected and am in the same spot I'm currently in..single with no options..

[d0nnivain]

What's wrong with ordering a drink at a bar and if they'res a group of girls sitting at the bar trying to struck up a convo?

 

There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. It only becomes a problem if the women are clearly giving you the cold shoulder yet you continue to push yourself onto them. If you try but they do not welcome your advances, as long as you back off, it's all good.

[PJKino]

There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. It only becomes a problem if the women are clearly giving you the cold shoulder yet you continue to push yourself onto them. If you try but they do not welcome your advances, as long as you back off, it's all good.

 

Of course not.. When im rejected I get pretty embarrassed the last thing inesnt to do is hang around and make myself look even worse..

[d0nnivain]

Of course not.. When im rejected I get pretty embarrassed the last thing inesnt to do is hang around and make myself look even worse..

 

You'd be surprised at how many men don't take no for an answer. It's those jerks that most likely led to the women in OPs original Q to complain.

[Male]

There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. It only becomes a problem if the women are clearly giving you the cold shoulder yet you continue to push yourself onto them. If you try but they do not welcome your advances, as long as you back off, it's all good.

 

I agree 100%.

 

BUT....its unbelievable how many women actually give in to persistence. I will never be that guy, but many are.

[JustGettingBy]

Also, I've heard its best to look at her and smile. If she turns away or doesn't respond, best to leave her alone. If she smiles back, she's giving you the green light.

 

Also, if she initiates (looks at you and smiles first) also green light.

[Male]

Also, I've heard its best to look at her and smile. If she turns away or doesn't respond, best to leave her alone. If she smiles back, she's giving you the green light.

 

Also, if she initiates (looks at you and smiles first) also green light.

 

I dont believe that. Theres a lot of men and women that wont smile back even if they are interested because they are very nervous. Many people do their best to not let someone know they are interested even if they are. In my experience, I've never seen any women look at me long enough to smile. If I happen to see a woman looking at me, or in my general direction, they always look away as soon as I look at them, and they have never smiled.

[Phoe]

This is a tough one...

 

I've never been approached by a random stranger in public, so I can imagine I'd probably be deer in headlights if it happened. I've only been pursued by men who were already acquainted with me in some way.

 

With that in mind, I'd say a more social setting is a good way to start. Party, event, something like that...

 

Trying to randomly approach a woman who is grocery shopping seems... odd? I mean, if you have an opportunity to talk with someone and you happen to be at the grocery store and magic happens and you hit it off, then that's awesome... but actively TRYING to do so at a grocery store doesn't seem like it would be very effective.

 

Social settings should be the priority, I think.