Zephylin Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 Recently I went to a play at my school. While waiting in line to get in the theater area, I got a view of the cast wall and saw a picture of one of the cutest guys I've ever seen. I looked him up on facebook and I've not stopped thinking about him. I often find myself fantasizing about him. (Yesterday I had a daydream of meeting his parents, how freakin nuts is that?) I want to meet him, but we're different majors and probably won't have classes together. Chances of having the same classes in college are pretty small. There is a slight issue. We'll several. I've got bad anxiety and am very shy. Plus I've never had a boyfriend or done anything like this. However, the bigger worry is that I don't know whether or not he's gay. There are things that make him think he is, but there's no solid evidence. I've been thinking about approaching him on facebook, messaging him and hoping for the best. I think the best time to try would be near the end of november after the next play is over. I could complement his performance or something. Seems like the best thing to start a conversation over. I'm worried about what to say. I don't want it to be just a complement, thanks, and then nothing. I'd love it if it turned into a long conversation, that leads to friendship, that leads to better things. I don't know how to keep a conversation going without seeming awkward or pushy or like I'm doing all the work. My fear is I'll end up gushing and he'll just be giving the one word or quick answers. I'm sure I'm over worrying myself but, like I said, I've never done anything like this before. Any advice? (I'm an 18 year old gay guy btw)
MidwestUSA Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Although you'll have some here tell you that approaching on Facebook is a bad idea, I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as it's not done in a creepy, stalkerish way. Complimenting him on a performance down the road seems completely reasonable. I'm guessing he's not already a friend? If not, send him a friend request and a message based on mutual interests. As far as conversation, if he's social and friendly, things should flow. It shouldn't be totally on you to keep it going. Best of luck, from someone who met her husband via Facebook.
JustGettingBy Posted October 30, 2015 Posted October 30, 2015 Its probably best that you use fb as a tool to ask to meet him in person again. Getting to know someone just over fb won't get the job done, but fb does excel at letting you make plans like that. If you're considering anything beyond friendship, it'd be best to find out if he's gay as well. Even if he knows you are, asking him might hurt the friendship.
Author Zephylin Posted October 30, 2015 Author Posted October 30, 2015 Although you'll have some here tell you that approaching on Facebook is a bad idea, I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as it's not done in a creepy, stalkerish way. Complimenting him on a performance down the road seems completely reasonable. I'm guessing he's not already a friend? If not, send him a friend request and a message based on mutual interests. As far as conversation, if he's social and friendly, things should flow. It shouldn't be totally on you to keep it going. Best of luck, from someone who met her husband via Facebook. We've never actually met. I'm just a stranger to him, which makes me more nervous. I just keep thinking about him and since there's even the slightest chance of something good coming out of this, he stays in my head, if that makes sense. I'm always worried about having "what if" moments, which is why I really want to try with this, ya know?
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