Reitteg813 Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 Has anyone been told there's just no spark and then have them come back to you. Or have you ever told someone there's no spark and then went back to them? I really like her, so I'm hoping if i give her some space, she may miss me and come back. Idk, A little info on the situation if you feel like reading this... Been seeing this girl for 2 months. Got off to great start, she'd text me all day everyday, we had a good first date together, she texted me when I got home saying she had a good time, we made out at the end, and she was a little worried she'd never see me again, we later made plans for a second date, and that went well, but kinda had a second date slump, but it got better as the date went on, third date was best in my opinion. But after that she decided it's no good. We kissed each time we hung out, no sex. A little background info on the girl... She's 23, virgin up until college, in college only one long term boyfriend, who cheated on her 3 times, she took him back after the first two times he cheated, no idea why, and the guy wouldn't let her go out with friends on the weekends. Somehow she put up with all that. Must have really liked the guy, but they've been broke up for I think close to a year.
theredpill Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 Yeah, it happens all the time usually because the man is pushing too hard for a relationship and she feels like she's losing her freedom after just a few dates - leave her alone and never contact her again, if she likes you she'll get in touch. If you reach out to her first, you lose!
PegNosePete Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 3 dates in 2 months...? No spark is just a generic, neutral way of saying she does not want a relationship with you. It's not meant to be taken literally, it's simply a way of ending the relationship as cleanly and painlessly as possible. Just say "OK I understand", and move on. If she contacts you again, take it from there - but don't hold your breath.
Guyouthere Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 No spark = it is Ok to pass gas around her, with lack of fear of an explosion
Author Reitteg813 Posted October 29, 2015 Author Posted October 29, 2015 3 dates in 2 months...? No spark is just a generic, neutral way of saying she does not want a relationship with you. It's not meant to be taken literally, it's simply a way of ending the relationship as cleanly and painlessly as possible. Just say "OK I understand", and move on. If she contacts you again, take it from there - but don't hold your breath. Yeah I know right, 3 dates in two months. Pretty weird. We are both very busy people, and she's had some family issues pop up, but yeah I agree. Also during that two months she did go on vacation for a week so we couldn't do anything then obviously
Author Reitteg813 Posted October 29, 2015 Author Posted October 29, 2015 Yeah, it happens all the time usually because the man is pushing too hard for a relationship and she feels like she's losing her freedom after just a few dates - leave her alone and never contact her again, if she likes you she'll get in touch. If you reach out to her first, you lose! No I haven't pushed for a relationship at all. youre saying the person coming back happens quite a lot? I've never been told this before so...
perol Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 No spark is just a generic, neutral way of saying she does not want a relationship with you. It's not meant to be taken literally I take the expression to mean there's no attraction or chemistry. 1
Author Reitteg813 Posted October 29, 2015 Author Posted October 29, 2015 I take the expression to mean there's no attraction or chemistry. I agree. I'm sure that's exactly what it means. Well there's certainly physical attraction, she's told me that, but it's a chemistry thing I'm sure. Which tons certain extent, i do agree with the girl, cause after the 2nd date I was really questioning us and if I could ever see myself with her, but it's weird cause at he same time i really like her. I gave it another shot and the last time went the Best yet. But I'm not asking what's a spark, I get that, I'm saying have you guys ever heard of a girl or guy come back after telling someone that
Httm Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 3 times in 2 months means you guys don't have time for a real relationship. Move on.
Author Reitteg813 Posted October 29, 2015 Author Posted October 29, 2015 3 times in 2 months means you guys don't have time for a real relationship. Move on. I wa thinking that as well.
PegNosePete Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 have you guys ever heard of a girl or guy come back after telling someone that No, and I've been on the giving and receiving end of it plenty of times.
RoseWater Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 How can you have been "seeing" her for 2 months if you have only gone out on 3 dates?
Author Reitteg813 Posted October 29, 2015 Author Posted October 29, 2015 How can you have been "seeing" her for 2 months if you have only gone out on 3 dates? Good question. Just how things turned out. Don't know. Wasn't exactly 2 months. More like 7 weeks, but that first week we started talking she went on vacation. But still, even in 7 weeks we should have seen each other more than 3 times
Httm Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 But you do know... You are yourself. You either didn't care enough or didn't make the time.
xcupid Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 Doesn't sound like there's much to hang your hat on here. She may be coming back because she's needy rather than attracted to you. Ultimately there has to be compatibility. Way too soon to know if there's anything there but sounds like you both have doubts. Sometimes it takes time. There hasn't been enough time to know for sure.
Author Reitteg813 Posted October 29, 2015 Author Posted October 29, 2015 Doesn't sound like there's much to hang your hat on here. She may be coming back because she's needy rather than attracted to you. Ultimately there has to be compatibility. Way too soon to know if there's anything there but sounds like you both have doubts. Sometimes it takes time. There hasn't been enough time to know for sure. Yup that's what I said, just not enough time. 3 dates in 2 month to talking 4.5 hours together
Ami1uwant Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 3 dates over 2 months is kind of slow. After 3 dates you probably like the person but looking for that feeling. You may kiss to see if there is something. But sometimes for whatever reason it's not there. Your appearance has no problems. You may be attractive---just not to her.
Author Reitteg813 Posted October 29, 2015 Author Posted October 29, 2015 (edited) 3 dates over 2 months is kind of slow. After 3 dates you probably like the person but looking for that feeling. You may kiss to see if there is something. But sometimes for whatever reason it's not there. Your appearance has no problems. You may be attractive---just not to her. Yeah we kissed every time. Gues Sjust wasn't feeling it, but like I said definitely not appearance. She straight up told me she was very physically attracted. Not to sound cocky but I'm a bodybuilder and model so... But still, I think 3 dates over 7 weeks and only 4.5 hours together is just to early Edited October 29, 2015 by Reitteg813
Hopeless1984 Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 People invented "the spark" thing as an easy way to tell you "this relationship is boring". Can the person come back? Of course she could, but I would not do anything to provoke this. Leave her be. You calling or trying to talk to her any other way will only make her feel pressured and annoyed. Keep your distance. She knows where you are
Author Reitteg813 Posted October 29, 2015 Author Posted October 29, 2015 People invented "the spark" thing as an easy way to tell you "this relationship is boring". Can the person come back? Of course she could, but I would not do anything to provoke this. Leave her be. You calling or trying to talk to her any other way will only make her feel pressured and annoyed. Keep your distance. She knows where you are True. 3 dates deep in 7 weeks is not enough for me to be worrying about this, can't really help the way I feel though. Who knows, we'll see.
Hopeless1984 Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 Don't you hate our dumb stupid feelings? Lol We chase/want things and people that are all wrong for us. But the things that are right for us and easy to attain are boring or "no spark" as they say. It's not easy to just shut your feelings off, I know. I guess it's true, the heart wants what it wants.
Author Reitteg813 Posted October 29, 2015 Author Posted October 29, 2015 Don't you hate our dumb stupid feelings? Lol We chase/want things and people that are all wrong for us. But the things that are right for us and easy to attain are boring or "no spark" as they say. It's not easy to just shut your feelings off, I know. I guess it's true, the heart wants what it wants. Yeah, I wasn't easy to attain though, after it first date she said "well next time blah blah blah, if I ever get to see you again." She's the most indecisive person I've ever met, and she seems very easy to manipulate, like i said earlier, her ex cheated on her three times. The first two times he was able to convince her to get back together.... Just gotta move on, if she comes back cool, might be over it by then, if not, **** it
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