How do I learn to read guys better so I can "offline date" without so much failure??

[lilmissjava]

Some guys (not all) need that validation that they can whoever they want whenever they want. I don't think I would be too happy if my boyfriend asked some other girl to join us on a weekend retreat.

 

If a guy is shy, he will let you know he is interested in some way shape or form.

 

In the meantime, enjoy your single status!

[d0nnivain]

abby_tx

 

 

Since you initially asked about reading people better, I will tell you where I saw your "points of failure" with this guy on your team. It's not really failure so much as missed opportunities to garner necessary info You need to ask more Qs earlier in the process.

 

 

But do give yourself credit for taking the initiative to get his phone #.

 

 

Anyway the 1st time he mentioned the girl who got him involved in the league, that was your cue to follow up with "Girlfriend?" If he said, yes would have known not to waste your time. If he said the woman who introduced him to the team was not his GF, your next Q should have been "So, does that mean you are single now?"

 

 

With respect to the trip you needed to ferret out details, then & there: who else is going? What are the accommodations? etc. Because you didn't ask, he never told you about the GF That omission was very uncool on his part but based on the limited info you had, you didn't read the situation wrong; you simply didn't ask the right Qs at the earliest stages.