Looking4bliss Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 (edited) Hello...idk where to start my boyfriend and I been together for what would of been a year thus month......things were very difficult off the bat after knowing him a short while (8 months) i became pregnant we talked about what we should do and decided on an abortion... please dont judge me it was the hardest decision I ever made in my life and I regret it everyday With that said obviously it was a very stressful time for our relationship I wasn't myself I was very emotional very hormonal still haven't been the same after it I started taking birth control pills so I wouldn't have to deal with that again. I wasn't myself I spoke to my doctor I had a ton of mood swings I was insecure about my weight because I gain some with everything that happened I lost total control! I would yell and freak out and don't even know what I'm mad at I took a lot out on my boyfriend and I don't even know why. We talked about it with Dr and he changed my pills. We got into an argument now he will no longer speak with me email me or answer any of my texts. I don't know what to do please help I know I was wrong but i had no control he think its an excuse but its not. I was a monster can't blame him I really went crazy since then I spoken to my doctor he has changed my birth control pills again ...but its too late I lost him..... * if you were on birth control did it make you crazy? *do you think he will talk to me again? Please help I'm heartbroken Edited October 29, 2015 by Looking4bliss
Author Looking4bliss Posted October 29, 2015 Author Posted October 29, 2015 Any help at this point would be greatly appreciated.....
ExpatInItaly Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 Yes, I've been on birth control for many years. But no, it has never made me crazy. I think that indicates a deeper problem, whether a hormonal imbalance, emotional or psychological issues. He might eventually respond to you but you really need to stop chasing him now. Relentlessly pursuing him is going to push him away further. He knows you want to speak to him but he clearly doesn't want to right now. I would take this time to reflect and get to the bottom of the other problems, for your own well-being. Unless and until you do so, you won't be happy with yourself, which makes it damn near impossible to be happy in a relationship.
Author Looking4bliss Posted October 29, 2015 Author Posted October 29, 2015 Yes, I've been on birth control for many years. But no, it has never made me crazy. I think that indicates a deeper problem, whether a hormonal imbalance, emotional or psychological issues. He might eventually respond to you but you really need to stop chasing him now. Relentlessly pursuing him is going to push him away further. He knows you want to speak to him but he clearly doesn't want to right now. I would take this time to reflect and get to the bottom of the other problems, for your own well-being. Unless and until you do so, you won't be happy with yourself, which makes it damn near impossible to be happy in a relationship. Thank you for your reply has anyone else been through a abortion and or took birth control pills? I got a lot of research and I'm coming up with a lot of people went crazy
Author Looking4bliss Posted October 29, 2015 Author Posted October 29, 2015 Cmon has to be someone.....
ExpatInItaly Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 What are you hoping to hear, OP? I get the sense you want to validate your belief that your behaviour was out of your control. These circumstances - especially the abortion- can certainly influence your mood and emotional well-being. There is no doubt about that and I'm sure many of us would be especially sympathetic to your struggle with this. But you are ultimately responsible for your own behaviour. Take care of yourself and your emotions first. Don't even worry about the boyfriend right now; that should be secondary to getting yourself back into a healthy place. 1
Author Looking4bliss Posted October 29, 2015 Author Posted October 29, 2015 I'm not sure what I want to hear....i just want my boyfriend back....I can't think about anything else it's as if I don't exist to him anymore is that seriously how after everything we've been through things are going to end? I just have so many unanswered questions keeps me awake at night on top of everything else
TaraMaiden2 Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 Cmon has to be someone..... You need to go to your Doctor and ask for psychiatric counselling, or at least to find a way to come to terms with your losses. That of your baby AND your BF. Let go. Move on. You're in no state to be in a relationship, and the fairest thing is to forget any re-connection with your ex- and look to tending to your own needs. your posts are a mess, in that you are desperate to find a fix from a forum of strangers who have no idea who you are. As ExpatInItaly has stated, I'm not sure what it is you want to hear. What you need to hear is to start taking care of yourself. Move on, heal and find a way of temding to your emotional and physical needs.
tojaz Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 looking4bliss, I am going to agree with the above. You have to get your emotions under control. If you came at your bf with the same desperation you are showing here, he's probably scared to death. This isn't something that has a quick fix, so take a moment, calm down and come back and paint us a clear picture of what happened and I'm sure you can find some advice that you can use. TOJAZ
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