PrismOfLove Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Hi, after a recent LTR, I have trying to get back into the dating world. I live in a crappy area, which doesn't exactly have quality women everywhere you look. I've been using Tinder and talked to a woman for a while on it. Eventually, we met for coffee, had great conversation; it was honestly one of the best first meetings I've ever had connection-wise and I've been on quite a few first dates over the years. I really don't meet well-spoken women who are educated and such here (she's working on her masters) so it sort of felt like finding a needle in a haystack. I mainly care about the connection though and the conversation and laughter flowed great. It was a fun evening. Here the main part of the post: she's very busy which is totally understandle. I sent a text the day after the meeting asking if she'd like to get dinner the next weekend, which she replied to a day later saying she'd be out of town but maybe next week. I asked which evening were usually the least busy for her, which she did not reply to. I figured she was just not interested, was somewhat dissapointed, but oh well, life moves on. Three days after I sent it I figured I'd try one last time since my phone sometimes screws up on texts. A day later she replied to that one sending a very long text saying, she doesn't use her phone much because she's so busy, all the other things are a priority, and if that doesn't work for me she understands. I'm the type of guy that knows something good when it comes along. After the first meeting I remember thinking I could see myself marrying someone like her which rarely happens to me. I replied to her text that I don't mind, I'm not in a rush, careers are important so I understand, and to text me when she finds out when she will have an open evening. Perhaps a futile effort on my part, but it will put the ball in her court and I won't get my hopes up. So a couple questions it would be nice if I could get people's perspectives on. 1. Does this seem legitimate or is she just not into me? I know it's hard to tell from a single example like this without knowing either person, but if you've been in the situation: how'd it turn out? 2. How long would you wait before receiving a text before giving up on it? Thanks!
kendahke Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 1. Does this seem legitimate or is she just not into me? ? My first impression is that she's not into you. Since I don't know her, she may be that swamped in her schooling and work that she doesn't have that kind of time; but here's the thing: if that's the case, why didn't she say so when you two were "connecting"? Why is she even dating if she doesn't have time to date? 2. How long would you wait before receiving a text before giving up on it? Thanks! A week. Then she'd go on block. BTW, you should totally be back on Tinder. Don't grind your search to a halt for someone telling you they're too busy to see you.
Author PrismOfLove Posted October 28, 2015 Author Posted October 28, 2015 My first impression is that she's not into you. Since I don't know her, she may be that swamped in her schooling and work that she doesn't have that kind of time; but here's the thing: if that's the case, why didn't she say so when you two were "connecting"? Why is she even dating if she doesn't have time to date? We did talk about what we were doing at the meeting but I had no idea it'd be so drastic, so I think you may be right. It just seems like an odd way to let someone go. I figured she just wouldn't answer the second text either. /shrug A week. Then she'd go on block. BTW, you should totally be back on Tinder. Don't grind your search to a halt for someone telling you they're too busy to see you. Sounds pretty resonable, thanks kendahke. I've still been using Tinder (mostly spambots) and other dating sites though.
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