The two types of [men who struggle with dating/relationships]

[Philosopher]

The first group consists of those guys who are chronically shy. They typically have trouble starting and maintaining conversations with people and in making friends in general and as a result they often have few or even no friends. As a result they are often very lonely. With women however their shyness is particularly severe. Usually they will be unable start conversations with them and not know what to say to them or ask them out on a date. If they do manage to get a date their fears will prevent them from progressing further, such as initiating kissing. They frequently however will be desperate for girlfriend and their lack of a girlfriend will cause them to be deeply unhappy. Often they will believe having a girlfriend will solve most of their social issues. If they do manage to get a partner they will often end up being clingy. Some of them may later reside themselves to accept that they will never get a girlfriend.

 

The second group consists of those guys whom are scared of intimacy. This group of guys deep down do want to be loved and love someone, however their fear of getting too intimate with a girl prevents them from pursuing deep meaningful relationships. They are usually on the shy side but not as shy as the first group and they will usually have some friends. As they fear intimate relationships they will normally be Ok with being single. When it comes to dating they are often able to get past the first few dates. However after a few dates one or both of them will realise that not much of a more deep connection is forming, preventing the relationship from progressing much further. They will often also be very picky and keep making excuses to avoid forming intimate relationships with women. Many of them may be tempted to join the seduction community as it gives them an opportunity to fulfil their sexual needs without getting too involved with a girl.

 

Of course not all guys whom struggle with women will fall into these two categories, some may have just been plain unlucky, while others may have had some other good reason that has prevented them from dating. However I suspect most guys whom do struggle with women do fall into one of these two categories.

Edited October 28, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[pteromom]

I'll add a third category - the Bitter Man.

 

This guy isn't necessarily shy or afraid of intimacy, though he can be. But he's been hurt by one or more women, and/or had a toxic parent, leaving him with a profound distrust of all women.

 

He is at odds with himself, because he wants sex and/or love, but has anger toward the very women who could provide him with what he wants.

 

His contempt for women is usually quite transparent, so women avoid getting close to him, further deepening both his bitterness and his loneliness.

[GemmaUK]

I'll add a fourth..the controller.

 

He will appear very confident with 'endearing' properties initially and potentially for several months.

He will sweep a lady off her feet.

But will say he loves her quickly and will talk about the future often.

There is no dating day by day with this guy - he has a plan and you are in it like it or not.

 

He also has a view of women, same as the bitter man except it's all cool and easy going until he believes the woman is invested - this is when it all changes.

She must be 'x' way or else.

 

He is insecure so he has to keep tabs on her, he demands to know what she is doing 24/7.

He drains her time and her spirit.

 

Alongside of all this he has anger issues and also never takes any responsibility for anything bad that happens to him - he will always find someone to blame. EG. All his ex's are psychos! Lol!

 

The woman who does all he wants - he gets bored of her.

[Timshel]

Is there a question or are we spit balling?

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[Philosopher]

Is there a question or are we spit balling?

 

It can be anything you like it to be, so long as it does not go off topic.

[Timshel]

It can be anything you like it to be, so long as it does not go off topic.

 

Apologies. Ok, I agree with yourself, Gemma and Pteromom. I have found that having categories/group descriptions to be individually erroneous when it comes to dating. Time and again I have observed that the majority of men do find a compatible mate but the compatible number are few, if only one.

 

I guess I would ask, have we become obsessed about #dating/having dates, though they may lead no where and cause strife and discord? If a person is happily engaged with worthy pursuits yet does not have so much success with dating many......but ultimately finds a partner, would that be success? Are so many appearing to be dating pirriaha (sp) because they are forcing something that simply should not be?

[xxoo]

Another: The Rigidly Logical type.

 

These guys can not accept that 1+1 =/= 2 does not apply to dating and relationships. They get weighed down in micro-analyzing women and relationships and fail to simply connect with a woman and accept her as she is. They perceive right and wrong where others perceive acceptable and attractive differences.

[Woggle]

Men who don't respect themselves struggle with relationships. One of the main components in a woman's attraction to a man is respect and nobody respects somebody that doesn't respect themselves. I see a lot of guys who just let their women walk all over them and they just hand over their balls which drops her attraction to zero. You have to be willing to put your foot down and say no sometimes and if you are mistreated be willing to walk and show her you could do fine single. There is nothing some women hate more than another woman having what she ruined. Be loving, faithful, loyal and rock her world in bed but she needs to know all of it can be over if she doesn't treat it right.

 

I would say the same thing with genders reversed as well.