Is it OK to care about ex? girlfriend doesnt like it

[Elif]

I didnt want to get much out of it, someone just asked me above if i got much out of seeing her and i was saying i didnt.

 

Its done now anyway, wont see her for a while.

 

I live my life in a way that when I start a new relationship I start it with a clean slate. No hanging on to past people, feelings etc. It is just not worth the hassle. If I were your gf Id find you wanting to meet up with ex every once in a while too much emotional hassle.

 

If you have a feeling that your gf didnt like it .... then most likely she will start liking it less and less the more serious you get.

[warshaw]

I get it as i wouldnt like her meeting up with an ex either, but if i knew she had no feelings towards him then ok id let it slide.

 

You wouldn't like it if she met up with an ex. So what you'd "let it slide". The point is you wouldn't like it.

 

You answered your own question.

[SolG]

I'll give you a different perspective. I don't see anything wrong at all with seeing exes as long as they have truly transitioned to friends. And real friends accept and support important parts of life; in particular your current partner/s.

 

There were two of my xH's xGFs at our engagement party and wedding with their BFs. Lovely girls that we continued to socialise with--together and apart--for many years. Didn't bother me at all.

 

My niece recently married and her maid of honour was one of her H's exes; they had all been friends since HS. And are all still fast friends.

 

I still have xs I count as friends. Chief amongst them, my xH and I are still very much a part of each other's lives. I even helped his parents move not long ago. Rs may end and/or change, but family doesn't. Not to me anyway.

 

So I don't see anything at all wrong with you catching up with an x. Caveat: As long as you truly are just now friends and that's the perspective on both sides. The fact that your GF objects may be an indication that maybe that is not the case in this instance and that your x in this case may have other motivations that would make friendship unwise. Don't discount the powe of feminine intuition!