aprilisi Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 (edited) This is actually a big pet peeve of mine. A man on disability. Now I know there are real reasons to be disabled. But not these guys. For example 3 guys messaged me today. All on ssi disability. Two mentioned working under the table. Which irks me even more because if you can do landscaping or construction on the side 30 or more hours a week you should hold a job and pay taxes like the rest of us. I try not to judge. But I watched my mom go to work on a walker then a wheelchair for years. Even through chemo. Her pain would make her cry at night. But during the day no one knew her struggles. My uncle still works at 75. Even after 2 bouts with cancer and ptsd from NAM. I dated one guy a while with mental issues. That was his disability. But has to break up after his 5th visit to the ER for a stomach virus. The same one i had the week before. After hearing him complain about the woman with chest pain going ahead of him I couldn't do it anymore. I told him to drink some Gatorade and suck it up and walked out. I know I probably sound horrible but I can't help it. Its gotten where the two most important things is that he be single and have a job. Height...who cares? Or weight...bah! Any advice on how to handle this? Edited October 28, 2015 by aprilisi 1
mrs rubble Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Just write in your dating profile that you are looking for a man who works. I'm with you. I can't stand lazy whiny people.
Guyouthere Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I think it a very fair prerequisite that a capable man work if he can. A real man will never be idle by his own choice. A real person would never act like the incident you described at the hospital. I get ill when I see guys act like this, because it gives the good ones out there a bad name, makes a lot of women "clam up", and think that most or all guys are like that. Just saying.
basil67 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Ever thought of reporting these guys? I would....
Buddhist Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Stop 'attracting' guys and start choosing them. Of course the dead beats in life are attracted to you. They're dead beats, they're attracted to anything that moves and interacts with them. But if you want a quality man, you'll have to put in some effort yourself rather than waiting for Prince Charming to single you out. If they're quality they won't be doing that.
Ic1 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Unfortunately there are many men who have a career on freeloading, and if I were to discover this quality over dinner, I'd walk out and let him take the tab. (There's taxes he can pay). They very well could be looking to get more free benefits from you!
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