lnaranjo29 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 (edited) So i started a new job back in may 15, instantly this woman caught my attention. We work in different areas at our work place so for the first month or two it was just a simple hi and bye . I was in the break room getting coffee and she happen to be there and she started a conversation with me since then I manage to talk to her everyday , one day I surprised her with oj and a cookie she looked in need of some energy and she looked at Me surprised so I would at times bring her breakfast at work. I was forbidden by management to stop speaking to her cause I was "interrupting" her work so I wrote her a letter telling her what's going on and she got upset that I was told such a thing like that because she never felt interrupted by me so it made me talk to her more . In all of our conversation she never mention she was in a relationship but I knew because of other coworkers. To me she didn't look happy and looked all depressed and I called her out on it and she admitted she was depressed and told me "its crazy you don't know me but you know me" so one day I tried to be cute with a note about some "did you know" facts and managed to put my number in the note, she called me that same day and said she couldn't keep the number cause her boyfriend will kill her (figuratively) and so she finally mentions him. but this woman had to know I had a crush on her . Anyways a few weeks later she told me she was taking bus to work I found it odd cause her bf would always drop her off and pick her up, so I told her I had no problem taking her home so she accepted and she asked for my number which made it even more weird since she had to decline it the last time I gave it to her. So I find out from other coworker's that she broke up with her boyfriend so I told her be careful who you say your personal things to and she told me a bogus story of her relationship. We started bonding we would always text each other during work hours she would ask how my day is going she told me ALOT of personal stuff on the ride to her home we were going out for drinks after work which one day she opened up to me told me the real story of her relationship coming to an end she cried in front of me she was in total shock she was opening up to me . From what she told me this guy didn't deserve her and she started realizing it she was finally opening up her eyes. About 3 weeks ago we were texting she tells me her bf wanted to work things out so I said I wish you luck and she replied asking if I was being sarcastic so I never replied, that weekend I get a random text and from another number its her telling me she lost her phone and she wanted to thank me for everything but her sister would be picking her up from work. Idk how she got or remembered mY number. So I felt kinda upset cause that next work day I was gonna express my feelings to her so I wrote her a 7 page letter cause she asked me if I was mad at her I said no. In the letter I express how dumb it will be if she returned with her ex but I know where her heart is right now and there's nothing anyone can do to change that the crush got bigger as we got to know each other and I hate that I like her and when he screws up I will be there to put back her heart back into place but our friendship has come to an end (because I know she's repairing her relationship and she never gave me her new #) but for now I will be on the sidelines I don't expect her to act upon anything I said nor do I expect a response. After i gave her the letter I tried to ignore her but she waved and smiled at me . For the past 2 weeks we been laughing and talking at work I really miss our convos im dying to know what her thoughts were about the letter because I've never really complimented this woman because of work policies but recently I did and she blushed or when she sees I'm alone she passes by me gives me a jab and keeps it moving. Idk what to do we having a Xmas party coming up I hope she goes I want to ask her its killing me inside I thought telling her how I feel will make me feel better but this woman is in the back of my mind idk if I should keep on talking to her or just ignore her??? Edited October 28, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 OMG. I so wish you had come here earlier. When she asked you if you were being sarcastic about her EX-BF coming back she was looking for validation that you were a viable alternative to getting back with him. By not responding you in essence told her that you don't care about her. Then you sent her a 7 page letter? OMG. What an odd thing to do. It screams socially awkward. As a woman if I received something like that from a guy, I'd never talk to him again. The fact that you gave her the note, then ignored her, is cringe-worthy. It's bad enough that you gave it to her but then to run away & hide rather than face her like a man & own the attraction makes no sense. There must be more to this crush if your management had to reprimand you to stay away from her & stop disrupting her at work. Employers don't get involved in short casual interactions between employees. Man up & ask her out on an actual date. If you can't do that, just stay away from her. These mixed signals especially the repeated disappearing act has to stop if you want any kind of future with her.
Author lnaranjo29 Posted October 28, 2015 Author Posted October 28, 2015 Hello d0nnivain I appreciate your response, Yes I messed up not replying to her question about being sarcastic but regardless of what I said she will do what's best for her. As for the 7 page letter trust me I wanted to tell her face to face I felt like a punk but I had no way of telling her since she lost her phone she never gave me her new number and her sister was going to come pick her up from now on my intentions were to tell her. I guess every female is different because she doesn't feel awkward at all with me before handing her the letter I was being a punk and and giving her the cold shoulder she called me out on it and asked if I was mad at her. The reason I did it is because I like her a lot and I messed up letting my feelings grow for her. And as for the employers they just flat out don't like me talking to her that's it. I believe she is working it out with her man so it will be pointless asking her on a date. But I know if she were to give me a chance I'll make that woman happy idk what to do I really want her I think about her everyday and she knows it she always gives me a warm smile and she holds eye contact for a few seconds
Author lnaranjo29 Posted October 28, 2015 Author Posted October 28, 2015 * #3 lnaranjo29 New Member * Join Date: Oct 2015 Posts: 2 Hello d0nnivain I appreciate your response, Yes I messed up not replying to her question about being sarcastic but regardless of what I said she will do what's best for her. As for the 7 page letter trust me I wanted to tell her face to face I felt like a punk but I had no way of telling her since she lost her phone she never gave me her new number and her sister was going to come pick her up from now on my intentions were to tell her. I guess every female is different because she doesn't feel awkward at all with me before handing her the letter I was being a punk and and giving her the cold shoulder she called me out on it and asked if I was mad at her. The reason I did it is because I like her a lot and I messed up letting my feelings grow for her. And as for the employers they just flat out don't like me talking to her that's it. I believe she is working it out with her man so it will be pointless asking her on a date. But I know if she were to give me a chance I'll make that woman happy idk what to do I really want her I think about her everyday and she knows it she always gives me a warm smile and she holds eye contact for a few seconds
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