RoseWater Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I remember going out on a few dates, on OLD. The guy would ask me what I did for a living, told them it was just a job that pays the bills and want to go back to school. I told them that I was interested in a getting a psychology degree to possibly become a psychiatrist. I figured they would be impressed, apparently, nothing went beyond the first date, probably because they weren't attracted/into me, and what did they do??? They went back on OLD, updated their profile pic and profile. Geez....I could have told them that I had a Harvard degree and they still wouldn't be blown away. Looks like they prefer women that work the pole at the strip clubs-the women that all men want: big tits and nice ass, right? See, when this happens, I prefer to just sit back and look pretty, don't care about carrying on a conversation, because in the end its all about looks... Being educated seems to be one of the traits that helped me get asked on 2nd, 3rd etc dates when I was using OLD. Men seemed to like that. They have to find you physically attractive as well of course. 2
stillafool Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I told them that I was interested in a getting a psychology degree to possibly become a psychiatrist. I figured they would be impressed, apparently, nothing went beyond the first date, probably because they weren't attracted/into me, and what did they do??? They went back on OLD, updated their profile pic and profile. Geez....I could have told them that I had a Harvard degree and they still wouldn't be blown away. Looks like they prefer women that work the pole at the strip clubs-the women that all men want: big tits and nice ass, right? See, when this happens, I prefer to just sit back and look pretty, don't care about carrying on a conversation, because in the end its all about looks... It would certainly take more than a Harvard degree or someone being a psychiatrist to make me fall head over heels for them too so I can't blame a man for not being impressed by those things. This does not automatically mean he's looking for a Stripper either. Who says a Stripper can't carry on a conversation?
oregon0011 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 True. Someone can have 5 degrees and still be completely boring. Having a degree does not equal intelligent or interesting. 1
PegNosePete Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I have a good job with above average income, but my partner is a doctor and makes more than double what I do. Your entire post is simply not true. Depending on your age range you might be putting them off by saying you're going to go back into education. Getting a degree while holding down a full time job means you will be highly stressed and won't have much time for dating. My partner says she is glad she met me after getting all her medical qualifications because during her exams she had no free time, was always stressed, and no fun to be around. Plus psychology can be kind of intimidating for some people (thinking they are constantly being analyzed). I suspect this is more of a reason that guys don't want to see you again, rather than not liking an intelligent, educated, ambitions woman. 1
No_Go Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Same experience, to an extent. I had guys getting nearly verbally aggressive about my education ("I'm so smart, you are just entitled with your degrees") - had to run from those, but they exist... Most of the "normal" ones were/are appreciative of my over a decade efforts of earning various degrees... Being educated seems to be one of the traits that helped me get asked on 2nd, 3rd etc dates when I was using OLD. Men seemed to like that. They have to find you physically attractive as well of course.
empresario Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Please refer to the 'reasons guys break up thread'. Guys neither care about looks nor prestige long term. Both are shallow things. Ultimately they want honest, loving relationships. Good guys, at least. On topic, I care far more about someone that has passion than someone that has a piece of paper saying they drank and partied for 4 years. Yes, I realize that's a gross blanket statement but my point of is takes no talent to get an education.
carhill Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 So, if a girl was really hot and she was a waitress making 10 bucks an hour, would they date her? I'm talking about playboy playmate looks here. Where I live, a waitress is exposed to so many men that she would be as coupled as she chose to be, regardless of her looks or education. The exception would be if she's too young to get legally married. That's simply a function of males chasing females and no reflection on her personally. TBH, when I was young, all the women in my social circle were 'educated', meaning generally private school and university, so I never gave it a second thought. I didn't start hitting the 'uneducated' ones until my 30's, when those who married young instead of completing college and then divorced re-entered the dating marketplace. Some of those were going back to school, since at that point a college degree had become nearly universal as an entrance requirement to many jobs that single mothers would need to support themselves. Nowadays, nope, don't care about a woman's education as, for nearly all, that's long in their history. How they used whatever tools they received in life, like an education, sure. 1
No_Go Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Hahaha, drank and partied? All that I remember from college is having to pull overnighter after overnighter to study... I wish people gets their education drinking and partying (and still keep the standard high). It doesn't get much talent to get a college degree, higher degrees at least IMO do require talent+perseverance+a mindset that I haven't seen often in less educated people... Also education is not about technical skills only...something to think about. Please refer to the 'reasons guys break up thread'. Guys neither care about looks nor prestige long term. Both are shallow things. Ultimately they want honest, loving relationships. Good guys, at least. On topic, I care far more about someone that has passion than someone that has a piece of paper saying they drank and partied for 4 years. Yes, I realize that's a gross blanket statement but my point of is takes no talent to get an education. 3
xcupid Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 If that's what you believe then you had better hope your looks never fade before you find a guy. Very few men are impressed with "credentials." It's not a job resume, after all.
BlueIris Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Hahaha, drank and partied? All that I remember from college is having to pull overnighter after overnighter to study... I wish people gets their education drinking and partying (and still keep the standard high). It doesn't get much talent to get a college degree, higher degrees at least IMO do require talent+perseverance+a mindset that I haven't seen often in less educated people... Also education is not about technical skills only...something to think about. I agree. People's attitudes about the value of higher education vary. THAT is something to keep in mind when dating. If someone thinks that you partied your way to that degree, or those degrees, or that it's unimportant, that's fine. They don't value it. Maybe they think that working out every day has value, making money has value, serving in the military has value, or being an involved parent has value. Date people who respect what you've done in your life and respect that YOU value it. It meant something to you. 2
SwordofFlame Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Every date I've gone on has had a college degree. I think it's a little hard to find a woman that doesn't have a college degree these days. I'm 27.
No_Go Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Great post! It is about valuing the accomplishments of the other person (which comes easier if the two have similar life experiences, but can be achieved even if it is not the case if there is a mutual respect...) I agree. People's attitudes about the value of higher education vary. THAT is something to keep in mind when dating. If someone thinks that you partied your way to that degree, or those degrees, or that it's unimportant, that's fine. They don't value it. Maybe they think that working out every day has value, making money has value, serving in the military has value, or being an involved parent has value. Date people who respect what you've done in your life and respect that YOU value it. It meant something to you. 1
Woggle Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 It matters but it doesn't make up for a bad personality or the lack of fundamentals. It's like buying a car with all these features but the engine doesn't work. There are certain must haves that intelligent men must have before proceeding with any woman.
Maxtor Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I remember going out on a few dates, on OLD. The guy would ask me what I did for a living, told them it was just a job that pays the bills and want to go back to school. I told them that I was interested in a getting a psychology degree to possibly become a psychiatrist. I figured they would be impressed, apparently, nothing went beyond the first date, probably because they weren't attracted/into me, and what did they do??? They went back on OLD, updated their profile pic and profile. Geez....I could have told them that I had a Harvard degree and they still wouldn't be blown away. Looks like they prefer women that work the pole at the strip clubs-the women that all men want: big tits and nice ass, right? See, when this happens, I prefer to just sit back and look pretty, don't care about carrying on a conversation, because in the end its all about looks... Yes i dont care if you are a super genius and have a masters degree. I think MC Vagina said it best: "I can't have sex with your personality And I can't put my penis in your college degree And I can't shove my fist in your childhood dreams So why you're sharing all this information with me?" Ok, im kidding, dont ban me, but yeah, its not important.
GunslingerRoland Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Thinking about signing up for college to eventually become a psychiatrist, doesn't sound impressive. Anyone can think about signing up for an undergraduate degree to eventually get a PHD. in something... actually putting in 8 years of school to do it is the hard part. Go to a hooters and ask the waitresses there if they have a degree, probably half of them have an undergrad degree in something. Education is cheap and you haven't even started one yet... and you're expecting to wow guys with the fact that you've thought about going to school. 1
kendahke Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 So, if a girl was really hot and she was a waitress making 10 bucks an hour, would they date her? I'm talking about playboy playmate looks here. apparently, the guys you've chosen will do that. Men in general don't. There are plenty of men out there who won't date a woman unless she's got more than a graduate degree, so you're not attracting those kinds of men. Your man picker may need some recalibration. Also, you'd be wise to stop generalizing.
empresario Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Hahaha, drank and partied? All that I remember from college is having to pull overnighter after overnighter to study... I wish people gets their education drinking and partying (and still keep the standard high). It doesn't get much talent to get a college degree, higher degrees at least IMO do require talent+perseverance+a mindset that I haven't seen often in less educated people... Also education is not about technical skills only...something to think about. I'm not arguing that college can be a lot of work. I have 4 degrees I got in 4 years while supporting myself (no family support). I don't remember having a free second in college. But since I've been a business owner and have had to hire an array of talent, it feels like everyone that got a business or marketing degree tells more stories about their parties in college more than anything they actually learned while there. That being said...I think my college degrees are still worthless. I didn't learn anything real until I got out there and did it myself. And includes 2 math-based degrees, one social science, and one creative. 1
No_Go Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Actually that's a good point - degrees do not come equal... There are some professions in which having extensive education is a waste of time&effort (e.g. programming - unless you want to be a professor and teach or something like that). My degrees are in life sciences where you basically can't function without a PhD, because you need the hands-on research experience... But that's a very specific case. If I was doing business, I'd probably stop earlier. What matters is the whole package - in dating, and at work too. I'm not arguing that college can be a lot of work. I have 4 degrees I got in 4 years while supporting myself (no family support). I don't remember having a free second in college. But since I've been a business owner and have had to hire an array of talent, it feels like everyone that got a business or marketing degree tells more stories about their parties in college more than anything they actually learned while there. That being said...I think my college degrees are still worthless. I didn't learn anything real until I got out there and did it myself. And includes 2 math-based degrees, one social science, and one creative. 1
Mystique01 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I learned a while ago that most men don't really care what type of education or job a woman has as long as she's making a good honest living. Education, degrees, "good job", tons of money, etc. are things that usually WOMEN find attractive in men. But men don't really care too much about that stuff. I have NEVER heard a man say that one of the things that attracted him to his wife was because: "oh, she had a master's degree from Harvard...." LOL! 1
Siquijor Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Education comes in different forms. I like a woman to be educated in a worldly sense. The down to earth types who understand other people/problems/relationships etc etc. I find that so more appealing than someone with a high IQ.
Woggle Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I learned a while ago that most men don't really care what type of education or job a woman has as long as she's making a good honest living. Education, degrees, "good job", tons of money, etc. are things that usually WOMEN find attractive in men. But men don't really care too much about that stuff. I have NEVER heard a man say that one of the things that attracted him to his wife was because: "oh, she had a master's degree from Harvard...." LOL! Exactly. Men for the most part don't care about titles and pieces of paper like that. 1
crederer Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 The amount of money a woman makes means absolutely nothing to me. Looks mean a bit but I mainly want to find a woman that I can just get along well with, not bust my balls over everything. This is surprisingly hard to find, and you may think to yourself "I don't do that.....I'm just trying to help". Yea, that's what all ball busters think. The reality is women are attracted to money (generally, don't hate me fellow female posters) and men are more attracted to looks (generally, don't hate me fellow male posters). It really comes down to our primal instincts, despite what modern times say, and that is that women look for a provider while men look for a suitable breeding partner. And our instincts dictate more of our actions than we would probably like to believe. That's not to say other factors don't play in, I'm just breaking it down to the absolute basics. 1
crederer Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 Nobody cares about something you MIGHT do. Secondly , it is just a psychology degree. Most girls at some point say they want a psychology degree If you do become a psychiatrist, nobody really wants to date a girl who will be in school for the next 10 years or so. Just thinking of your debt is a turn off When I was in college anyone that said "I want a psych degree" really meant that they didn't know what they wanted to do and undergrad psych was the easiest courses to take. 1
crederer Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 I'm not arguing that college can be a lot of work. I have 4 degrees I got in 4 years while supporting myself (no family support). I don't remember having a free second in college. But since I've been a business owner and have had to hire an array of talent, it feels like everyone that got a business or marketing degree tells more stories about their parties in college more than anything they actually learned while there. That being said...I think my college degrees are still worthless. I didn't learn anything real until I got out there and did it myself. And includes 2 math-based degrees, one social science, and one creative. Business and marketing is almost completely based on networking. If I hired someone to do my marketing and they were a shut-in I'd doubt their abilities to conduct their job properly. As for your second paragraph, I agree. Post secondary is a joke. You learn more in 6 months on the job than you do in your 6 year degree.... 1
Phoe Posted October 29, 2015 Posted October 29, 2015 I've got a bachelors degree but it never had any impact on my dating life. Most people who know me don't even know I've got a degree. It's just not relevant.
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