Bobbi7 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I remember going out on a few dates, on OLD. The guy would ask me what I did for a living, told them it was just a job that pays the bills and want to go back to school. I told them that I was interested in a getting a psychology degree to possibly become a psychiatrist. I figured they would be impressed, apparently, nothing went beyond the first date, probably because they weren't attracted/into me, and what did they do??? They went back on OLD, updated their profile pic and profile. Geez....I could have told them that I had a Harvard degree and they still wouldn't be blown away. Looks like they prefer women that work the pole at the strip clubs-the women that all men want: big tits and nice ass, right? See, when this happens, I prefer to just sit back and look pretty, don't care about carrying on a conversation, because in the end its all about looks... 1
Guyouthere Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I remember going out on a few dates, on OLD. The guy would ask me what I did for a living, told them it was just a job that pays the bills and want to go back to school. I told them that I was interested in a getting a psychology degree to possibly become a psychiatrist. I figured they would be impressed, apparently, nothing went beyond the first date, probably because they weren't attracted/into me, and what did they do??? They went back on OLD, updated their profile pic and profile. Geez....I could have told them that I had a Harvard degree and they still wouldn't be blown away. Looks like they prefer women that work the pole at the strip clubs-the women that all men want: big tits and nice ass, right? See, when this happens, I prefer to just sit back and look pretty, don't care about carrying on a conversation, because in the end its all about looks... You aren't seeing reality here. You aren't speaking about genuine guys either, because a real guy won't do that. I know I would not, nor have I in the past. I couldn't care less what a woman does for a living, except it be honest and respectable. I would never date a pole dancer or the like. The last girl I was with, she was just in the process of getting her life together. I was willing to work together with her to build it. I already have an established life, and I don't need a woman who is rich, nor would I really want one to be honest. I could have married someone long ago who's family has a lot of money, and would have been set for life. I didn't. I don't marry for money. Its guys who act as you speak of in your post that makes a lot of women mistakingly think that all are like that. 3
phineas Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 education, no. Good job? yes. I know plenty of women with no formal education that have great jobs because they are smart or talented or own their own business. i'm tired of dating women in their 40's that make minimum wage or work part time & rely on baby-daddy's to support them via alimony or child support. 1
Els Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Are you seriously expecting someone to date you JUST because you're planning to get a psychology degree? Even women (well, decent women, at least) don't date guys solely for their job (let alone a hypothetical future job!). Also, what's up with the 'strip club' tangent? You seem to have a lot of unresolved bitterness and anger issues and I'd strongly suggest working on that. 14
andie1969 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 You're talking about maybe, possibly getting a degree in the future, not that you already have the degree and a good job. Big difference, especially depending on age. I'm a woman and wouldn't want to get into a relationship at this point in my life (in my 40's) with a guy who "might" eventually finish school and have a career.
CosmicGate7 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I remember going out on a few dates, on OLD. The guy would ask me what I did for a living, told them it was just a job that pays the bills and want to go back to school. I told them that I was interested in a getting a psychology degree to possibly become a psychiatrist. I figured they would be impressed, apparently, nothing went beyond the first date, probably because they weren't attracted/into me, and what did they do??? They went back on OLD, updated their profile pic and profile. Geez....I could have told them that I had a Harvard degree and they still wouldn't be blown away. Looks like they prefer women that work the pole at the strip clubs-the women that all men want: big tits and nice ass, right? See, when this happens, I prefer to just sit back and look pretty, don't care about carrying on a conversation, because in the end its all about looks... Loll none of that **** matters in dating. I clear close to 200K at age of only 26 and have a college degree from a good school and I've never had a girlfriend. I have friends who barely make 20K who didn't even step on a college campus with hot girlfriends And this is me as a male, a traditional provider status. Why do you think it would matter for you as a woman?
hippychick3 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Well, I hope you didn't actually say you wanted to get a psychology degree to become a psychiatrist. A psychiatrist is a medical doctor. You would have to go to medical school (no psychology degree for that) to become a psychiatrist. Btw, I am a psychologist and my education was a huge plus for me when I was dating. Most of the quality men I dated preferred intelligent and educated women. 11
J21 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 So you took 1 incident and extrapolated it to say that all men dont care if a girl has an education? Makes sense. 4
neowulf Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I remember going out on a few dates, on OLD. The guy would ask me what I did for a living, told them it was just a job that pays the bills and want to go back to school. I told them that I was interested in a getting a psychology degree to possibly become a psychiatrist. I figured they would be impressed, apparently, nothing went beyond the first date, probably because they weren't attracted/into me, and what did they do??? They went back on OLD, updated their profile pic and profile. Geez....I could have told them that I had a Harvard degree and they still wouldn't be blown away. Looks like they prefer women that work the pole at the strip clubs-the women that all men want: big tits and nice ass, right? See, when this happens, I prefer to just sit back and look pretty, don't care about carrying on a conversation, because in the end its all about looks... Umm. You're making a heap of assumptions here. You're not a mind reader. You have no idea what it was that made them decide you weren't a good match for them. Personally, I enjoy a woman with an education. Makes her more interesting. 2
Author Bobbi7 Posted October 28, 2015 Author Posted October 28, 2015 So, if a girl was really hot and she was a waitress making 10 bucks an hour, would they date her? I'm talking about playboy playmate looks here. 1
kilgore Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 So, if a girl was really hot and she was a waitress making 10 bucks an hour, would they date her? I'm talking about playboy playmate looks here. I am not sure I agree with you. When I was single education always mattered to me. Maybe not a deal breaker but very important. Or even if not educated I at least wanted her to be as smart as me if not smarter
CosmicGate7 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 So, if a girl was really hot and she was a waitress making 10 bucks an hour, would they date her? I'm talking about playboy playmate looks here. absolutely, who would say no to that? I don't care how much money a woman makes or her education. I'm gonna pay for all the dates anyways but this is assuming she's a good person of decent character right? I don't date trash no matter how hot she is 1
kilgore Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 absolutely, who would say no to that? I don't care how much money a woman makes or her education. I'm gonna pay for all the dates anyways but this is assuming she's a good person of decent character right? I don't date trash no matter how hot she is This post made me a little sad 2
xXMarlboro_ManXx Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 College degrees are a dime a dozen, why would anyone care if you might get one ? Having one or not is not really a big factor to me a more important factor would be if she has her life in order. 1
CosmicGate7 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 This post made me a little sad why? I'm 26, most women my age make like 30K a year. I don't really care
kilgore Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 why? I'm 26, most women my age make like 30K a year. I don't really care Where did the salary info come from? Why does that matter?
CosmicGate7 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Where did the salary info come from? Why does that matter? she said 10 bucks an hour, that's about 21K a year. What's the difference between 21 and 30K? I'm okay with my potential wife being a housemaker. I do very well now and I'm only going to make more and more money as I get older Now I would prefer for my wife to have a more serious job and be educated because I would prefer to be mentally stimulated but there's people who are not college educated who are still plenty intelligent. 1
SammySammy Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 That's simply not true. All of the women I've had serious relationships with (except my high school girlfriend) have at least a Master's degree. All of them. You've got to find somebody who is compatible with you and not worry about the rest. Guys that don't like you, don't want you or who are not compatible with you shouldn't matter. 2
scorpiogirl Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Did you consider that maybe your personality was off-putting? 6
basil67 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 A couple of things. If you said that you were thinking of getting a degree in psychology to become a psychiatrist, he'd probably think that you'd never make it through college. If you don't know the difference between the two qualifications I have great concerns for you. Though I'm going to assume you made a typo here and didn't actually say it to a guy. That being said, why do you think they'd be impressed by you talking about what you're interested in doing? Most are impressed by what people have done or are actually doing. Smart people figure out dates by who they are now - they don't go by potential. 4
AndOrchid Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Gosh, I disagree, OP. I always tell my dates how my job is just to help me pay for cosmetic surgery to possibly get on a reality show. I figure they would be impressed but apparently guys don't care about looks and success. I could have told them I'm a supermodel and they still wouldn't be blown away. What's that about? 3
mattelipstick Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I remember going out on a few dates, on OLD. The guy would ask me what I did for a living, told them it was just a job that pays the bills and want to go back to school. I told them that I was interested in a getting a psychology degree to possibly become a psychiatrist. I figured they would be impressed, apparently, nothing went beyond the first date, probably because they weren't attracted/into me, and what did they do??? They went back on OLD, updated their profile pic and profile. Geez....I could have told them that I had a Harvard degree and they still wouldn't be blown away. Looks like they prefer women that work the pole at the strip clubs-the women that all men want: big tits and nice ass, right? See, when this happens, I prefer to just sit back and look pretty, don't care about carrying on a conversation, because in the end its all about looks... People in general would be infinitely more impressed by a Harvard degree than someone telling them what they were thinking of possibly doing in the future (the disconnect between psychology and psychiatry aside).
joseb Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I remember going out on a few dates, on OLD. The guy would ask me what I did for a living, told them it was just a job that pays the bills and want to go back to school. I told them that I was interested in a getting a psychology degree to possibly become a psychiatrist. I figured they would be impressed, apparently, nothing went beyond the first date, probably because they weren't attracted/into me, and what did they do??? They went back on OLD, updated their profile pic and profile. Geez....I could have told them that I had a Harvard degree and they still wouldn't be blown away. Looks like they prefer women that work the pole at the strip clubs-the women that all men want: big tits and nice ass, right? See, when this happens, I prefer to just sit back and look pretty, don't care about carrying on a conversation, because in the end its all about looks... I really don't see how you can possibly extrapolate that from a couple of examples. Are you saying a guy should like you just because you are interested in studying for a degree? Hey, on the flip side maybe they don't like you because you don't have a degree. Personally, I don't really care much what qualifications someone has, but I do care if they are smart, intelligent, have values I can relate to. There are a 100 reasons you might not have clicked. It sounds like you a picking one for some reason and are ranting about it. Makes little sense. 1
oregon0011 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 Nobody cares about something you MIGHT do. Secondly , it is just a psychology degree. Most girls at some point say they want a psychology degree If you do become a psychiatrist, nobody really wants to date a girl who will be in school for the next 10 years or so. Just thinking of your debt is a turn off 1
Erised Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 1. You're talking about a potential degree, not a current degree. 2. The man is looking for a partner, not hiring you. Educational criteria should mean less than your personal characteristics: intellect, kindness, humor, and yes looks as it relates to interpersonal attraction. 3. You sound very bitter. There's no way that doesn't come through. You can see it with some of the unsuccessful men here too; That is not attractive in either gender. I've never had trouble attracting men in my life. I'm nothing special from a looks perspective. Men are attracted to me, but if I posted my photo here I doubt a single person would be blown away. Past the youngest ages, most men don't consider looks first. They consider what it will be like to be in a relationship with you. 2
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