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I'm emotional right now. So this message (I quit my job so I want to at least say goodbye or something) won't sound the same to him or others. Let me know what you think.

 

Yes, I know I shouldn't send it. Maybe I won't. Maybe I will. I just need opinions on how this message comes off.

 

First of all, I didn’t mean to be combative when I asked about the FB thing. I didn’t mean to make you out to be a creep or stalker. If anybody’s going to stalk me, might as well be an ex. I was just curious.

 

My best friend and I had this talk. He made me realize that you’ve risked more for me than anyone ever has and it was selfish of me to assume, even though I wasn’t aware I was doing it, that you would carry the weight of our relationship alone. He said that although my intentions were to be your partner, what happened was that I took even your efforts for granted and squandered the gifts you gave me. I didn’t listen to your advice because my ego got in the way. And that’s why you left. I felt that the only way you could treat me like an equal or respect me was if I did things without your advice. Although that doesn’t justify your bigger faults, it meant I became too much of a burden on you.

 

I’ve known since the day I hugged you from behind in the elevator at Eton that I may not be able to catch up. I remember you asking me why I looked so sad. I wanted to be able to add value to your life or bring something to the table, but I didn’t know how or what. You asked me if I wanted to live in the city and I did. After that, I searched for jobs near the area and found one at Wells Fargo. The night after Densha, the night I found out you were moving back in with your ex, I was set for an interview that week. I never went because I didn’t see the point -- I was going back to my old town.

 

I wish you had shouted at me the night you walked out the door. I would have wanted you to say “get a job because you’re becoming a drag” and that would have shaken me and that would have been exactly what I needed that time.

 

You told me once you wanted to exit my life knowing you made a positive difference. And you did. Never have I met anyone who’s made me realize I need to make better choices in life as much as you did. That I need to face parts of me that I was always afraid of seeing. You were the best thing that’s ever happened to me in a long time and because of my mistakes I lost you.

 

Please don’t give up on me just yet. I’ll bring that girl back.

Edited by purpledooze
Posted

Yep.

 

Your last line screams, "I am going to change I am to be the person you want me to be."

 

It all sounds drama-filled and unnecessary. Best to just move on.

Posted
Yep.

 

Your last line screams, "I am going to change I am to be the person you want me to be."

 

It all sounds drama-filled and unnecessary. Best to just move on.

 

yeah..... what she said. :) I second that advice.

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