heather03 Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 I'm starting to see my ex again and getting feelings for him again, but i feel so held back because of my family. They are really against him when we broke up (he decided to study abroad without really telling/involving me) and i would tell them whenever i was upset which was a huge mistake because now they really dislike him. When we started talking again my dad said he would never allow my ex in the house again because he disrespected me and my mom was also mad, but I think they over exaggerate it a little bit. Every time i go out with him i have to tell my parents im with other friends and i might go to a bar with him and some friends tomorrow night and stay over so i told my parents i might stay with my girl friend. I hate lying to them so much but at the same time i felt so depressed just staying at home and thinking about him because my parents wanted me to. Im not even sure if we will get back together, so is it ok that i continue to lie to them? I feel like it would make all of our lives much easier and less dramatic if i just lied to them, even though i feel bad about it. If I did tell them, they would definitely judge me and maybe not let me go out, or just tell me I should be doing other work than hanging out with him and giving me a really hard time for still seeing him. We're both 21 if that makes any difference..
mightycpa Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 When you lie, you give up your freedom. Far better to just tell them the truth, and explain yourself. I'm sure they'll probably listen, offer some resistance, and you can explain why maybe it wasn't as bad as they make it out to be. They might even offer you a useful thought on the matter. You might want to get them used to the idea that not only will you encounter disappointment in your life, but also that you can bounce back from it.
Author heather03 Posted October 28, 2015 Author Posted October 28, 2015 When you lie, you give up your freedom. Far better to just tell them the truth, and explain yourself. I'm sure they'll probably listen, offer some resistance, and you can explain why maybe it wasn't as bad as they make it out to be. They might even offer you a useful thought on the matter. You might want to get them used to the idea that not only will you encounter disappointment in your life, but also that you can bounce back from it. I know...I just feel like they spent so much time telling me that its not right to see him and get back together with him and that I should move on, and now I'm just going right back to him. I feel like its easier just to say I'm going out with friends, but at the same time I feel so guilty for lying to them.
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2015 Posted October 28, 2015 When the truth comes out your parents will be waaaaayyyy more pissed that you lied then that you got back together with him. Come clean now.
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