Curiousmim Posted October 27, 2015 Posted October 27, 2015 Ok so I hung out with this guy many times cause I was somewhat interested in his close friend (that s how we met). Every time I hung out with original guy, me and the guy I m dating now ended up clicking and he kept asking me to hang out. I finally went on one date with him. Immediately after he text me and made it very clear that he likes me. Also, held my hand on the date and said stuff about how were dating. However, he hardly texts after that. I texted him and he said he d like to hang out again. He knows it s hard for me cause I have kids. I basically said I d let him know. I asked him once, and our plans got messed up. Anyways he just doesn t text me a lot, and I m wondering if this means he isn t as interested as I think he is, or maybe he doesn t want to seem clingy? I m used to guys texting every day which he definitely doesn t. He acts like he likes me a lot while we re together. Btw, we haven t done anything sexual..not sure if that s relevant.
Snakechammah Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 Hmm... this is a good topic. Based on my own experience, it is superbly confusing!!! Guy A: Told the entire world he has a crush on me. Got my number and texted me 30 times a day (I always respond). Went out for 4 dates. In the end, he said he wasn't over his ex and couldn't 'commit' but still wanted to date. We never slept together. For a few months, he continuously texted me 10 times a day asking random stuff and basic "how are you?" even after we've stopped dating. Summary: Despite the barrage of texts, I don't think he likes me that much. Guy B: Met online. Doesn't text much. Doesn't seem to be able to hold a text conversation at all. From his texts, I deduced he was uninterested. But in person, extremely chatty and seemingly interested. He will only text to set up dates. And one measly text the next day. Gone out for 4 dates. We haven't slept together. He's got a stellar career and always travelling for business so that may explain his lack of texts. Summary: Because he's a lot older than Guy A, I am assuming texting is not his thing. Let's see if his lack of texts is a true indicator of his (lack of) interest? Guy C: Met at work. I have been chasing this dude (in my mind) for the past 10 months. He asked for my number but didn't call for a month! When he finally did, he said he had a girlfriend back then. Now that he's single again, we've gone out 3 times. Only texts when setting up a date. He usually doesn't respond to my texts (or work emails). But in person, extremely affectionate and has verbally confessed his interest. Very confusing. Again, we haven't slept together. Summary: I'm not even sure about this one! His texting is almost NON-EXISTENT! But in person, during dates, he shows so much promise. He even cooked for me - first guy to ever do that. Therefore, I am completely clueless about the co-relation of texting frequency to the degree of interest. If you were to compare Guy A who texted like there is no tomorrow, eventually he wasn't that interested. I believe he dived right in because he wanted to get into my pants, and when that failed, his interest waned. Still, he's a text addict who kept texting 10 times a day even after I refused his sexual advances. For the non-texters, when you think they're not into you (by not texting), suddenly, they do something so wonderful that delude you to think maybe they really do like you after all... despite the phone not beeping. Please update us too, with your current dating/texting experiment lol.
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