I'm Dreading Trying Online Dating

October 29, 2015

do you pluck your eyebrows? the shape is near perfect. maybe that's why guys think you're gay? no offense. it's just guys usually have more wild brows.

Yes I get them plucked

I have very thick eyebrows naturally with a slight unibrow. I have to get that **** threaded or it looks like two giant caterpillars on my face

October 29, 2015

When it comes to meeting girls through my friend, I absolutely cannot ask them out without getting fairly obvious signs. Getting rejected and automatically being labeled a creeper can be terribly awkward when I'm the bosses best friend. It can put him in a very awkward position and I won't do that no matter what the potential benefit is to me. In my case, I get no signs at all.

Oh sheesh, so u never even asked them out. No wonder.

Just be a man and asked the girls out already. You may be missing sign that they are Interested or there may not be signs but it still doesn't mean they aren't interested. U might be pleasantly surprised if you make the first move.

Also you won't automatically be labeled as a creeper if you are rejected, why would you think that??!

October 29, 2015

what I am saying is do an experiment,,,,

sounds crazy but try it,,,

take a long drive, go out of town, visit where women are you will never see again.

Act like an SOB, see how they react.

Go home that night.

Calculate results.

You might be surprised. lol

October 29, 2015

Oh sheesh, so u never even asked them out. No wonder.
Just be a man and asked the girls out already. You may be missing sign that they are Interested or there may not be signs but it still doesn't mean they aren't interested. U might be pleasantly surprised if you make the first move.

Also you won't automatically be labeled as a creeper if you are rejected, why would you think that??!

Did you read the part I said where it would put my friend in a very awkward/bad position? I wouldn't do that if I had a chance to date a movie star

Women label all guys hitting on them that they don't like as disgusting creepers.

October 29, 2015

Act like an SOB, see how they react.

Go home that night.

Calculate results.

You might be surprised. lol

I don't have the capacity to be a SOB without being provoked

October 29, 2015

I've gone out with my roommate a few times and seen how easily he gets girls. He's very similar to me in terms of personality and hobbies and what not. He's 5'5 though while I'm 5'10...still the women are naturally drawn to him and they want nothing to do with me.

I asked you a bnch of questions and you ignored them.

What it's saying to me you can't do a normal conversation. You may behave as if everyone rose is beneath you. You talk as if you have an agenda and do really listen to them talk to you or you behave as if you have a stick up your....

Combine that with plucking your eyebrows, you may come of as possibly being gay. Women can tell effeminate things.

October 29, 2015

Did you read the part I said where it would put my friend in a very awkward/bad position? I wouldn't do that if I had a chance to date a movie star

Women label all guys hitting on them that they don't like as disgusting creepers.

Ok I'm assuming your friend introduced these girls to you with the potential for you to date them. So why would it be awkward for your friend if you asked them out? I'm not saying ask every single girl out, but just a couple of the 15 that your introduced you?

Ok you have a very negative view of women that is unnecessary and I can see how you will put women off with that attitude.

I guarantee you if you ask a girl out nicely " would you like to grab a coffee sometime" girls will not consider you creepy unless you are already creepy in other ways.

October 29, 2015

Ok I'm assuming your friend introduced these girls to you with the potential for you to date them. So why would it be awkward for your friend if you asked them out? I'm not saying ask every single girl out, but just a couple of the 15 that your introduced you?

Asking them out without any indication that they may like me would put him in a horrible position, especially if I get turned down in a very ugly way

Ok you have a very negative view of women that is unnecessary and I can see how you will put women off with that attitude.
I guarantee you if you ask a girl out nicely " would you like to grab a coffee sometime" girls will not consider you creepy unless you are already creepy in other ways.

come on, you gotta be honest - most women do label anybody they don't like as creepers automatically.

October 29, 2015

What it's saying to me you can't do a normal conversation. You may behave as if everyone rose is beneath you. You talk as if you have an agenda and do really listen to them talk to you or you behave as if you have a stick up your....

I'm getting bombarded with questions, I apologize I'm trying to answer everybody's comments

Combine that with plucking your eyebrows, you may come of as possibly being gay. Women can tell effeminate things.

I have to pluck the eyebrows. Damn middle eastern heritage

I would rather pluck them and look a little too groomed than have 2 giant caterpillars above my eyes. My eyebrows are horrible naturally

October 29, 2015

Asking them out without any indication that they may like me would put him in a horrible position, especially if I get turned down in a very ugly way

come on, you gotta be honest - most women do label anybody they don't like as creepers automatically.

i don't get why it would put him in a horrible position or why she would rejected you in an ugly way. I imagine your friends reaction would be like oh shame, better luck next time.

The women who will label anyone they don't like as creepers can only be described as immature and not very nice

I'm curious, what is a sign that a girl likes you? That will allow you to feel confident enough to ask her out?

October 29, 2015

Doing pictures or editing a profile is absolutely no use if you have had no success when interacting with them like when your buddies introduced you to dome 15-20 women.

Most women aren't that quick to dismiss you. They give you a chance in talking to you. If you don't ask them out or for their number you don't know if they are interested in you. The eom rn don't cone with flashing signs that say interested in dating you...

October 29, 2015

i don't get why it would put him in a horrible position or why she would rejected you in an ugly way. I imagine your friends reaction would be like oh shame, better luck next time.

The women who will label anyone they don't like as creepers can only be described as immature and not very nice

I'm curious, what is a sign that a girl likes you? That will allow you to feel confident enough to ask her out?

lots of indicators of interest - she pays unusual interest to what you're saying, she laughs at all your jokes, she touches you in the shoulder or arm, she gets closer to you in terms of physical distance. Overall, it's just an energy and aura that I can tell instantly. Basically all the things that never happen to me with women who are even moderately decent looking.

I've been out with friends and I could easily tell when a woman was interested in one of my buddies - most of the time he would get his number and they would have sex/go out on a date. I'm actually very good at reading people

and no, it would be not be a "reaction would be like oh shame, better luck next time", it would be a "why the **** are you hitting on my employees without any provocation"? kind of thing where it makes him look very bad.

October 29, 2015

Doing pictures or editing a profile is absolutely no use if you have had no success when interacting with them like when your buddies introduced you to dome 15-20 women.

Most women aren't that quick to dismiss you. They give you a chance in talking to you. If you don't ask them out or for their number you don't know if they are interested in you. The eom rn don't cone with flashing signs that say interested in dating you...

Well going out on a date with a woman who saw my pictures and profile and who is attracted to me is a way different ballgame than these salon girls who want nothing to do with me. Going into a date knowing that the girl in question is attracted to me makes the process very easy for me. I just gotta be myself and she will fall in love with me.

October 29, 2015

My weight loss is coming along great

What setting would you guys recommend I should have my professional take pics at?

October 29, 2015

My weight loss is coming along great

What setting would you guys recommend I should have my professional take pics at?

Haha I love how you just ignore what people said about taking professional pictures as profile pics. If I saw your profile and you had those pics, it makes yome across as not genuine and trying hard. I would rather go out with someone who was comfortable in their own skin and didnt need to show off all the time.

But I suppose thats okay since the women you are trying to attract are probably as vain as you.

October 29, 2015

Haha I love how you just ignore what people said about taking professional pictures as profile pics. If I saw your profile and you had those pics, it makes yome across as not genuine and trying hard. I would rather go out with someone who was comfortable in their own skin and didnt need to show off all the time.

But I suppose thats okay since the women you are trying to attract are probably as vain as you.

Maybe it's just a regional thing, but I don't personally understand all the hate over the idea of professional photos. Here in L.A., a lot of people have professional photos—not just actors or models, but writers, directors, guys with start-ups, executives, etc. It's just something that's very normal here.

Hell, I have some. A couple of years ago, a friend of mine was trying to get her headshot business off the ground and offered to do a session with me for free. I agreed, and though I didn't really "need" them, I chose to use one on my dating profile. I mean, why not? It's a photo where I look good. It's not a ultra-touched up glamour shot, it's just a tasteful, modest, full-body shot in an interesting setting, where I both look and feel good. It's literally me "at my best," and I put that on my profile, along with all the other non-professional photos I chose to use. I never got any blow-back from dudes thinking I was vain or shallow because I chose to use a professional photo. I think that notion was dispelled quite quickly when they read my actual profile.

I dunno. I think if it bolster's OP's confidence, a tasteful professional shot, along with several candids, wouldn't be a problem.

October 29, 2015

Maybe it's just a regional thing, but I don't personally understand all the hate over the idea of professional photos. Here in L.A., a lot of people have professional photos—not just actors or models, but writers, directors, guys with start-ups, executives, etc. It's just something that's very normal here.

Hell, I have some. A couple of years ago, a friend of mine was trying to get her headshot business off the ground and offered to do a session with me for free. I agreed, and though I didn't really "need" them, I chose to use one on my dating profile. I mean, why not? It's a photo where I look good. It's not a ultra-touched up glamour shot, it's just a tasteful, modest, full-body shot in an interesting setting, where I both look and feel good. It's literally me "at my best," and I put that on my profile, along with all the other non-professional photos I chose to use. I never got any blow-back from dudes thinking I was vain or shallow because I chose to use a professional photo. I think that notion was dispelled quite quickly when they read my actual profile.

I dunno. I think if it bolster's OP's confidence, a tasteful professional shot, along with several candids, wouldn't be a problem.

Perhaps its a regional thing.. I live in Canada and most people i know would dismiss such profile pics as self-important and not genuine. Also, it would make your profile look fake..ive seen fake profiles that stole professional pics of someone else and used it as their own profile pics.

However, if you are someone who works in the entertainment industry or an executive, then it would be ok to a certain degree. (OP, what do you do for work?)

October 29, 2015

Perhaps its a regional thing.. I live in Canada and most people i know would dismiss such profile pics as self-important and not genuine. Also, it would make your profile look fake..ive seen fake profiles that stole professional pics of someone else and used it as their own profile pics.

However, if you are someone who works in the entertainment industry or an executive, then it would be ok to a certain degree. (OP, what do you do for work?)

I get what you're saying. I just think, that a professional photo, in addition to candid photos (so you can tell it's the same person) probably couldn't hurt. I don't know what OP does (other than sales), but he's outside the Chicago metro area. There are probably plenty of young professionals with headshots floating around town.

October 29, 2015

Perhaps its a regional thing.. I live in Canada and most people i know would dismiss such profile pics as self-important and not genuine. Also, it would make your profile look fake..ive seen fake profiles that stole professional pics of someone else and used it as their own profile pics.

However, if you are someone who works in the entertainment industry or an executive, then it would be ok to a certain degree. (OP, what do you do for work?)

This would not be a super touched up glam shot. Just a nice picture done by a pro who can teach me how to pose and smile and take a picture at the best distance from the camera

Generally speaking, I look 100 times better in real life than pics. My goal is to close that disparity

October 29, 2015

I get what you're saying. I just think, that a professional photo, in addition to candid photos (so you can tell it's the same person) probably couldn't hurt. I don't know what OP does (other than sales), but he's outside the Chicago metro area. There are probably plenty of young professionals with headshots floating around town.

Agree with this, one headshot is fine, but you need a few candids as well. I have seen profiles where they just have five variations of the same headshot and I'm not interested. I also don't like profiles where the photos are all clearly selfies. You want to give a sense of who you are as well as what you look like, which means including shots of you on vacation and participating in activities of interest.

October 29, 2015

Agree with this, one headshot is fine, but you need a few candids as well. I have seen profiles where they just have five variations of the same headshot and I'm not interested. I also don't like profiles where the photos are all clearly selfies. You want to give a sense of who you are as well as what you look like, which means including shots of you on vacation and participating in activities of interest.

I think even having a professional take the pics of me with a phone camera can be good because he will know all the tricks of the trade to make me look my best

October 29, 2015

I still think OP should just use Tinder.

-Has the shallowest people.

-The woman express interest by swiping right (Since OP doesn't like to make a move until they express interest.)

-Not much of a profile required.

-Fast and efficient.

October 29, 2015

I still think OP should just use Tinder.

-Has the shallowest people.
-The woman express interest by swiping right (Since OP doesn't like to make a move until they express interest.)
-Not much of a profile required.
-Fast and efficient.

I don't have a Facebook account

And Tinder only works for male model dudes

October 29, 2015

And Tinder only works for male model dudes

LOL, no it doesn't.

Stop shooting down our ideas or knock it til you try it.

Do you know how many non-model types get into relationships everyday? You know the difference between them and you? They try. You are not trying. You are sitting on the sidelines thinking of all the ways you'll fail if you try.

I hate to say it, but no one gets anywhere that way.

October 29, 2015

LOL, no it doesn't.

I'm sorry, it works if you're a male model or a good looking/successful/classy man who is okay dating an overweight mom of 9 kids who works at Dennys.

Online dating is incredibly one sided overall but tinder is the worst.

Edited October 29, 2015 by CosmicGate7

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